Food repulsion, email phobia, golf & rejection

Hi Everyone,

Michelle LaPrise offers some unique uses for EFT. My comments are interspersed within her message.

Hugs, Gary

GC COMMENT: Well now, isn't this interesting. This is the flip side of using EFT for addictive cravings. Instead of relieving urges for things we consume, we now find evidence that we can eliminate the repulsion (or phobic response?) to certain foods we have been avoiding. How many children, for example, develop a repulsion for vegetables, seeds, grains and a long list of other healthy foods? What does that do for long term health?

I doubt if we are going to instantly persuade every pediatrician, obesity counselor or nutritionist around the world to have their patients tap for changing their diets. However, we can start with our own families and see if it doesn't grow from there. It's certainly worth a try.

GC COMMENT: I wonder if something like this isn't happening with some students who actually develop a phobic response to books, tests, essays, and/or math. Some students excel in some subjects but fall flat in others. I know I never liked English or History in school. I did okay in them but I recall an emotional thud within my system every time I entered class or started some reading. Maybe it was just disinterest, I don't know. It was too long ago to tell. However, I suspect that certain subjects (or teachers) trigger some negative stuff in us which, in turn, affects our scholastic performance. It's all tappable.

GC COMMENT: Michelle and I discussed this golf endeavor over the phone and got on the subject of rejection. She will be making what amounts to "sales calls" on these golfers and, of course, may get some "no's," disapproving glances or even snickers. This is par for the course (pun intended) when anyone tries to establish a new business. You make your pitch and then notice both the positive and negative responses to it. Then you refine your presentation until the negatives fade and the positives are enhanced. Eventually, the whole thing works smoothly. It's all part of the process.

However, if you perceive the initial negatives as personal rejections, you are less likely to be persistent. You may even give up. Who wants that awful "I've been rejected" feeling? I use the phrase, "I stubbed my toe" for each rejection/failure. It's a "no big deal" type of phrase and can be a very helpful reframe for rejection. Some people need more than just that reframing phrase, however. For these people, tapping is in order.

Perceived rejection is one of the most expensive emotions any salesperson can have. It is the centerpiece of call reluctance and, as any experienced salesperson will tell you, no calls--no sales. Show a corporation how to eliminate or reduce the fear of rejection for their salespeople and you will make a big impression. Ask for 10% of the increase in profits instead of $X per hour. Corporations think this way. Get contracts signed. Get known. Get a reputation. Get going.

Therapists tend to phrase this fear as "the fear of being rejected." I think it needs to be rephrased as "the fear of being rejected again." Like so many issues, rejection launches off of past events where that "awful rejection feeling" was established. Chances are, it is those past issues that need to be EFT'd. To the extent they are neutralized, there will be less emotional charge on a new rejection prone instance.

Typically, if you EFT this problem, positive cognitive shifts will occur regarding what rejection really means. This is when the reframing phrase "I stubbed my toe" truly lands. This is when the salesperson can take "no's" constructively and build a better presentation from them. For many, this is true emotional freedom.