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Sexual abuse case

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

(author's name withheld for privacy reasons)

Dear Gary, Thank you for sending the EFT package so promptly. It arrived two days ago and I took the advice you gave in the yellow page, and I read PART 1 and then viewed the Part 1 tapes before trying anything (unlike what I usually tend to do). It was good to see the tape of Dave and his fear of water and I had seen the "6 Days at the VA" tape which you kindly sent earlier. (I had tried the TFT Professional Package some time ago, but found it did not demonstrate very much for me to work with, so while I was familiar with the concept of tapping with people, I had given the process away because of indifferent results.) Your tapes and manual provided good instruction - Thank you.

So, armed with this new knowledge, I decided to jump in at the deep end today with two clients I have worked with and have anguished over for some time. One is a Vietnam veteran and the other a sexual abuse victim. I have to say I achieved more with EFT in the one hour I spent with each of them today, than I have ever achieved before. They were really pleased and so was I. This type of case is fairly routine for me (i.e. I see a lot of war veterans and abuse victims) but we achieved so much, so relatively painlessly, that even I am still at the stage of saying "will this last". I'm sure the majority of their gains today will remain, even though with my newness with the technique, I may have to follow-up on some aspect(s).

GC COMMENT: Yes. Be aware of the aspects. You are likely to see them. One of the ways to know if your work "lasts" is to notice what the clients bring up in future sessions. Chances are, they will not bring up issues you have already EFT'd. They will be new issues or separate aspects of the previous issues (which, by the way, are the same as new issues).

Also, remember these gains. After awhile they begin to seem routine and, when you find a client with whom you are not making the same headway, the tendency is to discount EFT. I know that seems strange to you now, but it is not uncommon for newcomers to EFT to ask me "why doesn't it work anymore?" when they are having a "bad day."

LETTER CONTINUED: The sexual abuse victim has never been able to say out loud or even write down the name of an object that was used in her abuse - an object which is used by all of us practically every day in our lives. So each day she was reminded of her trauma by this object.

Yet, within thirty minutes she was able to say the word out loud to me, and a bit like Dave wanting to keep ducking his head under the water, she kept on saying the word and saying "I can say it, I can say it!" I must add that within this time, we also had to deal with other aspects which came in. Although we started with her fear associated with just thinking about the word, she reported that her body's abuse memories were coming up very strongly (which for her always happens and always made her therapy a painful experience). So we focused on her body's abuse memories which went to a zero, and then we returned to "the word" OUTSTANDING insight. Important issues often come up in the middle of a session and need to be dealt with right then before proceeding-GC. She processed this to the stage where she said that thinking of the word no longer brought up any anxiety (a zero), but that she was unable to say the word, and when thinking about saying it, her anxiety went up to a nine. This was then processed to a zero, and bingo, out popped the word. She was amazed that she had said it.

The Vietnam veteran is another (successful) story but I will leave him for another day.

I'm sure I will have my days when I will not get this success, but my main joy from today, was in seeing people whom I respect for their courage in facing their difficulties, and with whom I feel privileged to work, being able to deal with their problems so effectively. Author's name withheld for privacy reasons

GC COMMENT: You called it joy. It's also called love.


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