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Building a Thriving Practice--Part XV
Growing Betty's Business - Using our business principles in practice
In this well written article by Betty Moore-Hafter, we see many of the EFT principles in Building a Thriving Practice unfold as a true success story. Read it carefully and draw your own parallels to Betty's case. There is much to learn here. Read it carefully and draw your own parallels to Betty's case. There is much to learn here. Note how she uses these principles to go from "I have a small private practice in Burlington, VT." to "I have a thriving national and international practice based in Burlington, VT." Also, I make some augmenting comments within her article.
Hugs, Gary
Dear Gary,
It's been almost exactly three years since I attended the EFT Specialty Series 1 training you did in Flagstaff, AZ. It's amazing how much my life has changed and how the issue I began facing then has truly been transformed. I'd like to share my story with you.
A very strange thing happened to me in Flagstaff. We were working as a group on blocks to our business success with EFT. You had microphones set up around the room and people who wanted to share had to step up to a mic. Well, I had something to share, but I couldn't seem to get you to call on me.
I waited in line at one, then at another, even at a third, but always just before it was my turn, you'd call on people standing at a different mic. What was so ironic was that this was precisely the issue I wanted to share, namely, that "I couldn't put myself forward" !!
I later found out that, due to the light in your eyes, the mike at which I was standing was entirely invisible to you on stage. My childhood issue is invisibility and there was always shame for calling attention to oneself or putting oneself before others.
GC COMMENT: Note the important principle in effect here that we radiate our inner thoughts. Our consistent thoughts become our reality. If we have inner thoughts of shame and invisibility, for example, those thoughts radiate from us and show up in our words, gestures, choices, etc. Others pick up on this subtle radiation and magically act in according with our "unstated wishes." Fortunately, this radiation occurs with positive inner thoughts as well.
BETTY CONTINUES: I finally called your attention to my plight but said, "don't worry, go ahead with the others first." And I never got a turn. My issues were being re-enacted! It's so funny now, but at the time, it hit me like a ton of bricks and I was in a lot of emotional intensity. I went back to my room and tapped for an hour, and that helped -- I was definitely tuned in to the issue. I also believe that there were immense Borrowed Benefits that we received from that training. GC COMMENT: This whole training, including Betty's aforementioned "participation" is contained within our video set, EFT Specialty Series 1.
Something did shift during that workshop and although I never was able to "put myself forward" at that Flagstaff event, I did indeed put myself forward very quickly when you offered to the participants a special small-group training with you at your home in The Sea Ranch that following May. I think I was the second person to call you!
Once there, I dared to put forward some writing I'd done on how to present EFT as well as another EFT resource I had. You liked these and said, "So, Betty... how would you like to make these available to others? I'll announce them on my e-mail list and then, when people write to you, you can put them on your e-mail group."
GC COMMENT: I remember this well. Betty was now radiating a combination of competence and sincerity rather than invisibility. She was still a bit timid but the more important radiation was there. Although I didn't say to my self, "Gee, what nice radiation", I obviously picked up on her radiation and responded accordingly. That's how radiation tends to work.
BETTY CONTINUES: "But I don't have an e-mail group," I said. Your reply? "You will when those people write to you!" Thus was born the Rising Sun EFT Group, a forum for sharing EFT stories and ideas which I maintain, and it now has over 800 members around the world!
GC COMMENT: Once she had an email group, her writings automatically classified her as an author. Thus she became an AUTHORity, one of the important principles contained in the Building a Thriving Practice web site series.
BETTY CONTINUES: Some of the business-building ideas that you gave us at the Flagstaff 2001 event and in that small-group training included 1) "becoming an authority" by authoring articles and books; 2) "becoming visible through the media" by appearing on public access TV; 3) "creating a newsletter that speaks for you as a person," including humor and inspiration, not primarily promotional but offering people something of value; 4) "networking and visibility" through whatever local organizations there are, hospital health and wellness, adult education, etc. -- even if we offer groups for free or low cost, we're still gaining the visibility; 5) "writing up your own EFT successes," perhaps in a little booklet to give to people; and 6) "corporate contacts," presenting ourselves as resources for businesses, letting them know what we could do for them. At the time, these ideas struck terror to my soul -- who was I to do any of this? But the seeds were planted and, thanks to EFT, the old blocks were collapsing.
