- Unseen Therapist At Work - Plus Insights
- Recordings 1-50
- "I Must Do It Right...Or Else" - A Childhood Abuse Session
- George's Premature Ejaculation Problem
- Virginia's "Not Good Enough" Dilemma
- What CAUSES "Karen's" Psychosis?
- DeeDee's Sibling Forgiveness
- Andre: Followup On Nightmares, Panic, Etc.
- Resolving Dave's Deeply Held "Father Anger"
- Reviving Stan's Sexual Impotence
- "I Must Do It Right!" And "It's My Fault" And More
- Do We Need An OEFT Specialist For Self-Harm Issues?
- What Causes Eczema?
- A Remedy For Guilt
- Forgiveness - A Big Topic
- Relationships: "I Run Away" - Full "Good Start" Session
- Jenny And The Empath Issue
- How To Be Thorough In Your Sessions
- Childhood Abuse - A Full "Good Start" Session
- Webinar 117 - How To Communicate With The Unseen Therapist
- The Importance Of CAUSE... With Sheri Baker
- How To Transition From EFT Tapping to OEFT (Unseen Therapist)
- Why Doesn't OEFT (Unseen Therapist) Work For Me?
- Exploring The CAUSE Of Fear, Panic, Heart Issues And More
- What Are The Realistic Expectations Of The Unseen Therapist?
- Many Ways To Communicate With Unseen Therapist
- Relief For Anger & Rejection With The Unseen Therapist
- Anxiety, Agoraphobia, & More: Full "Good Start" Session
- Another Way To Find Core Issues
- Adrian D's Back Pain: Impressive Delayed Healing
- How To Communicate With The Unseen Therapist
- How To Know If You Are Hearing Unseen Therapist's "Voice"
- Hesitant About Working With The Unseen Therapist?
- Dizziness, Anxiety And Blocked Emotions: An Unseen Therapist "Good Start" Session
- Simplicity In Recalling A Loving Moment
- Is Your Issue Logical... Or Emotional? And What To Do About It
- The "Blame Game" That Robs Our Personal Peace
- Unseen Therapist For Physical Ailments
- How To Approach "True Forgiveness"
- What Is REALLY Behind Rod's Serious Disease?
- Better In-Depth Results Using Association
- Success Resolving 30 Year Digestive Problems
- Full "Good Start" Session On Financial Freedom For Stan
- Relief For Marlene's Childhood Abuse - Full "Good Start" Session
- EFT Guild Presentation - EFT History, Examples, Q&A
- Four Unexpected Benefits From The Unseen Therapist
- Unseen Therapist Kicks The Center Out Of "Family Grief"
- Can Unseen Therapist Handle More Than One Issue At A Time?
- Unseen Therapist Expands Judy's Benefits - Learning To Listen
- Nadia: "Nobody Wants Me"
- Esophagus Problems
- Amelia's Hurting Hands
- How Do I Know If I Am Doing It "Right"?
- Macular Degeneration - Full "Good Start" Session
- Recordings 51-100
- The Benefits Of Consistently Asking The Unseen Therapist
- Why Do We Give Our Power Away When We Have The Unseen Therapist?
- Bringing Peace To An Extreme Anxiety Case
- "Impossible" Lung Cancer Recovery
- Resolution Of Severe Agoraphobia, Allergies, OCD, Depression And More
- Using EFT Effectively With A Toddler
- Can The Unseen Therapist Help Improve My Breathing?
- Using The Unseen Therapist To Release Childhood Sexual Torture
- Is Arthritis Pain REALLY Reversible?
- Normal Symptoms After A High Quality Session With The Unseen Therapist
- The Unseen Therapist Brings About A Beneficial Breathing Rhythm
- Can The Unseen Therapist Remake Bones, Tendons & Body Parts?
- Andre's Spectacular Visit With The Unseen Therapist
- May I Use Muscle Testing Along With The Unseen Therapist?
- Does EFT Or OEFT Cause Other Issues?
- If I Have Multiple Issues, Where Do I Start With Unseen Therapist?
- What If I Can't Locate Childhood Memories For Unseen Therapist To Address?
- Speeding Up The Healing Of Injuries
- How To Softly Address A Major Traumatic Event
- What If My Issue Won't Shift?
- What Is Really Behind Sarah's Breathing Problem?
- Can The Unseen Therapist Change The Unfairness Of The World?
