Christmas comes but once a year. It is
a time of great anticipation, excitement, joy and good times for many. For
some, it is not. There are high expectations, hope and determination that
this year, things will be different. Maybe this year everything will work
out as planned and everyone will have a wonderful holiday season. Then
something happens.
Aunt Matilda once again, offends
everyone. Uncle George does a half gainer into the punch bowl, the dog
destroys the tree, or the overloaded circuit supplying power to all those
lights finally decides to protect the humans by expiring.
Now, all the effort and work, the
shopping, the wrapping presents, the baking, cooking the turkey, the
planning was supposed to culminate in a wonderful Christmas. Well, before
EFT, when the glitches happened, and they always seemed to, the resulting
negativity tended to generalize out, and contaminated part, or all, of the
festive season. Another Christmas ruined, or not so good.
This year can be different. Here's
what you can do to make this Christmas be the joyous occasion you hope and
plan for. Turn your attention inwards, and notice your reaction to an event
or circumstance. Put what you are feeling into words. Once you have put into
words what you are feeling, you are clear on your response, decide if you
want to feel that way. If you would prefer "X" never happened, if you would
prefer not to feel that way, then now is the time to change it.
Start with tapping the P.R. point, and
as you continue to tap, describe to yourself what happened, or how you feel,
and place "Even though" in front of it. When you have repeated it three
times, tapping the P.R. point the whole time, then tap the rest of the
points using a reminder phrase as you do so.
Here's an example.
While tapping the P.R. point say,
"Even though Uncle George is drunk
once again, and has now dumped the punch bowl's contents all over Aunt Mary,
none the less, I deeply and completely accept myself."
Repeat three times, with emphasis.
Then tap the rest of the points, using a reminder phrase, such as "Uncle
George."
Alternatively, you may be more aware
of your anger towards Uncle George. Tapping the P.R. point you would say,
"Even though I'm angry at Uncle
George, I deeply and completely accept myself."
Repeat three times, with emphasis.
Then tap the rest of the points using the reminder phrase, "This anger."
This protocol will work equally well
for feelings of disappointment, sadness, loneliness, frustration, etc. The
idea is to pay attention to the glitche(s), acknowledge it, frame it into
words, and tap it. You will accomplish several things.
You will feel better sooner, thus
allowing yourself to enjoy the holidays more.
You will prevent the incident from
generalizing out, and thus stop your memory remembering "just another bad
Christmas."
By doing so, maybe, just maybe, you
will give yourself a Happy Christmas.
And, wouldn't it be a precious gift to
give a loved one, the gift of EFT...
My wish for all of you is to have a
truly happy Christmas, and may 2004 be the best year ever!
Fond Regards,
Alex Lees
EFT Contributing Editor
Dr. Alexander R. Lees & Associates
Inc.
lees@dralexlees.com
www.DrAlexLees.com