by Jeni Jones

The client I am referring to is female and as I have said, has had several sexual traumas as a child--one at 18 yr. She has been in therapy with various methods for about 10 yrs. She has experienced healing in terms of integration with dissociated parts of self. I think that because of the previous work she has done with integration that is why the treatments with EFT were successful after two sessions. I say that because when using EFT with less integrated clients, they will regress into a childhood feeling state, usually. Since I am working mostly with dissociative clients, I use other therapeutic skills to complement EFT when this happens.

Back to the Low Libido person - She started by working on her fear of being in another relationship which was actually her fear of being pursued sexually. We tapped on that and the SUD only came down by 2. We then tapped on the trauma with the most charge which was an experience of being sexually assaulted at the age of 18, where the attacker was chasing her. That brought the SUD to 0. Then we checked back on the SUD level of the fear of being in another sexual relationship and there was still some charge - about a 3. There was a feeling of fear of having less sexual drive than her partner and that was actually about fear of feeling body memories of nausea and then of a feeling of being overwhelmed with a final fear of particular smells of several bodily secretions. She finished the session feeling lighter and when she called later that week reported that she was feeling energized with a lot of sexual "kundalini energy" in her everyday activities and was being assertive in her new relationship and having no fear about pursuing it.

One week later (last week) , she called me to come in to work on the fear of phoning her new interest because he hadn't returned her call. She used EFT on her fear of feeling rejected by him. It only took these two rounds to bring her to a peaceful state. She called him, and even though she still hasn't heard back from him, she is happy and confident with herself and is still able to feel her own sexual energy and be comfortable with it, without it being dependent on him. She says she has reclaimed her Kundalini life force energy and is sleeping less, eating less, and is more active and enthusiastic in everything she does!

Jeni Jones