- Does The Unseen Therapist Show Us Other Related Issues?
- Why Am I Getting Nowhere With EFT?
- Is There A Tapping Script For Fibroids?
- What If I Don't Remember The Details Of My Specific Event?
- What's Really Behind Her Lack Of Emotional Freedom?
- How To Avoid Failure
- A Common Sense Approach To Remedy Schizophrenia
- What Else May Cause Flu/Covid/Vaccination Symptoms?
- Exploring For Barb's Deeper Issues
- Severe Covid Vaccination Side Effects Disappear With The Unseen Therapist
- Cancer Patient Gains Extraordinary Peace
- Getting Beyond, "I Am Worthless."
- Bulimia: First Class Recovery Via The Unseen Therapist
- Dealing With "I'm Not Good Enough" And Rejection
- Getting Beyond Family Beliefs
- Emotional Solutions For Skin Problems
- The Ultimate Cause For Just About Everything
- Back Pain: Unique Causes And Solutions
- Solving Your Anxiety Issues
- Some Blocks To Success (Including The "Unknown")
- What's Not Done Yet?
- How To Address Acid Reflux, Hiatal Hernia & A-Fib
- My Husband Cheated On Me
- Is Freedom From Transverse Myelitis Possible?
- "Why Can't I Be Successful?"
- Forgiveness, Understanding And Childhood Sexual Abuse
- When People Self-Sabotage Their Results...
- Tinnitus and Kidney Issues Have Emotional Causes
- "I Am Powerless"
- Recordings 101-150
- Deb Tattersall's Healing Message
- Unnecessary Shame And Guilt Regarding Sex
- Toon Experiences Major Shift With Mother Issue
- Ela: "I Want Love On My Terms"
- Ela's Beautiful Results and "Impurity" Session - A Good Start
- Gabrielle Rutten, MD & Unseen Therapist Resolve Eye Pressure Issues
- Unseen Therapist Brings Relief To A Scary Traumatic Event
- Unseen Therapist Helps With Fatigue, Restless Leg Syndrome And Depression - A Good Start Session
- "Miriam's" Breathing Challenges - Asthma: A Good Start Session
- Jan Smith's New Hips
- "Sadie" Gets Deeper Into A Specific Event
- Using The Unseen Therapist For Children
- Using The Unseen Therapist As A Coach
- Using The Unseen Therapist For Parental Issues
- The Evolution of EFT, OEFT And The Unseen Therapist
- Helping Alice's Constant Stress - A "Good Start" Session
- Marni: Not Good Enough itis
- Recordings 1-50
- Episodes 1- 50
- #1: How To Get Faster (And Better) Recovery From Accidental Injuries
- #2: Impressive Improvement For Autism
- #3: From EFT To The Pot Of Gold
- #4: How To Fall In Love With A Butterfly
- #5: Unique Remedy For Multiple Sclerosis
- #6: Ask The Unseen Therapist, Save Time
- #7: Migraine Headaches - Aiming At The Cause
- #8: Does Gary Endorse Other EFT Trainings?
- #9: Revolutionizing Prayer
- #10: Will The Unseen Therapist Suffice?
- #11: Surrogate EFT - Why Does It Work And Who Can Do It?
- #12: Our "Impossible" Healings
- #13: Does Unseen Therapist Interfere With Your Free Will?
- #14: Why Do My Bad Memories Come Back?
- #15: Can I Sing A Higher Note?
- #16: One Ultimate Remedy For Everything
- #17: Thoughts On The Stairway To Miracles
- #18: We All Have The Same Issues
- #19: Do I Need To Be "Spiritual" For Unseen Therapist's Help?
- #20: What is Optimal EFT?
- #21: Optimal EFT vs EFT Tapping
- #22: Stuttering
- #23: What Are The "Right Words" To Use With EFT Tapping?
- #24: The world Is An Illusion
- #25: The Arrogance Of Our Senses
- #26: Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) And Its True Cause
- #27: OEFT - We Are Just Beginning
- #28: Optimal EFT - From Simple To Advanced
- #29: Is Everyone In Prison?
- #30: I Need To Be In Love With You
- #31: The Wisdom Is IN HERE
- #32: Learning To Listen
- #33: Working Together - Enhancing The Process
- #34: What Is Real Freedom?
