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What do I do when the clients stop tapping even though they have had substantial success with EFT?
This insightful article by best selling author Cheryl Richardson was prompted by a recent case on our email list entitled Using EFT for Parkinson's Disease In that case, an 83 year old man had astonishing improvement with a few rounds of EFT but then "gave up" and discontinued tapping.
This puzzling phenomenon happens in other instances and is particularly prevalent with degenerative diseases (MS, arthritis, cancer, etc.). There can be many reasons for this "lack of compliance," of course, and most of them are tappable. Cheryl, who has a great deal of experience in these matters, offers several possibilities and some useful questions that might bring some of these "hidden issues" to the surface.
Dear Gary,
I read with interest your newsletter today re: the 83 year-old man with Parkinson's disease who decided to stop EFT treatments even after achieving amazing results. I'd like to offer a few ideas as to why this might happen.
As a coach who has worked with thousands of people over the last twenty years, I've had the privilege of seeing all kinds of human behavior issues (as have you I'm sure). While the gentleman referred to may simply be ready to complete his life (and unable to articulate that on a conscious level), there may be something else going on.
For years the medical community has focused on treating disease. The goal has been primarily to treat the symptoms and not the source of the problem. Whenever we deal with health care issues it's important to remember that we need to take into account a patient or client's whole life. For example, this particular patient may be in an abusive marriage and his shame prevents him from sharing this with his practitioner. Instead, it's just easier to quit and eventually die. Or, maybe his daily care is so substandard that he's unwilling to continue dealing with the stress and anxiety of daily life. I've dealt with this issue before, when an elderly patient is abused by a care giver and is afraid to tell someone, so they just give up and die.
Now, I'm not suggesting that this is what's going on with this particular patient, I'm just using it as an example of something to think about. I've lectured to doctors and health care providers about how our lifestyle choices affect health and longevity and I am constantly reminding them that they cannot send a physically healthy patient back into an unhealthy life and expect them to remain in good shape. For example, if you treat a man with heart disease without checking out the quality of his life beyond physical health, diet, etc., you won't know that he's in debt up to his eyeballs and terrified of how he'll support his family. His fear will breed anxiety (which fuels unhealthy behavior -- too much eating or drinking, isolation, etc) and pretty soon he's right back at the doctor's office where he started (or worse!).
EFT is such a powerful tool for healing. Today's newsletter is such a great reminder to check out all areas of a client's life when providing treatment. It might be helpful to ask:
Is there any other area, situation, or circumstance in your life that might prevent you from continuing with this treatment?
Is there anything else I need to know to help you make this treatment stick?
Is there anything going on that you feel too embarrassed to speak about that may affect your success?
I use this last question only after I have established a strong sense of trust with a client and, I tell him or her that they need not share the specific example if they don't feel comfortable yet. It's helpful to know that something else might be going on. Of course, with EFT you can obviously tap on the issue without needing to know what it is -- that's the beauty of EFT . . .
Love, Cheryl
