- Fears And Phobias
- EFT eliminates fear of flying--over the telephone
- Fear of flying and many aspects
- Getting behind a complicated Fear of Flying case
- 57 year old fear of flying vanishes in one EFT session -- 3 month follow-up included
- Treating "fear of flying" as a trauma case.
- A Fear of Flying turned out to be a metaphor for another life issue
- Solid detective work finds the true cause of a Fear of Flying
- Quality session for a fear of flying insects
- A good example of EFT's Generalization Effect with the fear of flying
- Surrogate tapping for the fear of flying
- Brad Reed helps with the fear of flying (followup at end)
- Do you want to skydive?
- A fear of flying case with a unique twist
- Fear of Flying, Public Speaking and All Phobias Gain Rapid Relief From New Meridian Based Procedure
- Turkish MD finds core issue for a flying phobia
- Intense fear of flying eliminated with EFT -- with follow-up and interesting side benefits
- Eliminating a VERY intense fear of flying 6 weeks before getting on the plane
- Chrissie Hardisty's former fear of flying
- Simple EFT Basic Recipe collapses phobias regarding ladders, flying and cats.
- Fear of flying subsides--follow up included
- No Drugs Necessary to Reduce Fear of Flying, Jet Lag and Air Travel Health Risks
- EFT "on the fly"--the fear of flying
- Second hand tapping on the fear of flying
- EFT eliminates fear of flying--an excellent study in aspects
- Can we collapse the fear of flying even when there is no airplane around?
- Fear of flying, leaving home is dangerous, and you can never come back!
- Up, up and away--the fear of flying
- How my computer helped clear a fear of flying
- What was really behind Janice's fear of flying?
- The bird fear that had an unusual aspect
- Ten year old boy uses EFT to rid his friend of a dog phobia
- A detailed "fear of dogs" case using SPECIFIC EVENTS
- Breaking down a phobia into many aspects
- Fear of birds is minimized in minutes
- A dog phobia case that required persistence
- Success using EFT while imagining a phobia
- A quality look at how to test your work
- Sarah's cat phobia and other newcomer issues
- Fear of dogs disappears as EFT is used on an "unremembered memory"
- An EFT one minute wonder for fear of dogs gets a nanny a new job in a home with a 90 lb. dog
- Was the fear of cats the real issue?
- EFT newbie helps claustrophobic husband prepare for full body scan machine with great results
- The Skeptic & Claustrophobia (or how I was treated like a
- EFT for panic attacks and claustrophobia -- quality approaches
- Claustrophobia has traumatic birth memory as its core issue
- Claustrophobia relieved in one session
- A follow-up on claustrophobia
- Testing claustrophobia results.
- Jack Foriska eliminates his own terror of highway driving
- Applying EFT remotely to a driving phobia in India
- Essential Tremor and a cliff-driving phobia
- A bridge-over-water phobic crosses the Golden Gate Bridge
- Resolving many aspects of Freeway and Bridge Fears
- Borrowing benefits brings a welcome side effect
- 40 year driving fear gone: "Now I drive that mountain like I own it!"
- Using the Movie Technique in client
- A skeptic, escalator & freeway phobias and converging lines (with a lead in discussion on "getting worse")
- Loren Fogelman collapses her own driving anxiety
- Success with Fear of Bridges over Water -- with 7 month update
- EFT for motorway driving anxiety
- Driving fear in Louisiana
- A seemingly simple height phobia with underlying causes
- Successful surrogate EFT on Hiccups, Fear of Heights and a Sore Throat
- Surrogate mental tapping achieves success for a height phobic in a balcony
- Textbook height phobia case--two rounds of EFT and "Poof"
- EFT helps with fear of heights in the California Sierra Mountains
- A height phobia with traumatic roots
- The Fear of Heights was not really the Fear of Heights
- Movies and a fear of heights
- Newbie completely collapses a fear of heights
- Nate's fear of heights: From the Grand Canyon to a helicopter experience
- A phobia with an unusual cause
- The height phobia that wouldn't move
- A couple of one minute wonders - fear of heights and feeling dizzy
- A height phobia in Poland with a classic Apex response.
- Getting to specific events for resolving a height phobia
- A Newbie overcomes her own needle phobia
- Client with two phobias: Fear of mice and needles.
- Challenging needle phobia is eliminated
- Fear of needles is cleared after addressing many aspects with EFT
- Using EFT when having blood taken - even if a vein collapses and you have a fear of needles
- Five sessions of EFT for a severe needle phobia - every detail needed tapping
- Getting beyond a 30 year fear of needles in 15 minutes
- EFT clears an obsessive dental phobia: Note the insightful questions involved
- Being creative about a stubborn dental phobia
- EFT for obsessive health fear
- Using EFT for the fear of dentists - including a several year follow-up
- EFT for a fear of surgery
- Client spontaneously recalls important core issue while tapping for Fear of Choking
- EFT for a fear of anesthesia allowed Mara's client to have a lung transplant
- Nurse had a fear of taking blood samples
- John was paralyzed with fear over his wife's cancer
- Elimination of fear of death and loss of two children in 15 minutes
- EFT helps a 12 year old girl with a dentist fear go from screaming and crying to singing
- Success with infertility issues and "The Fear of the Fear."
