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Using EFT

Using EFT to release the pain of saying goodbye

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

Here's a creative article by Angie Muccillo from Australia that touches on an issue that everyone has sooner or later. Very useful.

Hugs, Gary

By Angie Muccillo

Is there a person, place, or situation in your life you have to say goodbye to?  Is someone you love moving away, or dying, or are you the one moving away and leaving the place and the people you love behind?  Does the thought of saying goodbye in this case cause sadness or pain, regret, abandonment, grief, bitterness or fear?  Alternatively is there someone or something in the past that you had to say goodbye to and the thought of it still creates pain?

As life is never stagnant, the people and places in our lives will always come and go and so we are all at some stage faced with the prospect of saying goodbye.  This is a time which can be filled with an array of positive and negative emotions.  Many a song lyric, movie, poem and novel has been written around the theme of painful goodbyes.

Tap On Your Goodbyes

Using EFT to release the pain of saying goodbye can make it easier to accept the situation or to let go and move on from whatever person or circumstance is leaving or has left your life.  Saying goodbye is not always painful, but when it is painful, taking the time to focus on it and tap can be very healing and emotionally liberating.  It is also useful as a personal peace exercise.

How to tap on your goodbyes

Past Goodbyes
Make a list of all the painful goodbyes you can think of from when you were a child until now.  Give each painful goodbye a name or label (the time I had to say goodbye to…) and apply the EFT Movie Technique to each one of these movies until you release all the negative emotions around these specific events.

Future Goodbyes

Think of a person, place or thing that you will be saying goodbye to in the near future and on a scale of 0-10 rate how upset you are at the thought of this.  For example, it may be a friend who’s moving away or a close colleague who is leaving work or a child that is moving out of home or a parent who is returning to their home country or a partner who is leaving for war duty.  Use the setups below or create your own.

Even though it’s hard to say goodbye to ___ …

Even though saying goodbye to ___ is painful and fills me with sorrow, pain, fear, regret, anger…

Even though I don’t want to say goodbye to___ …

Even though saying goodbye hurts…

Even though I don’t want to move on in my life without ___ …

Even though I hate goodbyes…

Even though I’m afraid of letting go and moving on…

Energetic Goodbyes

Perhaps there is someone you still haven’t said goodbye to properly in your heart or you didn’t have a chance to say goodbye to before they died.  If there is someone you feel ready to say goodbye to, you can either think about or look at a picture of them and tap continuously as you repeat the word goodbye at each point.

Say Goodbye to the Pain of Saying Goodbye

Someone very important to me is about to leave my life by moving away, so now more than ever I am very grateful for the use of EFT in helping me to release the yucky stuff so I can embrace the experience with joy and gratitude. For me this current goodbye has triggered deep sadness reminding me of the pain associated with past goodbyes all of which I can neutralize with EFT.

Angie Muccillo


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