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Melissa gets to the root of her sugar addiction - Followup included

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

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Hi Everyone,

This article by Melissa Derasmo is a must read because it superbly illustrates how finding a core issue can collapse even the most stubborn challenges. She says, "Recently something happened that started me down the road to the answer. I was in Macy’s shopping (my second favorite thing to do at that time) and suddenly out of nowhere a baby started screaming and crying...."

Hugs, Gary

By Melissa Derasmo

I was a confirmed sugar addict. Starting in my early twenties, I ate sugar at every opportunity. I would do anything I had to in order to get my “fix,” including things I would rather not admit to, like stealing money if I didn’t have any for chocolate or some other sugar-rich thing.

In a continuing effort to find the perfect diet, I somehow managed to find EFT and I dove in and never looked back. I tapped for every single issue I could find, and I had a lot. I had inconsolable grief over my alcoholic mother dying when I was six, anger over being physically abused by a stepmother and sexually abused by her father, and then inconsolable grief over my father passing away when I was ten years old. These were the big pieces, which I was able to eliminate all the pain from with EFT. I spent the next year working on my Personal Peace Procedure – tapping on everything I could come up with. But I still ate sugar uncontrollably.

Recently something happened that started me down the road to the answer. I was in Macy’s shopping (my second favorite thing to do at that time) and suddenly out of nowhere a baby started screaming and crying. Well, my reaction to that was to get out of the room as fast as possible. My husband, who was with me at the time, turned to me and said, “What is wrong with you”?  And it hit me. I thought everyone runs out of the room when there’s a crying baby. I can’t tolerate hearing babies cry. But no, apparently lots of people don’t have this issue at all!  And slowly the thought “bubbled up” for me – I can’t tolerate the crying baby because I am the crying baby – the baby that wasn’t taken care of – both while my mother was alive and after she died. So I went home and started to tap. This was a long session of working on every single thing I could come up with, and whether it was true or not did not matter. These thoughts were what I believed to be true.

Even though I’m so sad that my mother was too drunk to wake up and feed me...

Even though I’m so sad that my mother was too drunk to wake up and change my diapers....

Even though I’m so sad that my mother was too drunk to take care of me....

But more importantly, I realized that after she died she wasn’t there to do all the things a daughter needs in life – and as I focused on what we had missed together, the tears came flooding out:

Even though I’m so sad my mother wasn’t there to walk me to school,

tuck me in at night,

read me a story,

help me with my homework,

put my picture on the fridge,

congratulate me on my wonderful report card,

push me on the swing in the park,

listen to my heart aches,

play with me,

take me for my first bra,

make cookies with me,

tell me what a Tampax is,

help me plan my wedding,

tell me why I shouldn’t marry that idiot,

hold her first granddaughter,

tell me what a great daughter I am,

... and lots, lots more.

What happened when it was all done was quite stunning. The first thing I noticed was total silence – the voice that would constantly scream out for sugar was completely silent. So I started to test. At work I walked by my co-worker’s office and the ton of chocolate on her desk – nothing. I went by the vending machines – nothing. I went to the supermarket and walked down candy aisle – nothing. I picked up some chocolate, smelled it, had zero desire for it, put it down, and walked away.

If you are a sugar addict, you will understand that that was nothing less than a miracle. The next morning I thought perhaps I had been abducted by aliens and exchanged for an addiction-free person – someone who is “normal.” I was quite unsettled about it but willing to accept that whatever happened, it was good. And while it hasn’t been a terribly long time, I remain completely addiction-free six weeks later. The endless, relentless “pull” that would force me to eat is completely gone. Today I eat “normally” –  I make low-calorie balanced meals and I’m perfectly okay with them. I’m happy with one serving. I can watch others eat cake, cookies, and candy without any issue at all. It doesn’t bother me. I simply don’t want what they have.

Looking back, I can see the clue my subconscious was trying to give me with the crying baby who was always there. I didn’t understand what it meant so I just ignored it. And as I now lose weight effortlessly, I hope that others will find this information useful. It may be that one needs to tap on what didn’t happen as well as what did.

Melissa Derasmo

Follow-up: Since first collapsing the "baby crying" issue, I have now been 3 months without any sugar cravings and I have lost 38 pounds.


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