- #35: The Ultimate Mentor
- #36: OEFT - The Big Picture
- Episodes 1- 50
- "Impossible" Healings
- "Impossible" Avoidance Of A C-Section
- Chronic Kidney Failure Shows "Impossible" Reversal: Blood Pressure Dramatically Improves
- Sandy Baker's “Impossible” Healing Of Her Frozen Shoulder
- Three "Impossible" Healings By An Unseen Therapist Newcomer
- "I Have NEVER Seen Anything Like This In My Medical Career"
- "Impossible": Finding A Lost Item, Calming An Aggressive Dog
- "Impossible" Healing For Severe Constipation
- Maite's Multiple "Impossible" Healings
- Far-Reaching "Impossible" Benefits
- Norma's "Impossible" Atrial Fibrillation (A-Fib) Healing
- "Impossible": From Sadness to Happiness In Minutes
- "Impossible" Healing of Asthma and Numbness
- The "Impossible" Healing of Bacterial Meningitis
- "Impossible" Overnight Back Pain Recovery
- "Impossible" Migraine Relief in Minutes
- Bennie The Dog's "Impossible" Heart Arrhythmia Recovery
- Gary's Severe Knee Injury Recovers In 24 Hours.
- "Impossible" Anger Management in One Session
- Shelagh's "impossible" recovery from a back injury
- Brenda's "Impossible" Arm Pain Relief
- "Impossible" Healings: Rheumatoid Arthritis, Fibromyalgia and More
- "Impossible" Calming of Special Needs Children
- "Impossible" Healings: Rash and Severe Headaches
- "Impossible" Healing of Multiple Events
- An "Impossible" healing for Pablo's Meningitis
- Kathleen Quinlan's "Impossible" Lucid Dream Experience
- Dan Paul's "Impossible" relief for asthma and many other ailments.
- Russell Byrne Witnesses "Impossible" Peace in the Prison
- Kathleen Lowndes Uses The Unseen Therapist For "Impossible" Recoveries
- Gabrielle Rutten, MD's "impossible" Optimal EFT result with her students
- Helle's Decades Long Unforgiveness Issue Suddenly Crumbled
- Rita Lee has "Impossible" Hearing Recovery
- Elaine Leggett's "Impossible" Therapy Session
- Rita Lee has "impossible" vision recovery
- Piedad Now Has A Normal Menstrual Cycle
- Camille's "impossible" neck recovery
- A kidney stone miracle
- The "Impossible" Social Phobia - Gone
- The Unseen Therapist brings Sue Wilson a "State of Grace"
- Chelsey no longer craves alcohol
- Francoise's "impossible" jaw pain -- all gone in 5 minutes
- Michel's Hematoma Vanished Overnight - "Impossible?"
- A Remedy for Diane's "Impossible" Thin-Walled Blood Veins
- The Stairway To Miracles
- The Stairway to Miracles
- There's Only One Of Us
- Our Dream
- True Forgiveness
- True Healing
- "I Am Not A Body, I Am free"
- The Ultimate Mentor
- The Ultimate Skill
- Prayer With a Purpose
- The Unseen Therapist on the Basketball Court
- The Game Where Everybody Wins
- A visit to "Seal City"
- "I'm in love with a butterfly"
- Lessons From A Rose
- A New "Vision"
- An Interview With God
- The Peace Parade
- Gratitude Forever
- Sharon's Magic Genie
- Lessons From Multiple Personalities
- A Poetic Journey To Oneness
- Science or Senses?
- A Miracle Moment
- Questions and Answers
- Is There A Non-Medical Way To Calm Anxiety?
- Does EFT Work Without This "Innovation?"
- Is There Scientific Evidence That Emotional Stress Weakens Our Immune Systems?
- Q&A Regarding "Old School EFT Tapping"
- How Can I Get Beyond Procrastination?
- What If I Can't Access My Emotions?
- Comparing EFT Tapping With Optimal EFT (The Unseen Therapist)
- What CAUSES Food Sensitivities?
- Should We "Tap In" The Positive?
- Bladder Control For An MS Patient?
- Can I Release A Tight Muscle In My Back?
- Money Issues And Fetus Issues
- Can EFT Help Me Recover From My Stroke?
- What Happens After Death?
- What Causes Dermatitis?
- Who Created Our Bodies?
- Is There Hope for Meniere's Disease?
- Can I Heal My A-Fib And Lyme Disease?
- I Really Need Help With My Love Life
- Can EFT Help With Paralysis?
- Do I need An EFT Specialist For Premature Ejaculation?
