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Janine:  Physical problems with emotional roots--"The joke in my shoulder blade."

This transcript is of a full 45 minute telephone session with Janine. The motivated student will want to spend some time with this transcript because, among other things, it illustrates...

• How emotional causes can be major contributors to physical ailments even when there is structural damage.
• Creative methods for digging up core issues.
• Ways to test your work to find remaining aspects.
• Advanced language for The Setup phrases.

Here it is....

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Gary: So you have a back problem. How long ago did it start?

Janine: . Well, I ... I really am not sure how long. I just remember in 1980 when I took this ... when I took the Touch For Health training course and we did emotion reaction ... a reactive muscle technique ... that it went away for about two months. And it's always just sort of a real low grade kind of always there thing around my right scapula. And it shifts around... And sometimes it bothers me during the day and sometimes it doesn't at all.

Gary: Well, I need to interrupt you for a second. I'm not sure I understood your answer as to when it first started hurting. I heard 1980 and then I think I heard something about . . .

Janine: Well, probably somewhere in the late 70's, but I don't really know when it started.

Gary: Well, what was going on in the late 70's of an emotional nature for you?

Janine: . Memory is a serious problem here. What was going on in the late 70's? Where was I? Late 70's. Let's see. I got married in '78 and divorced in somewhere around '82. So it's possible, it's possible it could have something to do with my marriage and the breakup and all that , but that was a mutual ... it was mutual, it was very friendly and it wasn't anything traumatic. I mean it could even go back as far as when I was a kid... we used to have a trampoline and I used to do flips off of it onto the ground and you know, falling out of trees and things like that. In the late 60's I was in a serious car accident or around '70 when I was a passenger in a Triumph on a highway and we were the fourth car in a six-car crackup and I went through the windshield. .

Gary: Did you hurt your back in that?

Janine: . Actually, it was just a minor whiplash. I've had four car accidents. The third one is the one that really....the one that was really severe although...the actual accident was nothing.  It was very little, but it caused enough ... there was enough instability there already so that it caused an incredible amount of pain for a long time.

Gary: Where?

Janine: C-6, C-7, lower at the base of the neck.

Gary: Okay, that's in the back. But I'm missing something, you mentioned a 60's car crash?

Janine: That one was in the mid-eighties actually.

Gary: Oh, that car crash was mid-eighties. Oh, okay. All right.

Janine: And then there's another one where there was a severe whiplash in-between.

Gary: Where does your back hurt now?

Janine: It's mostly around the right shoulder blade.

Gary: Oh that's right, you told me that.

Janine: Sometimes it travels. Ninety percent of it's on the right side. Sometimes it travels so that it's mid-back or . . .

Gary: But that's no where near your cervical spine. Is it a referred pain?

Janine: I don't know. I do massage, I have a wonderful chiropractor, I've used acupuncture, I've used homeopathic herbs. Everything I do helps for a while and then...it lasts maybe two weeks tops.

Note from GC:  Starting with the next question, I begin looking for an emotional cause to the pain.  I am aware that there are mechanical or structural causes but I'm looking for emotional issues that may be generating tension in the system and thus aggravating the pain.

Gary: If you were to live life over again, what person or event would you rather skip?

Janine: Humm. That's an interesting question. What person or event would I rather skip?

Gary: It probably already occurred to you. I don't want you to filter it, you know.

Janine: Okay, I guess the first thing I thought of was my last boyfriend who I asked to leave last September, but that's pretty recent.

Gary: Okay, why did you ask him to leave?

Janine: Humm. He was very critical, very unaccepting of me.

Note from GC:  I suspect, at this point, that the boy friend isn't the problem.  He merely brings criticism and unacceptance onto the stage which, in turn, triggers some of Janine's uncomfortable past experiences.  I need to get past the boy friend and explore the past roots.

Gary: Like who?

Janine: We ended up not communicating, not talking.

Gary: Like who in your life was he critical?

Janine: Excuse me.

Gary: Like who in your life was he critical?

Janine: Like who was he critical? Who previously in my life?

Gary: Yeah. Was your father critical, was your mother critical?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: Okay, what's the most critical event you can remember from your parents.

Janine: Okay, I guess the most critical would be my becoming pregnant at age sixteen. That would be my mother. My dad was pretty accepting, but my mother definitely blew her lid.

