- An EFT reference for student and social service use
- Helping a child release school related insecurity and anxiety - visualizing balloons as you tap
- Baerbel Froehlin gives her thoughts on working with children - toilet problems and fingernail biting
- Calming down a disruptive classroom with EFT
- EFT for trauma in elementary school
- EFT in schools: When was the last time you said thank you to a hero?
- Angie Muccillo tells why EFT is an essential tool to teach children
- 10 year old Josh learns multiplication tables rapidly
- EFT helps a child to cope with his hyperactivity and murdered dad - school grades improve
- School Counselor on anger and tension,
- Making a game of EFT calms restless preschoolers
- 45 minutes of EFT on a learning disability brings impressive benefits
- Success with a 6 year old: Coughing, Sleep problem and School anger issue
- 9 year old boy uses EFT to deal successfully with divorce and school problems
- Zach's fear of dogs
- Magic buttons and no more fear of the hum-hum Monster
- Tapping with kids before a camping trip
- Fear of the dark
- A two and a half year old releases a severe fear after one hour of very creative EFT
- After EFT, 8-year-old boy no longer has fear and panic about being alone in a room
- Handling a child's fear of being home alone
- A toddler's fear of water shifts to excitement in less than 5 minutes
- Child's bug phobia eased quickly by EFT
- Fear of making a mistake, fear of peers laughing at him & bedtime fears due to TV programs.
- Tapping for a 4 year old's constipation leads to relief from her fear of death
- Child's stage fright and bullying incident eased quickly by EFT
- "Is everything poison?" and fear of spiders
- How EFT for a dental fear brought relief to both mother and daughter
- Relieving Juleus' fears
- Doing EFT with children for the fear of water
- Fear of Santa Claus
- EFT for a child
- Being bullied, sleeping with the lights on & fear of spiders
- The Teen who had a fear of showing his face
- 11 year old successfully taps for her own fear of going to camp
- After a few minutes of mental tapping, a baby stops screaming and falls asleep
- Calming down an energetic one year old child
- A seven year old learns EFT and calms his own ADHD
- Creativity with severely disturbed children
- Did surrogate EFT calm this crying, outraged baby?
- An insecure child with behavior problems
- Helping parents whose children have autism
- Andrew: "There are mice in my pants"
- Surrogate EFT for a naughty boy
- An ADHD case
- AT 315 pounds, Tanya is a VERY big 12 year old.
- Clever use of EFT for an 8 year old girl's anger
- AFRAID OF BEING DROWNED!
- Calming down Teddy, an emotionally disturbed boy
- Unsociable behavior in a 14 year old boy
- How do you neutralize extreme behavior problems in youngsters where nothing else has helped?
- Angry teenager
- Angry young boy overcomes an "entity within" using surrogate EFT
- EFT for influencing children to do healthy things
- Brandon's Story--anger problem becomes history
- For parents--using EFT with your own children
- Eliminating two food allergies in one session
- Flexible approach to EFT pulls 10 year old boy out of his 'Dark Place'
- Using EFT in a pediatric dental office for sensitive gag reflex
- A "must" EFT procedure for children
- Linda Wood helps very distressed 3 year old girl while mother looks on in total disbelief
- Creative uses of EFT for a child
- Surrogate EFT for two-year-old reduces fever in an hour
- Resolving issues for a frantic, hysterical baby
- Scary commercials
- Loud noises no longer bother 3 year old girl
- SURROGATE EFT calms a boy bitten by a dog and PERSISTENT EFT restores his calm sleep
- Teacher displays many EFT benefits achieved by his students
- Teenage trauma from the Columbine incident & swimming performance.