- EFT newbie uses EFT successfully on a fear of roller coasters and high blood pressure (hypertension)
- Fear of Gynecological exams cured with EFT
- EFT eliminates a serious fear of vomiting
- EFT for fear of blood tests: Anorexia patient is able to receive hospital treatment
- EFT Newcomer takes care of her own phobia of dead animals
- Being Alone
- Water / Swimming
- Overcoming the fear of swimming in a lake--many aspects treated
- Anthony's water phobia--gone in an afternoon
- Atrial Fibrillation, EFT as a University Curriculum and a Water Phobia session saves lives
- Niki LaMont on a water phobia
- An intense test of a water phobia relief
- From extreme water phobia to swimmer with EFT ... "I wouldn
- A stubborn fear -- The importance of persistence and 'seemingly unrelated issues'
- EFT for different aspects of a tarantula scare
- Rapidly collapsing a complicated spider phobia
- Lainy Wells' first EFT test--spiders
- "I have a fear of spiders you can't begin to touch!!"
- Spider phobia relief as a side benefit
- Two at-risk teenagers simultaneously resolve severe phobias with EFT in one session
- EFT for a child
- High-fiving a spider - a skeptical newbie's first case
- It seemed like a bus phobia
- EFT calms a little girl
- EFT for a core fear brings a useful side effect
- Professionally stepping through an intense phobia case
- From being "scared to death of math" to an A in Algebra for a 36 year old returning to school
- A model case for all complicated phobias
- EFT for musicians
- Helping a young girl ride her bike
- The impossible phobia--how did you do that?
- Tapping to release future fears
- Tapping on a single point brought fear and pain to a halt
- 10 year follow-up on multiple phobias and dependency issues
- Roseanna Ellis helps an 11 year old boy overcome phobias
- EFT's Peace Potential: Establishing rapport and trust with a wasp
- How tapping for a fear automatically brought up a core issue -- birth trauma
- How EFT stopped 2 young boys from crying at the barbershop - a lesson in surrogate tapping
- EFT for fear of bees
- Cell phone phobia
- Fear of social occasions resolved despite not finding the cause
- MD introduces an innovative idea that brings relief for stubborn relationship issue
- Fear of worms points to critical "core issue"
- Mom uses EFT to help her fearful son ride a bike
- Progress with a "Social Phobic"
- Fear of clowns and mimes
- EFT for 7 year old Jasmine's stage fright
- Resolving fear of stepping out of the house brings improved blood pressure and cholesterol levels
- One brief EFT session releases a fear that originated at birth--Important for serious EFT students
- Tapping during a frightening movie to remove the fear
- Quick phobia work aims at specific events
- Creative EFT session brings up many specific events underlying a tunnel phobia
- EFT for getting over the fear of giving a teleclass
- Michelle LaPrise's email phobia
- Deborah Lindsey shares her opinion about three major fears and phobias
- Fear of small spaces...a case with many aspects
- Trouble with math clears up after doing EFT on a "ghost vision"
- EFT reduces test anxiety in moments
- A birth trauma was the core issue behind this phobia
- Lifelong fear of "Screaming Sirens" fades after attention to many aspects
- EFT side effect -- Banishing a show jumper
- Fear of entrapment and a useful way to uncover core issues
- Finding the REAL issues behind two (presumed) phobias
- Stripe phobia
- Collapsing fears associated with a gay man
- Severe tunnel phobic goes through 42 tunnels with minimal anxiety
- Surrogate EFT calms a frightened boy at school - a pipe bomb scare
- Extreme phobia eliminated after finding the core issue
- An intense fear of choking on food was linked to stress at the dinner table and cleared with EFT
- Fear of riding on horseback disappears - but only after getting to the core issue
- Bonnie's fear of stairs
- Mandy Momberg's friend was afraid to be in her own home -- One month follow-up verifies EFT success
- An Intense fear of tunnels in Norway
- 21 year swallowing phobia clears after 2 simple rounds of basic EFT
- A very, very detailed look at undoing a fish phobia
- Some thoughts on EFT for fear
- Bathroom phobia
- Camera-shy problem disappears after getting to core issue
- Using EFT for the wedding day jitters
- 40 Years of Terror gone after 60 minutes with EFT--smoking addiction gone too.
- Tapping for fear of the
- Tunnel phobia--"oh that is so easy"
- EFT and gay issues - fear of men
- Using EFT for stage anxiety
- EFT for the fear of failure/success -- this time with an actress
- Very simple relief for an intense phobia. What is a phobia anyway?