- Do I Have To Wait For Enlightenment To Get Results With OEFT?
- Can EFT Help With Shy Bladder?
- What About EFT For Cataracts and Ulcerative Colitis (IBD)?
- Can EFT Help My Blood-Clumping (Rouleau)?
- How Do I Use EFT For Those Who Can't Speak?
- Can EFT Help Me With Multiple Chemical Sensitivities?
- A Question About EFT Setup Affirmations
- Can You Help Me With Parkinson’s?
- Can EFT Treat Worm Infections?
- What EFT Technique Is Best For Weight Loss?
- How Do I Measure My Spinal Subluxation Intensity?
- What EFT Protocol Should I Use For Type 2 Diabetes?
- How To Find The "Root Cause" Of My Blood Pressure Problem?
- What To Do With My Trigeminal Neuralgia?
- Will Drugs Interfere With PTSD Treatment?
- Help With My Husband's Erectile Dysfunction And "Washed Up" Issues
- Can You Help Me Escape From PTSD?
- Can We Ever Not Be Sad About Broken Relationships?
- What About EFT Tapping vs. Optimal EFT?
- Can The Unseen Therapist Relieve My Son's Extreme Allergies?
- Can You Help Me With The "Yips?"
- Can You Help My Friend With Cancer?
- A Question About Narcolepsy
- What About "Laying On Of Hands?
- Can My Ailments Re-occur after using The Unseen Therapist?
- Is There A Cure For Type 1 Diabetes?
- What To Do About My Anxiety And Pains?
- What To Do About My Chronic Anxiety?
- Can We Create Comfort For Someone With Mental Illness?
- Can Gary's "Spiritual Gifts" Shrink My Fibroids?
- What Are The Benefits of Optimal EFT (OEFT)?
- The "Quick Fix" Myth of EFT
- What about animals?
- The Unseen Therapist and Lyme Disease
- Gary Gives Advanced Pointers To Paul Smith For ALS
- Can The Unseen Therapist Help With Sciatica?
- Kevin MacNeil asks about blood pressure
- Can you explain illnesses in infants, children and animals?
- EFT to attract a spouse?
- Should a cancer patient read The Unseen Therapist book?
- The Unseen Therapist and a balding issue
- Are there deeper levels to address?
- Dietland asks an advanced question about specific events
- Questions on world issues, prayer and EFT buddies
- "What if I cannot connect with the feeling within a specific event?"
- How do I approach chronic bronchitis?
- "Can I move through many specific events in a session?"
- Why do I stretch or laugh during Optimal EFT?
- An MD asks, "Why do you abandon medicine?"
- Andre's Visit From The Unseen Therapist During Panicky Times
- Another Letter From Andre On His Extraordinary Unseen Therapist Results
- Skin Burns Vanish In Mere Hours
- Andre's OCD Has Vanished
- Impressive Kidney Disease Recovery
- Reducing The Inner Resistance To Resolving Intense Anger
- Relief For Bingeing
- What Was The Real Cause Of These Pains?
- Lessons From A Congested Chest
- Benefits While Transitioning From EFT Tapping To OEFT
- Unseen Therapist Answers The Question: "Should I Get Vaccinated?"
- Newbie's Heart Issues Improve Quickly With The Unseen Therapist
- Webinar #114 - Communicating With The Unseen Therapist - Nami
- Impressive Guidance By The Unseen Therapist
- More WOW Moments From A New OEFT Member
- WOW Moments From A New OEFT Member
- Tymen Gets Unusual Relief From Triggering Memories
- Multiple Benefits From EFT and OEFT Over The Years
- Beyond EFT Tapping For Anxiety
- Skeptical Alexander Asks If This Was Beginner's Luck
- Did The Unseen Therapist Fix Monica's iPhone?