Gary: Okay.

Janine: Became outraged, angry and upset.

Gary: When you called me originally was there pain in your right shoulder blade?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: On a scale of zero to ten, what was it when you called me. I didn't ask you for that, but what was it?

Janine: It's the same as it was when we ... I would say right now maybe a six.

Gary: Okay.

Janine: Yesterday, it was probably up to about a ten. Jean is a wonderful massage therapist and she worked on me last night and that helped a lot. It helped quite a bit. But I didn't sleep well last night and that exacerbates it and then the more I don't sleep, the worse my back hurts and then the worse my back hurts the more I don't sleep, like a vicious circle.

Gary: When you were pregnant at age sixteen, what did your mother say to you?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Okay. As you say those word, do you get an emotional intensity?

Janine: Uh-huh, yeah.

Gary: To what number? Do I hear tears?

Janine: Yeah, I think so. (She Cries.)

Gary: All right. Tap the karate chop spot.

Janine: Okay, uh-huh.

Gary: And say, "Even though my mother said how could you do this to me . . ."

Janine: Even though my mother said how could you do this to me.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: Even though my mother . . . do you call her mother or mom or what?

Janine: Mom.

Gary: Even though mom said how could you do this to me.

Janine: Even though mom said how could you do this to me, I completely and deeply accept myself.

Gary: Well, we want to go farther than that. Start over again.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: Even though mom said how could you do this to me.

Janine: Even though mom said how could you do this to me.

Gary: I recognize.

Janine: I recognize.

Gary: That mom was just coming.

Janine: That mom was just coming.

Gary: From her own beliefs.

Janine: From her own beliefs.

Gary: It was my own activities.

Janine: It was my own activities.

Gary: That violated her beliefs.

Janine: That violated her beliefs.

Gary: In a way that triggered her own stuff.

Janine: In a way that triggered her own stuff.

Gary: And she chose to lay it on me.

Janine: And she chose to lay it on me.

Gary: As a way to protect herself.

Janine: As a way to protect herself.

Gary: How accurate does that sound, by the way?

Janine: That sounds very accurate.

Gary: All right. Tap the eyebrow point and say, "How could you do this to me?"

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Side of the eye, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the eye, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the nose, same thing.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the arm.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: All right. What else did she say?

Janine:Sigh.

Gary: Did you hear your sigh just then?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: What else did she say?

Janine: . I can't believe you did this. I can't believe you were so careless. How could you ... the thing that keeps coming back to me is how could you do this to me.

Gary: Tap the karate chop spot.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: Even though my mother.

Janine: Even though my mother.

Gary: No, even though mom.

Janine: Even though mom.

Gary: Thought I did something to her.

Janine: Thought I did something to her.

Gary: Which if you think about it.

Janine: Which if you think about it.

Gary: Is ludicrous.

Janine: Is ludicrous.

Gary: I didn't do anything to her.

Janine: I didn't do anything to her.

Gary: My getting pregnant.

Janine: My getting pregnant.

Gary: Was nothing I did to her.

Janine: Was nothing I did to her.

Gary: She perceived it being done to her.

Janine: She perceived it being done to her.

Gary: It impinged upon her self-image.

Janine: Her perception of herself as a mother.

Gary: There may have even been some religious connotations to it.

Janine: There may have even been some religious connotations to it.

Gary: Is that true?

Janine: Well, possibly.

Gary: But for whatever the reason.

Janine: But for whatever the reason.

Gary: My normal activities as a sixteen-year-old with raging hormones.

Janine: Laughs. My normal activities as a sixteen year old with raging hormones.

Gary: Somehow or other.

Janine: Somehow or other.

Gary: Violated my mother's beliefs.

Janine: Violated my mother's beliefs.

Gary: It may also.

Janine: It may also.

Gary: Have brought up her own sense of guilt.

Janine: Have brought up her own sense of guilt.

Gary: Or fear.

Janine: Or fear.

Gary: Or other no-no's in her own upbringing.

Janine: Or other no-no's in her own upbringing.

Gary: But that's hers to deal with.

Janine: But that's hers to deal with.

Gary: And the only way she knew to deal with it.

Janine: And the only way she knew to deal with it.

