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Clearing an old issue helps jazz singer improvise
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Hi Everyone,
Georgia Froehling from Germany uses EFT to create new freedom with her singing. The principles she uses are valid for any type of performance improvement, including sports, business and the bedroom.
Hugs, Gary
Dear Gary,
I recently participated in EFT workshop with Maya de Vries in Cologne. I had already watched the EFT Course but wanted to see it done live and in person. We were told to pick an event from our past which still bothers us today to work on during the seminar. As I felt really good and seemingly had no acute problem, I rummaged my brain and found an event from 18 years ago which still raised a little anger.
At age 20, I sang in a semi-professional funk band and also dated the drummer of said band. After a year or so, I felt the mood in the band changing, but I did not do anything about it or confront the band members. Finally, I came to a rehearsal to find that they had hired a new singer and that my boyfriend was now obviously dating her instead of me. Additionally, I did not even freak out then, but talked to them quite civilized and left without saying a word.
During the seminar, I agreed to be in a demonstration for the group because that topic seemed so harmless to me. Well, Maya taught me better. That is what she made me tap on (these words are not exact because she did it rather intuitively and had me tell the story instead of doing mechanical EFT):
She found issues of shame, anger and sadness. As anger was the strongest emotion, we started with that:
Even though I am still so angry…
Even though they treated me so badly…
Even though I felt what was going on and did nothing about it...
Even though they played me for a sucker (sorry for the language, but this is what I felt and said)…
Even though I was so powerless…
Even though I was so helpless…
There was a bodily sensation in my stomach. While tapping on, it went up to my heart and then to my throat. Then, it was gone and the sadness issue came up:
Even though I am so sad...
Even though they violated the intimacy we had in the band…
Even though I am so sad because my boyfriend cheated on me, too…
Even though I am so insulted… How could they do this to me?
There was another issue around shame, but we did not tap on it because the issue seemed closed.
The next day, I went to do recordings with my current jazz band, and there I found the issue was not closed at all. There was another aspect we had not yet found. Our guitar player who has studied music (which I have not) told me to sing a song differently because he did not like my interpretation. This really hit me in the stomach, I was close to tears and could not sing anymore. I performed a bit, quite weakly, and went out in the middle of the recording. Maya gave me the hint to search for a missing aspect and work on it again, which I did.
The aspect had been there 18 years ago: Someone who had studied music seemingly had more right to say which interpretation was good and which was not. Further, I was not allowed to write songs in that band because the important work was done by the guys who "knew what they were doing." My job was singing, writing lyrics no one was interested in and preparing coffee. So I tapped:
Even though I am not allowed to express my opinion about interpretations...
Even though I am not qualified to interpret a song…
Even though I am too stupid to write songs…
Even though no one is interested in what I am doing…
Maya also found that I had used up all my energy to keep this sadness down for half my life. She had me draw this energy from the past into the present and to reclaim it. I really appreciated this part, because I hardly managed an average day without falling asleep at 9 pm on the sofa.
Two days later, we resumed the recording. The guitar player did the same thing again. He told me that my interpretation of "My baby just cares for me" was boring and that I should do some improvisation. Aaarghh! Plus, they had recorded the song with an extra stanza for which I had no lyrics. Aaarghh again! I am a control freak and need to know what to sing well before. Not this time...
I recorded the song with four extra stanzas instead of three and did an improvisation over the whole thing (If Nina Simone watches me from above: Excuse me, dear!). The band was really impressed, and so was I.
Thanks to Maya for pulling this skeleton out of the closet, and thanks to EFT that now, at age 38, I am able to do improvisations!
Greetings from Germany,
Georgia Froehling