- Unseen Therapist Guidance, Depression And Unexpected Side Effect
- Husband's Behavior Dramatically Changes
- The Unseen Therapist Enhances Romance
- Hip & Leg Pains Fade As A Result Of Emotional Work
- "The Headache Went Away"
- OEFT Member Shares Her Progress
- Lovability Issues And Tennis Elbow Vanish At The Same Time
- Covid Sufferer Gains Relief
- Nance Receives Multiple Benefits From The Unseen Therapist
- OEFT Course Insights & Pain Experiment
- Larynx Swelling Disappears After Finding The Emotional Cause
- Praise For Severe Diabetes Leg Pain Recovery
- Severely Infected Tooth Socket Recovers Overnight
- Remarkable Recovery From Covid-19
- Sleep Issues, "Rules," Solid Skills And The Unseen Therapist
- The Unseen Therapist Diagnoses And Resolves Major Hidden Issues
- Sharon Clegg's Impressive Release From Childhood Abuse
- Webinar Example: Anne Ryan Shares Her Unseen Therapist Experiences
- Webinar Example: A Message From The Unseen Therapist - COPD
- Webinar Example - Bone-on-bone hip pain improvement
- Major Relief From Plantar Fasciitis
- From Desperation To Hope: A Love Filled Story
- Success For Relationships, Sexual Assualt, Business Confidence And More
- Risa's Benefits From OEFT Thoroughness
- Aliss's Remarkable Immerse-ucation Benefits
- Judy Ryan has major energy surge during an Unseen Therapist session
- A Great Start For Joshua's Serious Illness - ROHHAD
- The Immerse-ucation Process: Major Results
- The Unseen Therapist "digs around" in a client's neck
- Did The Unseen Therapist Find Young Jules' Stuffed Rabbit?
- Anne Ryan, The Unseen Therapist And A Move Toward Abundance
- Catherine tells her horrific story to The Unseen Therapist
- The Unseen Therapist as "Oxygen"
- Anna Garcia's serious, negative results using EFT "scripts"
- The Unseen Therapist eliminates eye bleeding and more
- Astonishing results for symptoms
- Reflux: The Unseen Therapist succeeds where EFT Tapping fell short
- An MD shares his EFT journey
- Anne Ryan on The Unseen Therapist's "deeper state of peace"
- Anne Ryan deepens her skills with The Unseen Therapist
- The "impossible" knee pain that only EFT could help
- The Unseen Therapist opens two hearts - "Love is my Shield"
- Did The Unseen Therapist rescue Daniela's aunt from death?
- Karen's vanishing wasp sting
- Jason flips into The Unseen Therapist's ultimate love
- Unexpected benefits from The Unseen Therapist
- My problem of being around sexually aggressive men
- 25 years of Acid Reflux vanishes
- "I'm never going to be able to do this!"
- "She's cancer free!"
- Darla Clears Major Emotional Issues In Minutes
- Spiritual Experiences
- Three Guidances From The Unseen Therapist
- Princess (A Dog) Visits With Her Deceased Human Mom
- Helen Bates' Beautiful Spiritual Experience
- Dave Moore's Spiritual Experiences
- Donna McLaurin, RN's "Awesome Glimpse"
- Meet Ray Kinman (Near Death Experience)
- Suzanne Gieseman describes her spiritual communications in a Webinar
- Jean Hutchinson's Spiritual Experience
- Kurt Brendstrup compares the human and spiritual worlds
- Anne Ryan on "gentle" spiritual experiences
- Catherine's Spiritual Experience
- Jan Firstenberg's "Angel" experience.
- Mireille Fruin's "Blanket full of love"
- "Seeing" the client at an earlier age.
- The Unseen Therapist - Touching the World
- #1: Understanding time is an illusion.
- #2: "Everything changed and time stood still."
- #3: "Please God, may I feel your peace?"
- #4: Cherry Wilson's spiritual experience.
- #5: Anita Muzard shares her spiritual experience
- #6: The Unexplainable Spiritual Experience
- #7: Suzan Proia had two Spiritual Awakenings
- #8: My "spiritual, out of this world experience."
- #9: Lilli Bennett's Spiritual Experience.
- #10: Fee Berry's spiritual experience included everything.
- #11: "I thought that I was being let in on what heaven must be like."
- #12: Describing the indescribable.
- #13: Katie Gallagher's Revelation
- #14: A must read: Joan Johnson's Spiritual Awakening.
- #15: "Everything is one."
- #16: Spiritual Experiences from Poland
- #17: "I felt the touch of God that night."
- #18: To Infinity and Beyond
- #19: Diane Roy's three spiritual experiences.
- #20: " I was speechless in overwhelming awe and wonder."
- #21: "Laughing in the wind."
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Anna Garcia's serious, negative results using EFT "scripts"
This is serious.
Many people are enticed to use EFT shortcuts and thus employ EFT "scripts" (ready made language that purports to fit your circumstances) to substitute for quality EFT. While this can provide benefits for some, those benefits tend to be partial or temporary. For others, like Anna in her letter below, the results can be devastating. They can lead to emotional tailspins, suicidal thoughts and disabilities.