GC COMMENT: This is critically important. Many business oriented workshops stress various "how-to's" and ignore the all important emotional resistances in the way of success. I speak of these "comedies" written on our mental walls at length in my 6 hour presentation on our video series, EFT Specialty Series 1. EFT, of course, can aim at these comedies and thus bring down those barriers. When the barriers are gone, the "how-to's" are much easier to implement.
BETTY CONTINUES: It took some time but now, three years later, I can say that I'm on my way to achieving all of the above! Some of those are just in the beginning stages; others are pretty well developed. There are two final pieces to my story.
Early in 2003, I completed my EFT manual called "Tapping Your Amazing Potential with EFT" -- my first published work! I sent it to you so you could take a look. I wanted to be sure you were comfortable with how I was using EFT. When you didn't respond very quickly, I got cold feet -- "Oh no", I thought, "Gary doesn't like it!"
By the time we talked, I was clearly triggered, and you just laughed (you thought my manual was fine). This led to your asking me to do a demonstration session with you at the subsequent Borrowing Benefits training held two years later at Flagstaff.
So there I was, dealing with my issue in front of the whole group -- on camera! What a change from the first Flagstaff 2 years earlier -- I don't think I could have been more visible this time!!! Moreover, I had both my manual and my professionally-recorded EFT/hypnosis CD's to sell at the conference. Talk about "putting myself forward"! And the amazing session with you collapsed yet another piece of my inner blockages to success and visibility.
Since the Borrowing Benefits workshop, things have been moving even more quickly. Not immediately, though. There was even a lull in the fall and I was wondering, why is my practice still so small? In December 2003, I realized something. You always say, "your consistent thoughts become your reality."
Here's something else you said: "To go to a new level, you have to think it first. And you must dream it -- create it in your mind -- and this is the pull that will draw you into it."
It suddenly dawned on me that I had always told people, "I have a small private practice in Burlington, VT." That was indeed how I thought of myself. Whoa! Could I be keeping myself small by this self-image and self-talk?
GC COMMENT: Of course! How we see ourselves has heavy influence on how our lives unfold. These inner visions of ourselves, depending on their quality, become either our walls or our doorways into the Palace of Possibilities
BETTY CONTINUES: I made a firm decision then and there to never call myself "small" again. I decided to say to myself every day, "I have a thriving national and international practice based in Burlington, VT." And it was true enough, sometimes I had done phone sessions for people in different parts of the country, and sometimes my manual and CDs would sell to people around the world. I started dreaming about what that would be like -- for it all to become "a thriving national and international practice." Sales, phone sessions, eventually travel..."
GC COMMENT: This, of course, is a classic affirmation. Most people fail with affirmations because they don't understand that the true affirmation is NOT the statement itself. Rather, it is the "tail-enders", or "yes, buts..." that show up after the affirmation. When these tail-enders are properly identified and collapsed with EFT, the original affirmation has no competition and thus manifests much more easily. In Betty's case, EFT collapsed her tail-enders thereby allowing her affirmation to manifest. This is critically important to understand.
BETTY CONTINUES: Well, you won't believe what happened. Almost immediately, a flow of business began that I'm still amazed at. I "put myself forward" by sharing information on my CDs with my e-mail group and more than doubled the sales in a couple of days. Requests for phone sessions rolled in until I've had several a week, from around the country. The phone started ringing and now I'm booked about a month in advance! I'm offering classes (weight loss, smoking cessation and an EFT class) with the local hospital wellness program and they got so many calls, we've added extra sections. My monthly income has probably doubled in these last three months.
I'm really astonished! I do think that the ability to make that change in my self-perception grew out of all the tapping I've done for my own issues since Flagstaff 2001. And the groundwork has taken time and effort -- writing the manual, creating the CDs, developing the classes to teach. I had to develop the quality offerings. But the hard work pays off so much more when you're free of that fear of putting yourself forward. I'm so grateful for the opportunities that have come my way. And, thanks to EFT, I've been able to "take them and run with them" rather than holding back out of fear and the "writing on my walls."
So, that's my story. You can use it in any way you like if it will be useful to others.
Love, Betty
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