- Surrogate EFT brings peace to annoying toddler
- Three-for-one phone session - borrowing benefits for mom and two kids
- Using EFT for mosquito bites on a 3 year old - "These itchy boo-boos"
- Children--Gary's Introductory Message
- Unbearable hatred toward classmates
- Surrogate tapping clears severe diaper rash
- Successful Surrogate EFT for his daughter's rejection brings joy to Mauricio's heart
- Nancy Gnecco's cases: sleeping disorder, separation anxiety, school phobia, wetting pants, soiling pants
- Teacher helps students with non-academic issues: Abscessed tooth and batting average
- Deborah Miller introduces EFT at a children
- Some EFT guidelines for working with children
- EFT hastens recovery from a concussion and skull fracture
- Using EFT to self-calm an intense anger tantrum
- A simple way to handle a child's nightmare
- Surrogate EFT for a toddler
- Pain and rash leave in 90 seconds for a 10 year old boy
- Drowning related trauma relief for a 9 year old boy
- Surrogate EFT benefits both mother and child
- Did a few minutes of EFT change this child's life?
- EFT for the child who hates math - was math really the problem? "Mom, you're my hero!"
- Hand washing OCD
- Emotional underdevelopment
- Using EFT for teething pain
- EFT with 11 year old students - SATs and other issues
- Study Links Childhood Trauma to Serious Illnesses in Adults
- EFT being used by children for other children
- TappyBear helps resolve 11 year old's escalating anger and frustration - the real issues come out
- Allergic reaction to horses--swollen eyes.
- Sept. 11, 2001 Trauma Treatment for Children
- How to help a vomiting 9 year old boy from thousands of miles away
- EFT with a 5 year old boy -- reducing childhood baggage
- Angie Muccillo emphasizes the value of tapping on childhood events
- Dyslexia and learning disabilities
- Surrogate tapping for crying baby--over the Internet
- EFT clears severe pain and retrieves a lost voice for an eleven year old girl in forty minutes
- EFT helps a 14 year old girl with emotions related to her parents
- Turning around a manipulative child
- Using EFT as a Mother
- Using EFT with children -- 9 useful thoughts
- EFT for bedwetting
- No more bedwetting--a side benefit?
- MD gives up 30 year medical practice to focus on energy work: Two boys get over bullying experience
- Four year old clears her own cold symptoms with EFT
- Dawn Murray
- Bowling performance and driver's test anxiety
- Several short examples including: Fear of flying, Halloween costume fear, Fear of ocean waves, A baby about to cry, Broken leg pain, Student/Teacher friction, Upset student
- Kids, Chocolate, Humor and EFT
- EFT provides impressive results in the classroom
- EFT helps Nell's godson learn the times tables
- 10 year old boy overcomes food issue related to Mother's cancer
- Non-therapist relieves stress in the form of a temper tantrum
- Using EFT with kids
- Surrogate EFT eases the after effects of a sprain for a 4 year old boy
- Surrogate tapping helps restless child sleep
- Successful EFT with a four year old girl who uses her own phrasing
- Pet grief, school (math) performance & cursing/anger.
- WATER IS DANGEROUS !!
- EFT helps children who express their anger by moving their bodies
- EFT persistence brings relief to Bobby's upset stomach at the fairgrounds
- Intense childhood anger reduces to peace via mother's surrogate EFT
- Panic attacks and fear of darkness
- Teaching EFT to 11 year old children
- EFT for an infant's sleeplessness
- Surrogate EFT calms kicking and screaming students
- Helping a restless child to go to sleep
- Surrogate EFT helps sick toddler
- EFT assists 8 year old in giving up thumb sucking
- Surrogate EFT helps a screaming baby on a plane
- EFT for compassionate newborn care -- a Transient Tachypnea (TTN) case
- Shortcut version of EFT enhances classroom performance
- When angry "Teacher-Talk" affects the student's performance
- An unsuccessful case regarding peformance in English class
- Teaching kids to tap
- EFT and Tappy Bear help a shy boy get to kindergarten
- EFT in the classroom
- Molested Boy: Shifting a life forever
- Wisdom from Bobbie Sandoz--relieving trauma at early ages
- A fun way to deliver EFT to children--and everyone gets to smile
- What to do when the student hates math
- An 8 year old girl with an "itchy lump" in her throat: A simple use of EFT
- For children: Using EFT with rhymes
- Using EFT for an autistic child
- Magazine article highlights use of EFT for children
- Surrogate (remote) EFT used to calm children ... or ... how to be a Silent Angel
- Sleep disorder relief for a 17 year old
- Turning Students On to EFT
- Surrogate EFT to help restless kids - or is it a coincidence?