EFT has evolved over the years into a top of the line healing method that, when properly used by well trained people, can go well beyond the reaches of conventional techniques. EFT scripts can also provide impressive benefits from time to time but, if you limit yourself to this amateur approach, you will be confined to the shallow end of the EFT swimming pool... and may drown.
Here is Anna's letter:
It is a detailed story so I have added red headline language for navigating and ease of reading. The specific comments about scripts are near the end.
The idea of writing something like what I am about to share here came to me quite a while ago, but somehow I left it aside as I felt that maybe it wouldn´t be that relevant to many people since you have already talked so much about “the perils of other EFT spinoffs and tapping scripts”, and it´s so clearly mentioned on the emofree.com website as well as on your newsletter sometimes.
However, after reading your latest newsletter this week, and seeing that once again your clarification on the perils of those scripts had been required, I felt that maybe offering my personal experience with them might give people an interesting insight into why they REALLY are something to be cautious about. Below is a summary of my own story, what EFT helped me heal, and my experience with some tapping scripts:
My EFT background:
I am an Advanced EFT Practitioner and I first found EFT when I was 27 (13 years ago now). I first used the technique with Dr. Cadarso in Madrid, Spain – a Dr. in Psychiatry and Psychology who also has other diplomas in several other therapies such as Gestalt Therapy, Rebirthing, Hypnotherapy, etc. She trained with you in the States and so obviously everything I learned from her in relation to EFT was the original methodology that you taught. I proceeded to study the 6th edition of your EFT manual after finishing my sessions with her (I had to finish them because I ran out of money at the time); a few years later, I came across all the training DVDs that you had out back then and, over time, I diligently studied everything that you shared on your website (fast-forward to this day, and I am still going back to www.emofree.com for all EFT-related topics).
What happened to me from the time I stopped doing sessions with Dr. Cadarso until you and Tina finished the incredible Gold Standard Official EFT tutorials is something that I have seen happening to many other people, and it is the reason why I am so adamant to always refer people back to emofree.com and the original training as you teach it any time I am asked about EFT. Without being dramatic, I can whole-heartedly say that the main reason I am alive and healthy nowadays is EFT – but EFT with the methodology that you use, the way you teach it.
I contacted Dr. Cadarso when I was 27, after finding the Institute of Energy Therapies´ website (of which she was the Director) and the section where they mentioned Energy Psychology and EFT (back then it was such an unheard-of therapy in Spain). I had tried so many other therapies (including counselling, hypnosis, different types of psychotherapy, etc. since the age of 9, and nothing had truly helped). I clearly remember the despair I was feeling the day I finally found out about EFT; I was really at my wits´ end. The PTSD I had been suffering from for such a long time had gotten to the point where I couldn´t stand the pain any more and I felt I couldn´t really function – basic daily life things felt like such an insurmountable struggle.
The PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) I was suffering from was the consequence of a number of traumas I had endured from a very young age. Without going into too much detail (as there is no need to do so here), I wanted to include a short list of those traumatic experiences here (so that people can get a better idea about how truly incredible EFT can be when used the right way - when you know how to use the technique properly):
Sexual abuse & terror:
I started being sexually abused by my maternal grandfather when I was just 9 months old. It got worse when my mother moved back in with her parents after separating from my dad when I was about 2 years old. The sexual abuse continued until he got too sick to do anything any more. I was 11 years old when he finally passed away. I was also the recipient of his emotional outbursts, so my terror of him was indescribable because I never knew what he would say or do to me when he was around.
At the age of 6, my dad disappeared. It was only when I was 32 that I finally got confirmation that he had disappeared because he had been killed. The trauma of his disappearance was worsened when I was raped by a friend of my mother´s when I was 7. I was then sexually abused again when I was 13 (by a random teenage boy when we were away on a beach holiday), and I was molested again by another family member when I was 16. (My mother knew about this last one because I told her but she didn´t do anything about it). When I finally confronted her about all the sexual abuse I had gone through (I was 21 when I did so), she just said to me: “oh well, move on, it´s not a big deal” (I should have expected that her reaction would be of that sort, since we´d always had a very strained relationship due my standing up to her any time she abused me, trying to defend and protect myself, but it was still a bit of a shock, to be honest).
