Introduction
Video...
Emotional Freedom TechniquesWhere emotional relief brings physical health
Self help method often works where nothing else will No Drugs Involved ~ High Success Rate
Karen Bell writes a poem about a traumatic experience and then taps on the poem
Note: This article assumes you have a working knowledge of EFT. Newcomers can still learn from it but are advised to get our Free EFT Get Started Package or our Affordable DVDs for a more complete understanding. For more, read our EFT Info and Disclaimer Document
Hi Everyone,
Karen Bell from the UK gained many benefits from writing a poem about her past traumatic experiences while simultaneously tapping on them. This is a clever idea that is certain to bring out important core issues. It should prove helpful for many.
Hugs, Gary
Dear Gary,
I have tapped for about an hour a day on myself since learning EFT two years ago. I have had many issues to deal with including parental abandonment as a baby, severe physical and emotional abuse by my grandmother who brought me up, many limiting beliefs and a life threatening illness. I have gotten further in resolving these issues in this time than I did with 15 years of conventional therapy. It is still a work in progress and I am very grateful for your newsletter which has given me much needed encouragement and ideas.
I would now like to share a technique with the readers that I find has really helped me. When I first began to tap, I could easily access, and then release, very deep and strong emotions. However, as my life has become more peaceful, I have had to dig a bit deeper for these emotions.
One way I have done this is through the use of poetry. I try to write a poem about a traumatic experience and tap at the same time. By simultaneously creating the poem and using a range of EFT techniques (movie technique, choices, tell the story etc), I have been able to access many more memories and deeper emotions. I think the act of trying to think of a poetic way of expressing yourself somehow produces a deep kind of acceptance, because you are also looking for the beauty in the statement. Here is an example of one of these poems:
(‘Mum and Dad’ are what I call the grandparents who brought me up). It starts off referring to a conversation I had with them when I was in my early 20s.
Was it my fault?
Was I a good child? I asked my Mum and Dad. You were an angel, replied my Mum Why did you hit me then?
We never laid a finger on you…
You hit us every day
What on earth are you talking about…
I just want to know why you hit us
Don’t you start…
I’m not starting, I just want to know
Don’t you come back here making trouble… Mum now shouting and screaming Dad banging his head on the wall. Look what you’ve done to him… The next I knew Dad had shingles. He never really got over it. Was it my fault?
Dad didn’t protect us from her
Though sometimes he said ‘lay off’
The violence was nearly every day
Bruises on our foreheads
Black, blue, egg-cup shaped
Marks of
The stiletto heeled shoe
The brush
The belt
The wooden spoon
Huge great bumps on our heads
Will I ever really get over it?
Was it my fault?
She said put butter on the bruises
She said cover them with your hair
She said tell people you banged your head on the cupboard. We didn’t have to tell them anything No one asked. No teacher asked. No neighbour asked. No relative asked. No body asked. Why can’t I just get over it?
Was it my fault?
I must have been twelve when I said to her I said, ‘you can kill children hitting them round the head’
I knew it was wrong
I could see it was wrong
I could feel it was wrong
I could say it was wrong
Why couldn’t anyone else?
Until now I never really got over it
Was it my fault?
I choose to accept myself
I choose to protect myself
I know it was wrong
I know I am strong
I know I am good
I know it is over
I know I am getting over it
I know it was not my fault
I don’t know if this poem would win any literary prizes but the process of its creation helped me clear some remaining issues. I continue to tap every day when I can. I am now an EFT Practitioner based in Bristol, England and I am particularly interested in working on issues of child abuse, abandonment, self-esteem and serious health issues. Thanks again for your great newsletter and for making EFT so accessible.
Best wishes,
Karen Bell
