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Fears And Phobias

Being Alone

Adult fear of being alone linked to reading horror stories as a child

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

Through some simple conversation, Alan Morison of the UK uncovered an important core issue behind a bothersome fear. Note that he begins using Shamanic means and ends up using EFT.

Hugs, Gary

By Alan Morison

Hi Gary

'Jackie' asked for a session of EFT because she was scared being on her own in her large Edinburgh flat (apartment).  She did not sleep well if she was on her own, plagued with nightmarish dreams and feeling a spooky presence with no face hovering over her.  Her story got worse as she then added that she felt fingers around her throat threatening to kill her.  She felt the tears coming on so I suggested she stop telling her story and just do some tapping.  She felt better shortly after so I continued with a different approach.

I am able to clear such 'visitations' by shamanic means, and I employed that method first.  Jackie felt an improvement as she visualized her room but said it was the 'other' presence that had gone.  She hadn't said there were two!

So, we were still left with the extreme threat of being killed and she felt no better despite number 1 being away.  I was going to repeat the shamanic approach when she said she had felt this nasty presence with her for years.  I stopped and asked her when the visitation had started.  She said it was in her parents' old house as a child of about 12. It was the old wardrobe.

Knowing how childhood fears can develop from shadows in the corner after the light is out (personal experience aged 5, long since tapped away) I asked about that, feeling at the time that maybe she was a little old for that kind of fear to start up.  She said it could be but she had to tie the doors together with string in case that thing got out. 

We tapped for the thing in the wardrobe, but her level of intensity of 9 dropped only to a 7-8 on a scale of 0 to 10 - some improvement but nothing significant.  When I asked her if it reminded her of anything, she couldn't think of anything but emotion began to rise again and she needed more quiet tapping to calm down.

All she could think of was lying petrified in bed, but tapping for that didn't help either.  I enquired about her family but she had grown up in a caring environment and nothing untoward had happened.  I asked about her life in general, what she did as a child of 12.  When she mentioned reading as a favorite pastime I felt the alarm bells going.  What kind of books did she read?

When she mentioned the author Stephen King I thought we might well have got to the core issue. She was ready to pass over that comment and go on to something else but I stopped her and asked her how she felt when reading the horror stories.  She felt gripped by them like nothing else, not able to put them down, fascinated and horrified by the dark side, unable to resist the magnetic pull of one story after another.  When asked, she realized the wardrobe feelings coincided with reading 'Carrie', King's first published novel.

We tapped for being spooked by that novel and instantly the intensity of feelings dropped to a 4 out of 10.  After another round, it was zeroed out.  I asked Jackie if she could picture being alone in her room at night.  No problem!  No threat from anyone or anything, nor ghostly fingers round her neck.  Pressure of time was upon us but she left for home on a definite high.

I saw Jackie again the following week and she felt that somehow there was something missing somewhere.  Several clients have mentioned this at the end of a session, often feeling a strange 'gap' over the stomach area or a sense of not being complete.  This is what Jackie felt.  She had been dominated for so long by these feelings of terror that their absence created a sense of imbalance.

So we tapped for not being complete, feeling something was missing, and finishing with a choice to be whole again.  After a couple of minutes of tapping she began to feel that she was 'all there' and her huge smile confirmed how good she felt.  A day later, I received an email from her...

"I just thought you might want to know that I have slept very well in my flat even though I was all on my own.  I haven't had any bad dreams since (and the ghost is gone).  Its amazing.  All my life I've had these dreams and now it seems they are gone!  All the best and many thanks!!!"

And thanks to you Gary for giving us the skills to deal with stuff we thought we would never be rid of.

BIG hug,



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