Gary: Was to lay it on me.

Janine: Was to lay it on me.

Gary: Okay, tap the eyebrow point and say, "How could you do this to me?"

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Side of the eye, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the eye, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the nose, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the arm.

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: How's your right shoulder blade by the way?

Janine: It's better.

Gary: What number would you give it?

Janine: 4.

Gary: A four.

Janine: 3-1/2 to a 4.

Gary: Okay. When is the last time it was that low? Does it get that way every day once in a while or what?

Janine: It comes and goes in waves. Last night after Jean worked on me it was pretty much gone. And then, I was so frustrated because I couldn't go to sleep because it wasn't hurting. Usually, my not being able to sleep is directly correlated to my back hurting. And I've been taking Tylenol with codeine for about five years now to deal with that and sometimes I can do without it and sometimes, usually, lately in the last year, I have hardly ever been able to do without it.

Gary: Okay. Is it still a 3-1/2 or 4 right now?

Janine: No, actually I'd say it's going down to about a 2.

Gary: Okay. Say this for me, okay?

Janine: Uh-hum.

Gary: And I want you to tell me how true it sounds.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: Mom doesn't love me.

Janine: Mom doesn't love me.

Gary: How true does that sound?

Janine: No, I know she does.

Gary: Okay. Say this for me. "I didn't do anything to mom."

Janine: I didn't do anything to mom.

Gary: How true does that sound?

Janine: Oh, I got a little flush.

Gary: Okay, what was the self-talk?

Janine: When I said that?

Gary: Uh-huh.

Janine: I just ... I just recognized sort of a flush go across my upper chest.

Gary: Well, that's not self-talk.

Janine: Right. I know. I didn't ... self-talk was just "oh."

Gary: Was just oh?

Janine: Yeah.

Gary: Well, take a guess as to what was behind the "oh."

Janine: That's an interesting point that I hadn't thought of.

Gary: Okay.

Janine: Sort of like "hummm."

Gary: How's your right shoulder blade?

Janine: Huh. I think it's a little ... about a two. Maybe a little bit less.

Gary: Still about a two. Okay. All right. Tap the karate chop spot.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: Even though I've been carrying all this guilt around.

Janine: Even though I've been carrying all this guilt around.

Gary: About a simple and normal act of a sixteen-year-old.

Janine: About a simple and normal act of a sixteen-year-old.

Gary: That just didn't go right.

Janine: That just didn't go right.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: I recognize that my guilt.

Janine: I recognize that my guilt.

Gary: Is an inside job.

Janine: Is an inside job.

Gary: And I've been beating myself up for it for how many decades.

Janine: . And I've been beating myself up for it for . . .

Gary: How many decades.

Janine: How many decades ... four decades.

Gary: I also recognize.

Janine: I also recognize.

Gary: This little society of ours.

Janine: This little society of ours.

Gary: Gives labels to horny sixteen-year-olds.

Janine: Laughs. Gives labels to horny sixteen-year-olds.

Gary: Labels like slut.

Janine: Labels like slut.

Gary: And whore.

Janine: And whore.

Gary: And other such unseemly names.

Janine: And other such unseemly names.

Gary: And whether I like to admit it or not.

Janine: And whether I like to admit it or not.

Gary: Some of that stuff still resides in me.

Janine: Some of that stuff still resides in me.

Gary: It's sort of societal conditioning.

Janine: It's sort of societal conditioning.

Gary: It's a joke.

Janine: It's a joke.

Gary: It's a label people want to put on somebody else.

Janine: It's a label people want to put on somebody else.

Gary: For people who do...

Janine: For people who do...

Gary: What they would love to do themselves.

Janine: What they would love to do themselves.

Gary: They may not want to get pregnant.

Janine: Laughs. They may not want to get pregnant.

Gary: But they're certainly willing to go through the motions.

Janine: Laughs. They're certainly willing to go through the motions.

Gary: And I'm tired of society telling me that sex is a dirty thing.

Janine: And I'm tired of society telling me that sex is a dirty thing.

Gary: When they're all out doing it themselves anyway.

Janine: . When they're all out doing it themselves anyway.

Gary: And criticizing others.

Janine: . And criticizing others.

Gary: At the same time.

Janine: . At the same time.

Gary: The whole joke.

