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How do you help a "non-feeling" client?

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How do you help a "non-feeling" client?

Note: For more info on this topic see, How do I find a client's "hidden issues?"

Here's a useful idea for clients who have so protected themselves from their traumatic past that they have "no feelings" about any of their yesterdays. They can remember the events, of course, sometimes in great detail. But they just sit there in session with no intensity whatsoever and routinely spill out the words. They are on automatic. No feelings.

In cases like these there appears to be no bench mark against which to measure one's progress with EFT. If they start with a glassy eyed zero and end with a glassy eyed zero, how do you know if you've made any headway? Do you try to assess their "glass eyed-ness?"

Perhaps. But there's another way.

EFT doesn't require the client to have a measurable intensity up front. It can still do its job even under such placid circumstances. Remember, the underlying idea is that the client be "tuned in" to the problem while addressing an imbalanced or disrupted energy system. "Tuning in" doesn't require emotional intensity. It only requires awareness. So try this....

Ask the client, "What memory would you rather not have?"

Although the client will no have no intensity about the memory, they will almost invariably be able to pick out a disagreeable one. Then isolate that specific memory and tap all over it. Dig up every aspect you can find and then use your intuition to find some more. Do many rounds. Do the entire Basic Recipe instead of the short cut. Throw in the 9 gamut and collarbone breathing. Stomp all over it. This will take you all of 15 or 20 minutes to do it thoroughly.

The client may give you clues during this process that progress is being made. Principle among them will be their propensity to change the subject to some other memory. This is evidence that you have helped resolve the original memory.

The real proof, however, will be when they come back to see you. Ask them again, "What memory would you rather not have?" and listen to their response. I'll bet you a week in Paris that THEY WILL BRING UP A DIFFERENT MEMORY--evidence indeed that you have weakened, or decimated, the first one. Then thoroughly tap on the new memory and ask them the same question the next time they come back. Tap on new memories as they come up and the odds are very high that you will be collapsing, one by one, the reasons for their self protection. Gradually, you will relieve their emotional burdens so they will begin to have some feelings and behave more normally.

Look for more smiles. A bounce in their step. A change in their vocabulary from negative to positive words. Be sure not to give yourself any credit, though. We wouldn't want a planet full of healers who actually feel competent about themselves now, would we?

Hugs, Gary




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