My mother was diagnosed with depression (and something else that she wouldn´t tell us about) when I was 13, and then with paranoia in my early twenties, but she wouldn´t take any medication for it and in the following years I became her scapegoat – I can´t honestly remember one single day until I was finally able to move out at age 20, when there was no shouting or abuse coming from her at home.
Worse than her beatings was the daily mental and emotional abuse. It got so bad for me, that when I left home to go to College in a different city at age 20, she was not allowed to contact me in any way (the psychiatrist/psychologist that was treating me at the time put this restriction in place).
I had bulimia and then anorexia from the age of 16, until I eventually grew out of it in my mid-20s. My relationship with food and with myself, however, only healed through EFT. The self-hatred and the shame I always felt was so deeply-rooted that I never even dreamed that I could exist without it. I became an over-achiever both in school, sports, and music, as I took refuge in all those things to escape my reality. However, despite the avoidance helping temporarily as a coping mechanism, my health always showed the signs of the traumas I had experienced (and was experiencing).
Results with EFT:
Here is a brief list of the issues and ailments that I was able to heal through EFT: a chronic neck pain that I had had from the age of 8 until I was 28 (it gradually disappeared when I started doing EFT, until one day it was just gone) – we are talking about the type of pain that would have me paralysed in bed for days at times of high stress, and for which I needed high doses of medication until the crisis passed; chronic tonsillitis, chronic digestive issues (recurrent gastro-enteritis), and recurrent UTIs. The fact that I completely healed my relationship with food through EFT is still beyond me – I never thought I´d be able to love food and feel that food was good for me. I never knew that one day I´d be free of the vicious cycle I had been in for so long. I went from being a huge people-pleaser and doormat with no ability to set healthy boundaries, getting into panic attacks if I felt someone had gotten mad at me, to having the highest level of self-respect and making healthy boundaries an automatic thing for me.
Another health issue that I dealt with was that I suffered from extremely painful, incapacitating periods every month, needing to be fully medicated for three days in order to be able to bear the pain and symptoms. I had to go into the ER a few times to be treated for those, and at age 17 I was told that the period cramps I was getting were labour-like contractions; so you can imagine how it´s not just that I dreaded that “time of the month” coming– I was terrified of it and what it would entail for me. Nowadays, my improvement in that area has been about 80 per cent (thanks to EFT) and I expect for the remaining issues to be completely gone when I finish tapping away the last core events that have to do with the abuse that I went through and that are still on my list – I have needed some “extra time” with those, especially since my brain unblocked the memories gradually, as other things were tapped away).
In addition to all that, I used to need glasses, as I had short-sightedness and astigmatism in both eyes (2.75 in one, and 2.5 in the other). I tapped away what was at the core of my eyesight problems 10 years ago, and my eyesight has been perfect ever since (well, almost: there is a hint of short-sightedness - 0.2- in one eye, but that´s it). In contrast to the period pains, which took much longer to heal (as there were SO many contributing factors causing them – “table-legs”), guess how long it took for my eyesight to be healed (after having worn glasses for five years): 40 minutes. Literally. So, like you always say, Gary, some issues take longer than others, but you can also get “one-minute wonders” too.
EFT has also worked for me in relation to healing colds, infections, and other ailments. I have seen clients of mine healing themselves completely, through our work with EFT, of diseases like MS (Multiple-Sclerosis), Arthritis, PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), Fibromyalgia, OCD, and Depression (among others).
The incredible life-saving healing that I have experienced, and that I have witnessed others experience through EFT, is the reason why I am SO vocal about the perils of EFT spinoffs and EFT scripts.
In the time between my work with Dr. Cadarso in Madrid and the time I got access to your EFT training DVDs, I kept using EFT. However, I experienced what you have talked about many times: if you don´t know how to use EFT properly, you may get some results, but it´ll probably be about 5% or 10% of the results you could really get if you used it properly. The danger in that is that, like me, you could grow SO frustrated and SO disappointed that you´re not getting real results, that you´d just think “it doesn´t work”. And you´d never give it a go again. I was so close to that point that I can´t believe I stayed with it. And the tipping point for me to abandon EFT for a while was a tapping script.
I have to say, I initially got so excited about having found tapping scripts because I couldn´t afford to do sessions with a practitioner any more (money was also a very highly charged matter for me – in a negative way, because of how money was used to abuse and control when I was growing up- and so of course I experienced a lot of issues in that area at times as well), and I was aware of the fact that I wasn´t proficient enough with the technique yet. I found a whole bunch of tapping scripts for different issues: weight issues, self-esteem, abuse and trauma, financial problems... you name it. And diligent as I was, I went for it and started using them straight away.