Janine: The whole joke.

Gary: Is in my right shoulder blade.

Janine: Is in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say, "How could you do this to me?"

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Side of the eye, how could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: Under the eye, joke in my right shoulder blade.

Janine: Laughs. Joke in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Under the nose, joke in my right shoulder blade.

Janine: Joke in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Chin point. Joke in my right shoulder blade.

Janine: Joke in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Collarbone point, how could you do this to me?

Janine: Under the arm, how could you do this to me?

Gary: All right now, how's your shoulder blade? Still a two?

Janine: Uh-uh.

Gary: What is it?

Janine: Maybe a half.

Gary: It's a half, it's almost zero?

Janine: Uh-huh.

Gary: Okay. Say this for me and say it with emphasis, as though you were mom.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: Say, "How could you do this to me?"

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: All right. What emotional intensity do you get about that? Any? Do you get some?

Janine: Just a little bit of a quiver in my chest, but it was hardly anything.

Gary: All right. Tap the collarbone point. Excuse me, the karate chop spot.

Janine: Okay.

Gary: And say, "Even though I have ... even though I still have some of this quiver in my chest."

Janine: Even though I still have some of this quiver in my chest.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: Even though I still have some of this quiver in my chest.

Janine: Even though I still have some of this quiver in my chest.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: Even though I still have some of this quiver in my mother.

Janine: Even though I still have some of this quiver in my mother.

Gary: And this joke in my shoulder blade.

Janine: And this joke in my shoulder blade.

Gary: I forgive myself for carrying all this around.

Janine: I forgive myself for carrying all this around.

Gary: And I certainly forgive mom.

Janine: And I certainly forgive mom.

Gary: She was just doing the best she could.

Janine: She was just doing the best she could.

Gary: Given her own background.

Janine: Given her own background.

Gary: And her own beliefs.

Janine: And her own beliefs.

Gary: And her own experiences.

Janine: And her own experiences.

Gary: And the writing on her walls.

Janine: And the writing on her walls.

Gary: Do you know what that means by the way?

Janine: Uh-huh, uh-huh.

Gary: The Palace of Possibility stuff.

Janine: Yes. Yes.

Gary: Okay. And I recognize.

Janine: And I recognize.

Gary: That this whole thing.

Janine: That this whole thing.

Gary: May well be.

Janine: May well be.

Gary: My own response to the writing on my walls.

Janine: My own response to the writing on my walls.

Gary: On which my mother wrote.

Janine: On which my mother wrote.

Gary: Having first consulted the writing on her walls.

Janine: Laughs. Having first consulted the writing on her walls.

Gary: Which was placed on her walls.

Janine: Which was placed on her walls.

Gary: By her parents.

Janine: By her parents.

Gary: Who consulted the writing on their walls.

Janine: Who consulted the writing on their walls.

Gary: And so on it goes.

Janine: And so on it goes.

Gary: So I have hand me down writing.

Janine: So I have hand me down writing.

Gary: It's a joke in my shoulder blade.

Janine: It's a joke in my shoulder blade.

Gary: Eyebrow point. On the eyebrow point say, "Remaining quiver in my chest."

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Side of the eye, remaining quiver in my chest.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Under the eye.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Under the nose.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: Under your arm.

Janine: Remaining quiver in my chest.

Gary: How's that shoulder blade now?

Janine: Oh, I just got a little pop.

Gary: A little what?

Janine: Oh, a little pop in my vertebrae.

Gary: A little pop?

Janine: A little pop means that something loosened up, which is good. Sigh

Gary: Oh, okay.

Janine: Movement's always good. Sigh.

Gary: You just gave me a sigh or two, you know.

Janine: Yes. Umm, it's pretty much, still about a half.

Gary: It's still about a half. Is there a quiver in your chest?

Janine: No. I feel quite calm.

Gary: Okay. Take a really deep breath and hold it and then just let it out.

Janine: Takes deep breath and lets it out.

Gary: Is it still a half?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: All right. Tap the eyebrow point and say, "Remaining half."

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Side of the eye, remaining half.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Under the eye, remaining half.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Under the nose, remaining half.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Chin point, remaining half.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Collarbone point, remaining half.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: And under the arm.

Janine: Remaining half.

