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EFT improves self esteem

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

Just about everyone has a self esteem issue in at least one part of their lives. Carol Henderson shows us how EFT can be a quality aid in this regard.

Hugs, Gary

By Carol Henderson


I have a lot of clients who have low self-esteem.  Sometimes, especially if they are very good looking, I am curious to find out if they realize they are pretty or handsome.  I ask them, "on a scale from 0 to 10, with ten being movie star good looking, where would you put your looks".  Much of the time they say about four!  I just start tapping with them,

Even though I am below average in looks…

Even though people say I am good looking, I think I am about a four…

Even though I am not very pretty /handsome, I love and accept myself, anyway.

Usually we don't have to do more than three rounds before the person thinks they are about an 8 on a scale of 0 to 10.  This is HUGE for self-esteem.

I do the same thing for people who don't think they are very good parents.  They will report being below average as far as parenting goes.  Sometimes I make the EFT setup phrases very negative to get a reaction out of them quicker.

Even though I am a terrible mother /father…

Even though I never say the right things, or encourage or support my kids…

Even though I am not a very good parent…

They will go along with saying these negative things for a while, maybe two rounds, but then start saying, "Really, I do support my kids", or "I really do love and take good care of them."  After a few rounds of the negative, then I add in some positives.

Even though I didn't use to think I was a very good parent, I am beginning to see I really am.

Even though I used to think I was just a fair parent, I realize I do a very good job parenting them.

Even though it is hard, and sometimes I loose my temper, I do my best to love and take care of them, and will continue to do better and better.

Then, when they rate themselves, they realize they are actually an above average parent.  This really improves how they see themselves, overall.


Carol Henderson

Certified Hypnotherapist


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