Problems with scripts:
What NOBODY had mentioned in the instructions on how to use those scripts (and I got different ones from different so-called “EFT experts”) was that:
1) the use of positive affirmations in tapping scripts could easily bring up a whole lot of hidden issues that you were not aware of, and
2) that using a tapping script could also easily cause HUGE ABREACTIONS if the phrases used in the script triggered an original, unresolved trauma.
I learned this the hard way.
One day, as I was using a script for trauma, a previously repressed/forgotten flashback of one of the times where I´d been more brutally abused came up in my mind, and I went into a severe abreaction. I went into shock. I started crying, shaking, and screaming. I don´t know how I had the instinct in that moment to stop following the script and just tap through the points non-stop. It took me 45 minutes of continuous tapping, curled up in my bed, shaking, but it finally stopped. It was like the tap had been turned off. I had to tap on the remaining aftermath of the shock though, and that took a few more hours of tapping.
Looking back, I understand now that the reason why I automatically kept tapping was because I had already been doing EFT for over a year, and somehow my subconscious took over in that moment (as I couldn´t think clearly then).
Had that happened to me on day one of using EFT, I don´t know what could have happened to me. I don´t even want to think about it, but it is a reality that shock can send you into cardiac arrest. “Taking the edge off” and using the “tearless trauma technique” take care of that issue completely though – I wish I had known everything I know now back then.
Actual dangers in using scripts:
So, I hope that when you talk about “the perils of using EFT scripts”, people will understand that you use those words because there can be actual danger in using them. Of course not everyone has the level of trauma and PTSD that I had, and so they might not be at risk of suffering the type of abreaction that I experienced, but then again, some people may. And even if someone hasn´t experienced the abuse that I went through, the definition of trauma varies from person to person. The same experience that had minimum impact on one person could be extremely traumatic for another one. So many factors come into play when it comes to trauma, that it really is best to operate on the safe side (by following the official methodology when doing EFT).
I have helped, through my practise, thousands of people with different issues. Some of them had very severe traumas as well. If people only knew how amazingly gentle, non-invasive, and effective EFT is, when the “Gold Standard Official EFT” basics are followed properly! (Note here: no, I am not getting paid for saying this).
My heart breaks every time I meet someone who finds me after having done some EFT training, or after spending thousands of Euros in EFT sessions with no results at all. Yes, it´s true that EFT may not be for everybody, but as you say, Gary: it quite often gets astonishing results where nothings else worked.
Problems with "recycling" EFT:
It also affects me every time I see people “recycling” EFT and using the term in order to lure people in, when they have no idea about even the basic recipe, and when they actually do OTHER things with their clients. For instance, a few years ago I met a journalist who suffered from fibromyalgia telling me that EFT didn´t work at all, and when I asked her about what the practitioner had done with her in the sessions, she said that she had been instructed to lie on a plinth, and then the “therapist” had done some “energy work” with crystals placed on different parts of her body. And that´s what she thought EFT was! She hadn´t asked her any questions about her past to see when her problem had started, or what had happened to her / in her life the 6 months or the year prior to the disease showing up in her system; she didn´t even do the basic recipe once with her. She just “tapped a few points here and there”.
I hope that everyone going through their own healing process realises that they themselves are the best healer and guide; they have that power within themselves. I hope that they do their research when looking for someone to do EFT with, and that they go on to www.emofree.com first, watch the tutorials that you have so generously shared for free there (even if they just watch the ones about the basics of EFT!), and then see if what they have read and seen in the tutorials matches what they are doing with their EFT practitioner. Also, if there are any EFT practitioners reading this who trained with someone else, please do go ahead and watch all the tutorials on the website anyway. Believe me, you keep learning every time you watch them!
Gary, I wouldn´t be who I am today, and I wouldn´t be here at all, if it hadn´t been for EFT and the fact that you so generously offered it to everyone, expecting nothing in return. I don´t think words can convey how grateful I will always be to you, but I hope that knowing that through the work that I have done with EFT so far many people have healed themselves (from very extreme pain sometimes) will help you see how much you have contributed to saving many lives and making this world a better place. Thanks again for everything.
Lots of love,
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