Gary: Now, tap the karate chop spot and say, "Even though there's still some of this How could you do this to me?' issue."

Janine: Even though there's till some of this "How could you do this to me?" issue.

Gary: That I somehow want to keep around.

Janine: That I somehow want to keep around.

Gary: And thus make sure it's in my shoulder.

Janine: And thus make sure it's in my shoulder.

Gary: As evidence of something.

Janine: As evidence of something.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: And my whole system.

Janine: And my whole system.

Gary: For somehow needing this fiction.

Janine: For somehow needing this fiction.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say, "Remaining fiction."

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Side of the eye, remaining fiction.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Under the eye, remaining fiction.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Under the nose, remaining fiction.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: And under the arm.

Janine: Remaining fiction.

Gary: Okay, is it still a half?

Janine: No, it's less. Maybe it was a little more than a half before because there's still a little something ... oh, what do I call it ... not even a pain. It's almost like a residual soreness, more than a pain. There's a little residual soreness right between my shoulder blades and my spine.

Gary: Okay. Say this for me. I was a horny little sixteen-year-old.

Janine: Laughs. I was a horny little sixteen-year-old.

Gary: I hear a laugh with that.

Janine:Laughs.

Gary: So that doesn't give you any charge?

Janine: Not really, because I really wasn't a horny little sixteen year old. It was more a case of not wanting to lose my boyfriend so I thought this is what I had to do.

Gary: Oh, okay.

Janine: He was very insistent and I finally gave in. It was really more that.

Note from GC:  Bingo!  She just gave me a big clue regarding another possible emotional issue that contributes to her physical pain.  As you will see, it takes us into useful territory.

Gary: Yeah. Okay. Tap the karate chop spot.

Janine: Um-hum.

Gary: Even though I need to do what other people want me to do.

Janine: Ah, now you're hitting something. Even though I need to do what other people want me to do.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: And I even accept other people.

Janine: And I even accept other people.

Gary: For having needs they think I need to fulfill.

Janine: For having needs they think I need to fulfill.

Gary: If I could fulfill everybody else's needs.

Janine: If I could fulfill everybody else's needs.

Gary: I would be the richest person on the planet.

Janine: Laughs. I would be the richest person on the planet.

Gary: Everybody would need me.

Janine: Laughs. Everybody would need me.

Gary: I'd have more jobs than I could handle.

Janine: Laughs. I'd have more jobs than I could handle.

Gary: All I need to do is take care of everybody else's needs.

Janine: Laughs. All I need to do is take care of everybody else's needs.

Gary: A little mirth there, okay.

Janine: Uh-huh. It's excellent.

Gary: Side of the ... eyebrow point ... taking care of everybody else's needs.

Janine: Taking care of everybody else's needs.

Gary: Side of the eye, I'm the most important person in the world.

Janine: I'm the most important person in the world.

Gary: Under the eye, I'm the most important person in the world--so why ain't I rich?

Janine: Laughs.  I'm the most important person in the world--so why ain't I rich?

Gary: Under the nose, taking care of everybody else's needs.

Janine: Taking care of everybody else's needs.

Gary: Chin point, taking care of everybody else's needs.

Janine: Taking care of everybody else's needs.

Gary: Collarbone point, everybody else's need is in my shoulder blade.

Janine: Everybody else's needs is in my shoulder blade.

Gary: Under the arm, everybody else's need is in my shoulder blade.

Janine: Everybody else's need is in my shoulder blade.

Gary: How is it now?

Janine: That was brilliant because it's gone.

Gary: Well, it's gone for now and maybe it's gone forever, I don't know. We never know these things. It could be that we simply resolved the emotional issues that are lodged in there. What we did was we dug up a couple of them and addressed them. Then, having done nothing else, we seem to have gotten the six down to a zero. Am I right?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: Okay. However, we'll just have to wait and see how time unfolds. It could well be that that's like a weak spot in your body and so other unresolved emotional issues will tend to lodge in this place. And it's not that we weren't successful . . .

Janine: No, I understand.

Gary: Because we did something with the emotional issues involved. Say this for me. How could you do this to me?

Janine: How could you do this to me?

Gary: What emotional intensity do you have there?

Janine: I think I might have felt something in my solar plexus, like a little warmth.

Gary: Well, is that like good or bad or what?