- Face hot & red, teasing, travel sickness, phobia of dead things, shyness and more.
- Elegant session with 11 year old boy for test anxiety
- EFT for pain and nightmares in 3 year old girl
- Lazy teen finds new way to study - adding the right ingredients
- More short examples including: Homesickness, Nervousness about exams & grade improvement, Nightmares after witnessing a rape and a shooting, Performance anxiety, Ear pain on an airplane.
- Perpetually terrified teenager gains major relief
- Surrogate EFT to help children sleep - a critical lesson regarding intention
- Surrogate EFT stops a child from biting others
- Using EFT for a 9 year old girl diagnosed as bipolar and as having reactive attachment disorder
- Fear of rain, thunder, lightning, bugs & dogs. Relief for cramps.
- Using EFT for Colic and generally happy babies
- Tapping to clear those decisions we make as children that eventually limit us as adults
- TappyBear helps client to focus
- Car sickness
- Sports anxiety, heat sensitivity, being away from home, loneliness, fear of insects.
- Math test anxiety subsides after being traced to a specific event
- Success with surrogate tapping for a crying child
- Family effects
- 13 year old boy gets relief from uncontrollable twitching
- Tapping turns NightMares into
- What can children ages 8-13 do with EFT on their own?
- A very detailed message on a young girl's motion sickness
- Helping children sleep and socialize--AND--two lactose intolerance cases
- Teaching EFT to children - a detailed account
- Helping children to express their 0-10 feeling intensity
- Using humor and metaphors while applying EFT for children: The Frog in my Throat
- Using EFT Rhymes for children
- Using EFT and Max's imagination to get rid of his headache
- Resolving a child's severe abdominal pain -- a likely Urinary Tract Infection
- EFT for babies
- When a child cannot sleep in her own room
- Stuttering child
- Surrogate EFT for a baby with hiccups
- An EFT newcomer helps her daughter
AT 315 pounds, Tanya is a VERY big 12 year old.
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The "art of delivery" is often discussed on this list. Indeed, it is what separates the wannabes from the Masters. Although it can take many sophisticated forms, sometimes this art is nothing more than persistently caring and "hangin' in there" with someone. When we do this, love takes over and the way to approach the problem just "shows up." I've seen this many times where the client seems impossible and then, after persistence, the right phrase appears. It's like magic.
Ann Adams has had plenty of experience "hangin' in there" with her clients. So much so that she has developed a facility for generating instant rapport with the Severely Emotionally Disturbed children who are housed within her residential facility. To an outside observer, Ann's ability to quickly get to the heart of the matter may seem routine. However, it comes from many persistent, caring sessions with "her children."
Here's an example.
"Tanya" is twelve years old. She is big for her age. At 315 pounds, she is VERY big for her age. She came to us (a residential facility for Severely Emotionally Disturbed children) from the Juvenile Justice system after being expelled from school for beating up a boy, taking his pants off and tossing the pants out the window. The boy had continued to tease Tanya and ask her to "suck his thing." Tanya says she "just lost it" because she was determined the boy was not going to do anything to her. Why would a twelve year old girl "lose it" to that degree over being propositioned? Because she had been molested at an early age when she could not control the situation. She was determined not to be helpless again.
