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25 Ways to be a Fantastic Therapist

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Hi Everyone,

EFT Master Jaqui Crooks from the UK provides a useful checklist to help your delivery of EFT.

Hugs, Gary


By Jaqui Crooks, EFT Master

Talking to my students about ways to help themselves to become more effective as therapists, and ways to look after themselves, I realised that there are many things I wish I’d known when I starting working with clients. I’ve created the following list and I hope you find it helpful, My trainees did. 

It all starts with you.

You need to be in a good space yourself or you won’t be able to help your client. I say to trainees, if you’re in the bog yourself, how can you see clearly to guide your client onto dry land? As the plane safety announcements say, “First put on your own oxygen mask, then help others.”

1 Do your own work, your Personal Peace Procedure is vital. As you start work on the earliest issues you can find, more will pop up as you clear. Just add them to the list! Remember life is a process, there will always be things to work on, but as you do, you feel lighter and more resourceful.

2 Create a network of supporters, therapists, fellow EFTers who you can exchange sessions with. It’s always easier to work with someone else on deep issues, they have a different perspective. Working with someone else is not a failure, it’s taking responsibility for your own healing.

3 Do something different. Love what you do but don’t do it all day, everyday. Give yourself breaks, go for coffee with friends, find an absorbing hobby, something exciting may be, or creative. What have you always wished you could do? What’s stopping you? (Tap tap!) Exercise. Sitting with clients or in front of the computer all day is not good for your energy. Get outside into the green, hug a tree, talk to some flowers, you’ll be surprised how good it can make you feel.

4 Humour. Working with clients on serious issues can get very serious, so do something afterwards that makes you laugh. Watch cartoons, roll down a hill like a child, tickle someone. Don’t be afraid to add humour to your sessions, but not until you know you’ve had significant shifts, so that you don’t break rapport. When a client laughs spontaneously you know that something has shifted.

5 Clear any blocks before you work with a client. Clear any doubts about being able to help them. Clear any emotions that you have about them. Clear any need to make it right for them. These are the things that keep you in your own space, rather than with the client.

6 Get connected Remember that the best healing is through you, not by you.

A simple exercise. Stand with your feet shoulder width apart. Breathe in and imagine drawing energy from the earth up through your body and out of the top of your head, into the universe. As you exhale, imagine drawing energy in from the universe through your crown chakra and down through your body and into the earth. You can imagine a colour, or a light, or just the feeling. Imagine the energy polishing your chakras as it passes through them, setting them spinning energetically.

7 Connect to your power. Stand with your left foot in front of your right. As you put your weight onto the left foot, push ahead of you with your hands and breathe out strongly. As you move your weight onto your back foot, pull energy towards you with your hands, breathing in, strongly. Rock backwards and forwards, pushing and pulling the energy, listening to your powerful breath and really feel the power surge through you. Imagine pushing the energy out to fill the room, the town, make sure it reaches your client before they come to you. That way they’ll be comfortable with your energy before they arrive.

8 Clear your space. It’s important for you and your client that you work in a clean space, energetically. There are many ways to clear negative vibrations. You can burn white sage before and after clients, as I do. You can use a space clearing spray, you can use Tibetan bowls, or drums, or you can just clap sharply, all round the room, especially in corners. I think that clients have enough negatives of their own without sitting in someone else’s negative stuff. 

9 Brainstorm. Before your client comes for the first time ask them to write down for you, not just what’s going on for them now and what they’d like instead, but any negative event in their life right back to childhood, places, times, people that have caused them a problem. It gives you a chance to spot patterns and to really tune in to them before they arrive.

10 Rapport Is the most important part of any therapy session. If you have rapport your client will be more open, they’ll feel safer. They’ll forgive you if you get lost, or suggest something that doesn’t work. With rapport a mediocre session can have great results, without it, a great session, can have mediocre results. Take time to establish rapport, it will be worth it, it will allow you to be more creative.

11 Curiosity Have a sense of curiosity about your client and about the session. Don’t go in with set expectations. You’ll just build a strait jacket for your self. Think, “I wonder how this session will go today” and you’ll be open to following the leads, listening to your intuition and listening to your client.

12 Join your client in their world. Match their world then show them something different. People think that everyone sees the world in the way that they do. When you understand what they see, then you know what they don’t see.

13 Possibilities. You can show them other possible ways of looking at the world. You don’t say that they should look at things that way, or that the other possibilities are right, or better, than their view, you just offer them as possibilities. Use the words, possibly, maybe, perhaps, all the indefinite words that allow the client to make up their own mind about what works for them. You’re just expanding their horizons, showing them a larger view.

14 Relax, when you relax, you get yourself out of the way

15 Intuition. When you relax, your intuition can flow. If you preframe and say “If I suddenly get an intuition, I may throw it in, just in case it’s right, is that OK with you?” You’ve got permission to experiment. You can pick up things intuitively, knowing if for any reason they don’t fit, the client knows what you’re doing and it’s OK. It helps you to relax and trust your intuition and means that you don’t break rapport even if your guess doesn’t land.

16 Stuck. If you’re stuck and you don’t know where to go next, sit back, take a deep breath, and ask for help. Ask God, your higher self, your angels, your guides, whatever and whoever you see as being that greater source of intelligence.

17 Ask the client, they have all the answers. Ask confidently enough and with enough indefinite words and they’ll respond. “If you were to guess how to break this aspect into smaller parts, how do think you could you do that?” “If you had to guess what emotional component is keeping that in place, I wonder what it might be.” If you were to know whose voice says that, whose might it be?” “If there was a downside to letting this problem go, what do you guess it might be?

18 The best. Recognise that your clients and you are always doing the best you can, at any time and in any situation. And so were the people who have caused problems in your client’s life. A good reframe, (but only after you have done a lot of clearing,) is “they were doing the best they could. It may not have been a very good best, but it was still the best they could do.

19 Unhealed parts Recognise that everyone you work with will be showing you unhealed parts of you. Register it and then let go, EFT will start to clear it for you, out of your conscious mind. Remaining aspects you can deal with later.

20 Irritate. If your client irritates you or scares you, who or what do they remind you of? Find that and then clear whatever comes up for you. It’s a golden opportunity to do more healing.

21 Disappointment. If it didn’t go as well as you’d hoped, tap on that and clear your feelings so the next session you can start afresh. Remember to let go of your expectations and trust that it will be as it needs to be.

22 Close down If you have opened more than you can clear in that session, wrap it up before you finish. Something like, “Even though we’ve opened a lot today and we haven’t cleared everything, I choose anything uncleared to be put away safely until the next time it’s safe to take it out to work on it again.” You might want them to choose somewhere to keep it safe. It could be a locked box, or a recycling bin.

23 Choice  Remember they have the right to choose not to heal. Give them permission to hold on and then watch things change! People are used to resisting, when there’s nothing to resist, things change. You could always tap on “whether I let this go or not, I’m doing the best I can, and that’s OK”

24 It’s OK Remember, everything in the universe is exactly as it should be, including you!

25 Be grateful, for everything and everyone in your life.

HAVE FUN! HEALING FOLLOWS!

Jaqui

 

 

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