Janine: Well, I was trying to decide if it was because I just ate. Now, that would be bad because it feels like there is just this little zzzitt of energy in my solar plexus.

Gary: Okay, what number would you have given it ... or did you give it?

Janine: Humm. Three, four maybe.

Gary: Three or four. Is it still there?

Janine: No, it came and went. It just sort of went zzzitt and then...

Note from GC:  Here I choose to test our previous work by confronting her with direct, guilt ridden language that uses her mother's "How could you do this to me?" language.

Gary: I thought we were done. How could you do this to me?

Janine: . Ohhhh, that makes me feel guilty.

Gary: Oh, did that get to you?

Janine: Yeah.

Gary: Okay.

Janine: Even though I knew you weren't serious.

Gary: Yeah, I know. That's why I was testing you. I was testing you to see if we have more to do.

Janine: Uh-huh.

Gary: How's your shoulder right now? Shoulder blade.

Janine: It still feels pretty good.

Gary: Okay, tap the karate chop spot. Even though I still have some guilt.

Janine: Even though I still have some guilt.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: Even though I am carrying around the writing on my mother's walls.

Janine: Even though I am carrying around the writing on my mother's walls.

Gary: I'm sitting there like a good little girl.

Janine: I'm sitting there like a good little girl.

Gary: Solving everybody else's problems.

Janine: Solving everybody else's problems.

Gary: And reading the writing my mother put there.

Janine: And reading the writing my mother put there.

Gary: Because if mom wrote it.

Janine: Because if mom wrote it.

Gary: It's got to be true.

Janine: It's got to be true.

Gary: My mother knows everything.

Janine: My mother knows everything.

Gary: She's never made a mistake ever.

Janine: Laughs. She's never made a mistake ever.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say "remaining problem."

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Side of the eye, remaining problem.

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Under the eye, remaining problem.

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Under the nose.

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: Remaining problem.

Gary: Under the arm.

Janine: Remaining problem. Sigh.

Gary: I heard a little sigh.

Janine: Something is changing in my upper back, I can feel it.

Gary: Is it getting worse?

Janine: No, it's actually like a coolness. I can feel sort of a coolness happening across my back.

Gary: As in evidence of healing.

Janine: Yes. Uh-huh. They're positive changes, it's like a sense of maybe some of the tension releasing, melting a little bit. Some of the heat releasing, cooling down.

Gary: Okay. Let's start over again. Karate chop point. Even though I still have some of this mother tension in my back.

Janine: Even though I have some of this mother tension in my back.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: It's mother's problem.

Janine: It's mother's problem.

Gary: It's only my problem because I think it is.

Janine: It's only my problem because I think it is.

Gary: And I indeed thought it was.

Janine: And I indeed thought it was.

Gary: Because it was showing up in my back.

Janine: Because it was showing up in my back.

Gary: Lots of stuff is showing up in my back.

Janine: Lots of stuff is showing up in my back.

Gary: Maybe many unresolved emotions show up in my right shoulder blade.

Janine: Maybe many unresolved emotions show up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say, "Everything's showing up in my right shoulder blade."

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Side of the eye, same thing.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Under the eye.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Under the nose.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade.

Gary: And under the arm.

Janine: Everything is showing up in my right shoulder blade. Sigh.

Gary: I did hear another sigh, did I not?

Janine: Um-hum.

Gary: Did I?

Janine: Yes.

Gary: Okay. If you were to close your eyes for a moment and ... open your eyes for a second. I don't want you to do anything yet. I'm going to give you some instructions. In a moment, not now but in a moment, I'll ask you to close your eyes and I want you to vividly imagine this scene with your mother where she said this. I want you to ... don't do it yet ... I would like to have you exaggerate the sights and the sounds. I want you to literally try to get yourself as upset as you possibly can. If you do happen to get intense by the way, stop right away, but I'm also interested in your self-talk if you do get that. So go ahead.

Janine: I can feel myself cringing.

Gary: Okay.

Janine: And I'm saying, "Mom, I'm sorry, I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you."

Gary: Okay. Tap the karate chop spot. Say, "Even though I'm sorry mom, I didn't mean to hurt you."

Janine: Even though I'm sorry mom, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: And I recognize.

Janine: And I recognize.

