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The Teen who had a fear of showing his face

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Hi Everyone,

This EFT example by Rebecca Marina shows how a little awareness and creativity can completely change the life of a teenager.

Hugs, Gary


By Rebecca Marina

Hi Gary,

Here is a great use of EFT to help a teen who had a fear of showing his face.

My daughter Alyssa had some friends over one day and there was one particular young man who stuck out in my mind. He had an unconscious habit of covering his face with his hair anytime anyone even glanced his way. He visited on several occasions and every time he displayed this same odd behavior. He literally grabbed his hair and pulled it over his face when he thought someone might be looking at him.

Finally, one day he was visiting and we were both in the kitchen at the same time. I put my hand lightly on his shoulder and said gently, "You know dear, you have such a handsome face, why do you hide it?"

Poor fellow, I could feel his thin shoulder trembling beneath my hand and when he did look at me, there was sheer panic in his eyes. I could tell it was all he could do not to bolt out the door.

"I don't know, he replied, I don't like the way I look and I cannot stand for anyone to look at my face, I have been like this a long time and I just can't help it".

"Well, dear," I asked him," Would you like to get rid of this feeling that no one can look at your face?"

He was eager to hear that there was something that could be done. I briefly explained about EFT and asked if he was ready to begin. I made sure he understood I was not a therapist but simply working with the body's natural energy.

I asked him to give me an intensity rating on "I can't stand for people to look at my face" and he said it was only about a 5. I then asked how high the intensity was of panic when someone looked at his face and he said it was an 8.

So we began.

Even though I don't like the way I look, and I panic when people look at me, I deeply love and accept myself.

A round of this brought him down to a 5 on the panic. I could sense there were much deeper issue here. So I asked, "What is the worst thing that could happen to you if people look at your face."

He answered, "They might make fun of me, I would rather try and be invisible."

So we tapped for,

Even though they might make fun of me and I want to be invisible, I deeply love and accept myself.

His intensity was coming way down at this point but he still had a hard time looking at me so I probed gently deeper. "Dear, Can you remember the first time you felt invisible and wanted to hide?"

"Yes," he replied, "When I was a baby, I was ignored and I was a bother to my mother, She was all finished having babies and here I come."

So, we switched the focus a bit.

I talked to him about how his mom did the best she could and probably was feeling

so overwhelmed she just did not know how to handle an extra child.

I asked him if he was willing to "move towards forgiving his mother".

This is what I call the "Baby Step" method where you gently move a client along

without asking them to do the impossible.

We used setups like this,

"Even though I was an extra burden on my mom and I felt all neglected, I deeply love and accept myself.

(Bringing in Dr Carringtons wonderful Choices method)

I choose to move toward forgiving her.

I chose to move toward understanding she felt overwhelmed and did not know what to do herself.

I chose to release the need to hide my face and my own needs.

You could feel the shift of energy in the room as we tapped in these positive choices. The young man's head snapped up and he looked at me square in the face. He really is a handsome young man!

He was down to a zero on all levels.

I did not see him again until a few weeks later when I went to my daughter's school for a concert. This young man was sitting a few rows away from me and he had his hair combed back off his face as he exuded an air of confidence that he had never displayed before.

I could not wait until the concert was over to run over and give him a hug!

I exclaimed how happy I was to see his face and the change in his demeanor.

"Oh, Mrs Marina," he said," I just can't stand to have my hair in my face now,

I don't know why, I just can't stand it!"

Another successful use of EFT. It is particularly wonderful to note that it was several weeks after the first EFT treatment that I saw the young man and he was still completely comfortable to show his face.

Rebecca Marina

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