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EFT resolves limiting childhood beliefs
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Hi Everyone,
Kate Beeders says, "Parents often teach their young children beliefs to protect them. However, those beliefs often get carried over into adult lives where they are no longer helpful." In this article, she helps her client get beyond the limiting belief of "Don't talk to strangers."
Hugs, Gary
Parents often teach their young children beliefs to protect them. However, those beliefs often get carried over into adult lives where they are no longer helpful.
Recently, I worked with a woman, Laura, in her 30's who had a hard time feeling comfortable in a group of strangers. Laura is a business woman and often had to meet with new clients. This issue was affecting her both personally and professionally. Her level of intensity was 7 on a scale of 0 to 10. Initially, we tapped on the issue of shyness, which helped remove some of her discomfort - in essence, we cut off some of the branches of the tree.
As we tapped and talked, we discovered her core issue, which was "don't talk to strangers." She had been taught that by her parents when she was very young and didn't realize that those words were still affecting her today. This new focus also brought her level of intensity back up.
Now, our real tapping work began as we had to tap on her reversal as she subconsciously believed that "don't talk to strangers" was keeping her safe, as well as that her parents had taught her that. We tapped:
Even though I'm holding on to the belief I shouldn't talk to strangers and I don't want to let it go...
Even though I believe I shouldn't talk to strangers...
Even though I need to listen to my parents...
In one session, she overcame the issue of this belief keeping her safe, as well as that of disobeying her parents. After we tested and were confident that this issue had a level of intensity of zero, we then tapped for positive beliefs and behaviors that Laura wanted. For example, as an adult she would be able to decide who it was safe to talk to.
I heard from Laura two days after our session. She mentioned that she was shopping the previous day and had gotten to the store 10 minutes before it had opened. Typically, she would have waited in her car until the store had opened and then gone into shop. Instead, Laura said, it was a beautiful day, so, she decided to wait outside until the store opened.
Interestingly enough, several other people decided to wait outside, as well. Before she knew it, she was engaging in conversation with one of them, and within a few minutes, what started as a conversation with one person, had turned into a lively group conversation of 8 people that she had initiated.
Later that day, she had commented to herself how that had been an unusual experience for her - and then it dawned on her that her behavior and experience had changed due to EFT.
Laura has contacted me several other times since our initial session to relay stories of success that demonstrated how she has become much more comfortable in social settings. This has improved her job performance and made her happier in her personal life.
EFT is so powerful at quickly helping people change core and childhood beliefs quickly and painlessly. I find that my clients get the most successful and lasting results when we're able to deal with the reversal and any core issues that may come up.
Gary, thanks so much for generously sharing this technique with us!
Kate