Gary: The only way my mom can be hurt.

Janine: The only way my mom can be hurt.

Gary: Would be for her to do it to herself.

Janine: Would be for her to do it to herself.

Gary: I just simply did what I did.

Janine: I just simply did what I did.

Gary: And it was her inside job.

Janine: And it was her inside job.

Gary: Nonetheless.

Janine: Nonetheless.

Gary: I feel guilty about it.

Janine: I feel guilty about it.

Gary: I think I really hurt her.

Janine: I think I really hurt her.

Gary: She took it on that way.

Janine: She took it on that way.

Gary: And managed to make sure I had blame for it.

Janine: And managed to make sure I had blame for it

Gary: Also because she would like to get rid of her own negative feelings about herself.

Janine: Possibly because she would like to get rid of her own negative feelings about herself.

Gary: Just in case she had any.

Janine: Just in case she had any.

Gary: And I deeply and completely accept myself.

Janine: And I deeply and completely accept myself.

Gary: And I completely forgive my mother.

Janine: And I completely forgive my mother.

Gary: She was just doing the best she could.

Janine: She was just doing the best she could.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you."

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Side of the eye, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Under the eye, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Under the nose.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Chin point.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Collarbone point.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: And under the arm.

Janine: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Okay.

Janine:Sigh.

Gary: Another sigh.

Janine: Zero.

Gary: What's a zero?

Janine: My back.

Gary: Well, it was a zero before. Any other changes going on?

Janine: It's still melting. It gives a whole sense of balance between the right and left side changing.

Gary: Oh, what does that mean?

Janine: Well, because it's the right side that's always so tight and even though the last time, when someone works on me, they find stuff on the left side and it's always the right side that's painful and it always feels like it's pulling, tugging. And I'm just feeling more of a ... like a flow of energy between the right and left side right now. More balanced. My shoulders feel more balanced.

Gary: Yeah.

Janine: They feel - if I were to look in the mirror, they'd feel like they were probably pretty well aligned right now.

Gary: Say this for me and tell me how true it sounds. "I need to be right."

Janine: I need to be right. Yeah.

Gary: What does yeah mean?

Janine: That sounds like something that's inside of me.

Gary: Okay, tap the karate chop spot and say, "Even though I need to be right."

Janine: Even though I need to be right.

Gary: And being this errant sixteen-year-old.

Janine: And being this errant sixteen-year-old.

Gary: Was a violation of that.

Janine: Was a violation of that.

Gary: Mom needed to be right as well.

Janine: Mom needed to be right as well.

Gary: And my actions.

Janine: And my actions.

Gary: Proved her to be wrong.

Janine: Proved her to be wrong.

Gary: I was wrong, she was wrong, everybody was wrong.

Janine: I was wrong, she was wrong, everybody was wrong.

Gary: We all needed to be right.

Janine: We all needed to be right.

Gary: Maybe that's why it's in my RIGHT shoulder blade.

Janine: Maybe that's why it's in my RIGHT shoulder blade.

Gary: Tap the eyebrow point and say, "RIGHT shoulder blade."

Janine: RIGHT shoulder blade.

Gary: Side of the eye and listen to this one now. Carrying all this on my back.

Janine: Carrying all this on my back.

Gary: And needing to be right.

Janine: And needing to be right.

Gary: Under the eye, putting it all on my shoulders.

Janine: Putting it all on my shoulders.

Gary: Or my shoulder blade.

Janine: Or my shoulder blade.

Gary: Or my "being right" shoulder blade.

Janine: Or my "being right" shoulder blade.

Gary: Collarbone point, "being right" shoulder blade.

Janine: "Being right" shoulder blade.

Gary: Under the arm, "being right" shoulder blade. .

Janine: "Being right" shoulder blade. Sigh.

Gary: Okay. Another sigh I hear.

Janine: I'm good at that.

Gary: Say this for me. Say, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry mom, I didn't mean to hurt you."

Janine: I'm sorry mom, I'm sorry mom, I didn't mean to hurt you.

Gary: Any intensity about that?

Janine: It just makes me feel a little sad.

Gary: Oh, put words around sad, would you. I mean, why? What's sad about that?

Janine: That it did hurt her so much. Even though I know I didn't hurt her, my actions caused her pain.