- Young boy's eating phobia aided by a fascinating intuitive/surrogate session
- Virtual EFT on a motorbike in South Africa
- Young Debby enjoys her day -- no more fear of the Austrian Alps
- Young girl
EFT for the fear of failure/success -- this time with an actress
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This is how Aileen Nobles' successful article begins, "My client is an actress and, although she was consistently in commercials, she had not had any acting roles in movies or television for quite a while. She was filled with fear that she would never make it as an actress. She was also having bouts of feeling depressed." Please note the global approaches Aileen uses for this common problem. This provides you an opportunity to study her language for clues to specific events that may bring about even deeper results. A great exercise.
My client is an actress and, although she was consistently in commercials, she had not had any acting roles in movies or television for quite a while. She was filled with fear that she would never make it as an actress. She was also having bouts of feeling depressed.
She was now dealing with "fear and doubt." What if she couldn't be successful as an actress?"
"What if she wasn't good enough?" It was time for some clearing. We started rubbing on the sore spot on her chest:
Even though I don't feel good enough to be successful...
Even though a part of me thinks I won't make it big...
Even though a part of me doesn't think I will succeed, another part of me thinks I will, and either way, I am quite wonderful anyway.
We went into the basic round of tapping the EFT points while saying the following reminder phrases:
I have this fear that I'm not going to be successful.
I've reached the ripe old age of 42, so when am I going to succeed?
I don't feel successful.
I've been in commercials and a lot of people haven't...that's being successful.
I'm 42 and feeling a bit desperate because I haven't made it.
I know I'm really good at what I do.
I haven't reached my goals, life is over, it's too late I'm 42.
There's no hope, I'll never make it.
She was laughing through a tear or two.
I can't believe I have these thoughts sometimes.
Sometimes they creep in and I can't bear the pain, and sometimes I have to numb them out.
I feel like a failure.
The words "failure" triggered floods of tears that took her completely by surprise.
I asked her where else in her life she felt like a failure and she went straight to not being able to conceive a child. The intensity was a 9 on a scale of 0 to 10. We tapped on:
Even though I feel like a failure because I couldn't get pregnant, I'm quite wonderful anyway.
I then had her close her eyes and go back to a time when felt disappointed in herself. She found a sub-personality who was 36 and realized she couldn't get pregnant. She tapped on herself as she talked to that part of her explaining that she was a future self. The 36 year old gradually became more calm and peaceful. I had Susan tap on this sub-personality for feelings of having failed for not being able to get pregnant as I tapped on her.
She assured this part of her that she is loved by her future self just the way she is. She explained that if the 36 year old was feeling OK about the situation then it would help her future self also. When this part was feeling OK about herself, Susan continued with her own tapping. There was still some intensity around sadness, which was another aspect affecting her. We tapped sadness down to a 1 out of 10, as she wanted to hold on to a teeny bit of it. Then we focused on clearing her anger.
Even though I'm angry at the universe, the universe has let me down, that's how it feels in my small picture...
Even though I'm so angry; things didn't work out the way I wanted...
Even though I have a right to be angry in the small picture, but there is a bigger picture...
Even though perhaps everything is in divine order, I just don't know the bigger picture...
Even though I am the only one that is hurting by holding on to this anger...
Even though anger isn't bringing me a baby or signing my pay check, so why I am holding on to it?
Her anger was now at a zero. We continued tapping:
Although I feel that now I've hit 42 nothing is going to happen, but what if that's when it begins to happen?
Even though I've spent all this time focusing on what's not happening, what a waste of time ... What if this is a great year for me? I believe it's coming. I allow it.
At that point, I felt very strongly that she was not allowing it. Why? I had her go within and ask, "Why am I not allowing myself success?" Susan said she remembered saying to herself. "If I can't have a baby, then let me have my career." But neither was happening. I had her tap on:
"If can't have a baby then I don't deserve to be successful." Floods of tears cascaded down her cheeks. "I decided to punish myself by not allowing success."
We tapped on letting go of self-punishment until all feelings of failure, sadness and anger were non-existent. We tapped on the baby issue being separate from being an actress.
Whether I get to be a mother or not in this lifetime, I am a fine actress.
Even though I may not become a mother in this lifetime, I choose to be a successful actress.
My time is coming up for success. I believe its coming, its just a matter of timing.
I can't control timing; I've proven that, I have to trust divine timing.
I've proven how useless I am at controlling timing and then I get angry because it isn't happening in my time frame.
Letting go of needing to control time. When I can walk on water, I might be able to control time. Meanwhile I choose to be happy, calm and accepting as I co-create my life.
Within two weeks Susan had a part in an HBO movie. She was feeling that life was just beginning at 42.
Thank you as usual Gary and EFT.
Love and light,
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