More recently, Tanya's mother called to tell her daughter she was planning to marry again. Tanya thought the man was "worthless" and told her mother not to marry him. They got into a verbal argument on the phone. Tanya hung up on her mother and became very upset. Later when she threatened to kill herself she was placed on suicide precautions on the unit. This means she stays within eyesight of staff, was kept home from school and was not eligible for any off-unit activities until reassessed for suicide risk. Usually these restrictions only last one day but at times a child remains upset for several days.
So, with this as background, I walked into Tanya's room making enough noise to wake her up.
My heart went out to her. Here was this unattractive, 315 pound 'little' girl, supposedly cruel, obnoxious and considered dangerous, sleeping curled up with a teddy bear! I started off with the deeply therapeutic, highly skilled comment I frequently make with an upset child, "Hi!", I said.
She turned over and glared at me.
"I sleep with my teddy bear too," I said. Which IS true - sort of! "Teddy bears are very comforting when you are upset," I added. Tanya sat up in the bed, her face softened. I grabbed at my chance. "How did you get yourself on suicide precautions?" I asked.
She told me she had been talking to her mother and got mad. I asked what part of the conversation upset her the most. She said when her mother told her she just had to "deal with it." (Could we have here another example of where she was not in control?)
"Ya know, I have this really great way to stop being upset." This sort of comment always gets an upset child's attention. "What is it?" Tanya asked. I did a half smile and replied. "I usually use it with adults, but sometimes I teach it to kids too. I guess you are old enough." THAT almost always gets children her age.
"Are you game to try it; it is sort of strange? It is like a relaxation exercise." All our kids have been in therapy before coming to our facility. They have usually been taught relaxation exercises. "It works really well to calm you down quickly so you can think more clearly about your problem." I don't wait for an answer. I just start tapping on the side of my hand. She follows my lead but looks at me questioningly.
"How much less trouble would you get into if you could calm yourself down whenever you wanted to?" She gets an oh-wow-a-lot look on her face. "You game?" I asked again. She shrugged her shoulders in agreement. We continue tapping for a few seconds on the side of the hand. I always tap, or rub the sore spot, for several seconds before I go any further. If there is any situation in which you should assume psychological reversal, it is with our emotionally 'challenged' children. This also gives me time to assess their level of cooperation. Most kids will tap the side of their hand with me. I watch their reaction closely. If they are cooperative I have no problem with the set up and going through the process. If they are resistant I go a different route.
When I asked her how upset she was with having to deal with her mother's choice, she said a 10 on a 0 to 10 point scale. So we tap for:
"Even though I have to 'deal with it', I am a good person."
"Even though I do not have control of my mother, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have to deal with my mother's choices, I deeply and completely accept myself."
I try to reframe the problem with different words to keep it interesting and to increase the chances that one will really hit home. We then tapped through the points three times. I said the reminder phrase "have to deal with it" for her.
When conducting the process, especially for the first time, I frequently say the set up and the reminder phrase for them. The number of times I go through the set up and tapping sequence without stopping varies on my assessment of how they are doing. I go for success, not perfection of the process and I watch for subtle signs of improvement.
She appeared calmer so I asked her to think about "having to deal with it" and asked how upset about it she was now. She said a one. "Great! Let's do it one more time and get rid of it." We tapped to "even though I can not control my mother's behavior, I deeply and completely accept myself." I added in the forgiveness step where I had her forgive herself and her mother. She readily complied.
Tanya then reported that it didn't bother her anymore. She said her sister needed her and her grandmother. She said that her mother will probably need her too but if she couldn't do anything about her mother she could still help her sister and grandmother. She started to talk about things she wanted to do when she "got out". I love watching the cognitive shifts EFT can bring. She was now feeling useful to others and planning for the future. Such thoughts were certainly not how she described the situation in the first part of our conversation.
We talked about how she was adapting on the unit - only been here 2 months. I helped her write down the EFT process in her journal. We talked about ways she could use the tapping.
When I left the unit she was drawing and laughing with staff. Did I cure her of all her many issues forever? No way. Did she resolve one issue about her mother? Absolutely.
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