IN THIS ISSUE - For Everyone:(1) Today's Poem, (2) THE UNSEEN THERAPIST AT WORK: (a) Prem. Ejac. Problem, (b) Self-Sabotage - "I Must Be Perfect, (3) Articles/Videos To Review, (4) NEED MORE HELP?
For OEFT Course Members - ADVANCED:(1) Our Next Webinar, (2) A "New Mother" Vision, (3) Practice Group Reminder
Today's Poem: Here is a delightful poem to lighten your day. It was written by David Schroeder and submitted by Gabrielle Rutten.
Can you love instead of fear?
Can you love midst life's uncertainty?
Can you love what is your unknown?
Can you love when it hurts?
Can you love through your tears,
when others don't seem to care?
Can you love when it seems unfair?
Can you love in your despair?
Can you love when it's not fun and want to run?
Can you love the parts you've hidden;
the ones you think aren't there with you?
Can you love the one who you see in the mirror?
Can you love others when they don't love you back?
Can you love those who don't love themselves?
Can you Just Be Love?
THE UNSEEN THERAPIST AT WORK - A SERIES
(Several Examples Below)
NOTE: This series is meant primarily for our OEFT Course Membership and assumes a special, High-End level of understanding. However, as a courtesy, I'm including it here for non-members as well in hopes that we might broaden the benefits for all. It should be well worth everyone's exploration. Enjoy.
A "Good Start" For George's Prem. Ejac. Problem
""George" has dealt with this for as long as he can remember..."
According to WebMD.com, "The cause [for prem. ejac.] is not really known."
However, it doesn't take an ultra-high IQ to conclude that emotional issues such as traumas from the past, rejections from women, religious beliefs, etc. play a central role in this problem.
"George" has dealt with this for as long as he can remember and, while he has found ways to cope, the problem remains. As you will see in this video, "George" and I explore his potential causes and zero in on likely contributors, including a heavily charged specific event from his age 12 or 13. We then enter a comprehensive Unseen Therapist session for relief. Solid results.
We are all given beliefs as we grow up. Some of them are useful while others create limits and distorted perceptions of the world. These latter beliefs (e.g. "I must be perfect," "there's something wrong with me" etc.) often become barriers that cause people to self-sabotage Unseen Therapist results.
This is much more common than most of us realize and that is why Diane von der Weid and I discuss this issue as well as its solutions, reframes and the like.
Our next Webinar: It will be on Sunday, November 7, at 10am Pacific time.
TIME CHANGE: The U.S. has a time change on this date. We will be setting our clocks BACK one hour. Other parts of the world may have time changes on different dates so please adjust accordingly.
We will begin with a live session, with audience participation, on the issue of ABANDONMENT.
After that, we will be open to Members' questions/comments about our Advanced Lessons, Self-Help Sessions, Challenging cases, personal uses or anything else that will help us climb our Stairway to Miracles.
This will be a prime opportunity to explore your topics. Write to me about them or bring them up at the Webinar.
The Unseen Therapist Shows Belynda A "New Mother" Vision
"...but Unseen Therapist made me see that she did have that love and life in her and would loved to have been able to express it, but something that was in her—and not with my brother and and me made her unable to be joyful."
Intro from Gary:The Unseen Therapist, in her ultimate wisdom, will often display her healing messages in ways that are specific to our needs. This is evident in Belynda Wilson's letter to me below.
Belynda's letter:Dear Gary,
My mother suffered with anxiety and depression when my brother and I were little. I remember her taking us to the city swimming pool after she got off work a couple of times a week. It was a huge swimming pool and by that time of day they were no other children there—only us and the lifeguard. My brother and I looked very forward to those trips. We would be so excited . We loved swimming. I can remember the two of us alone in the pool and mother sitting on a bench watching us. Contrasting our excitement, my mother just sat on the bench looking tired and with very little emotional affect. All I ever wanted was for her to be happy and not so tired and nervous. The image of her sitting there looking so tired is very sad to me even now.
In my OEFT session, I visualize the scene, except the UT came in and became part of my mom. Now my mom was dressed in more stylish, casual clothing. All colors in the scene were very vibrant. She smiled and laughed and got up, came over to us and said things like, “You said you jumped off the high board at swimming lessons. Let's see y’all do that!” And when we did, she jumped up and down and laughed and said things like, “Wow! I knew you could do it! That is one of the finest jumps I have ever seen!” She would toss things into the pool and challenge us to retrieve them and bring them over to show her and joyfully engage with us in other ways.
I don’t like the thought of trying to “change” or improve on the event itself and make the memory into something better (but didn’t REALLY happen). It’s tempting to go back and pretend something better happened, but we cannot lie to ourselves like that. That is like trying to affirm, “I AM RICH!”, when I know I’m really not!. Mom didn’t REALLY become the more vibrant person, but the Unseen Therapist showed me how to understand it—especially to understand that my brother and I were not the cause of her unhappiness. Here’s how: after a while the picture of my mom went back to black-and-white quietly sitting on the bench and looking tired. What I understood is that my mother loved us (and she really did). What she wanted was to be the “self” the Unseen Therapist showed us she really was: joyful. She did not know how to request the Unseen Therapist to help her be that. I understood that her going back to the sad state was what was BLOCKING her from the real person that she was and wanted to be. As she went back to the sad state, I realized that THAT STATE that she could not help was WHAT WAS blocking her—not my brother or me or anything else. I can’t change that she really did appear sad in those events. She just did, but Unseen Therapist made me see that she did have that love and life in her and would loved to have been able to express it, but something that was in her—and not with my brother and and me made her unable to be joyful.
So when I work on that event, the vision of the “sad mom” isn’t sad, it just REPRESENTS what was blocking her. No one was to blame.
Practice Group Reminder: Our practice group facility regularly offers new opportunities to improve your skills. Please check it out in the Membership section of our website.
Note: Please consult physicians on all medical issues.