Gary: Your actions triggered her pain is a better way to say it. I don't know that your actions caused her pain.

Janine: You're right, you're right. That was a poor way to state it.

Gary: No, it was stated and it came from your belief system, which means we haven't gotten it all yet, okay.

Janine: Okay, because on a level I do know that that's ... that I don't cause her pain.

Gary: Well, we'll try again. Karate chop spot. Even though I am so powerful.

Janine: Even though I am so powerful.

Gary: I can cause other people to have pain.

Janine: I can cause other people to have pain.

Gary: By my mere actions.

Janine: By my mere actions.

Gary: I don't know why if I could cause them to have pain.

Janine: I don't know why if I could cause them to have pain.

Gary: I couldn't cause them to have joy just as well.

Janine: I couldn't cause them to have joy just as well.

Gary: Eyebrow point. Causing pain.

Janine: Causing pain.

Gary: Side of the eye, so powerful.

Janine: So powerful.

Gary: Under the eye, causing pain.

Janine: Causing pain.

Gary: Under the nose, causing pain.

Janine: Causing pain.

Gary: Chin point, so powerful.

Janine: So powerful.

Gary: Collarbone point, causing pain.

Janine: Causing pain.

Gary: Under the arm, so powerful.

Janine: So powerful.

Gary: Close your eyes again and vividly imagine that scene again and tell me what happens.

Janine: I'm speaking back to her now.

Gary: And saying?

Janine: I'm not doing this to you. It was a mistake I made.

Gary: Okay. How's your shoulder blade?

Janine: It feels all tingly.

Gary: I don't know if that's good or bad.

Janine: Oh, I'm sorry, that's good because it means that the tension's releasing.

Gary: Oh, okay, all right.

Janine: It has a sense of lightness to it right now.

Gary: Well, I think maybe the moral to this story is ... when you first called in, maybe even before we turned this recorder on, I don't remember, you said something about it didn't work on you. You got great results with EFT, but it didn't work on you.

Janine: One particular instance.

Gary: Oh, it's worked on other things.

Janine: Oh, absolutely.

Gary: Okay, all right. In this particular case, sometimes it's worthwhile for somebody else outside of you to start digging in because they can see things you can't see.

Janine: When you're so close, it's hard.

Gary: Yeah, so I pound the table a bit for the art of delivering these procedures because oftentimes if it quote "doesn't work" unquote, it's not because it doesn't work, it's because we haven't gotten to the core issue yet. It's sort of like ... like if you set up a bowling pin, it's pretty easy to knock it down. But if you don't set up the bowling pin, you can roll the ball all day long and nothing will happen, you know what I mean? So it's a  matter of setting up the bowling pin ... my guess is there's more bowling pins in your shoulder, but we don't know that. Maybe we hit it big and you'll have less shoulder pain or maybe not, I don't know.

Janine: I think we've gotten a big ... my sense, my intuitive feeling is that we've gotten a big chunk of it. I also know that my higher self, divinity, whatever, has told me that my back is a barometer for how I'm doing in my being. How I'm doing as far as my personal growth, whether I'm stuffing feelings and being true to myself and honest with myself.

Gary: Sure.

Janine: So that when it's doing well ... I kind of look at that as a gage of if there's something I need to pay attention to that I'm not paying attention to. Umm. And it's very frustrating because sometimes it feels just fine and other times, I'll ... I mean, sometimes I'll feel restless at night, I'm tossing and turning because part of my back is hurting and hip is aching and my legs get restless. And I really make every effort to try and figure out what's going on. I just get at a loss and I know it can be dealt with and I know I don't have to live with this. But some part of me thinks I do.

Gary: Well, I don't know what it is but sometimes there's some payoff someplace for holding it around, you know what I mean. Anger, for example, while it costs us a lot, people tend to want to keep their anger. They want to blame somebody and so there's a value in it, even though it may cause headaches, stomach aches and Lord knows what else.

Janine: That was one of the ... actually, that was one of the reasons that I asked the person that was living with me to leave because he was always angry at everything and I couldn't live with that. I just don't see how anybody can live that way and not end up with some serious illnesses.

Gary: Sure.  Okay, well, that's probably a plateau point for now, I believe.

Janine: Gary, I am very grateful.

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