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EFT helps calm an autistic boy after he accidentally hurt his mother

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Hi Everyone,

We have many reports where autistic symptoms have been helped by EFT. Here is another written by Victoria Deasy. She says, "After the first round, he was a bit better, but it took two more rounds to get him completely calm. I couldn't ask him to rate his level of intensity because he would not have understood what that meant. But, by this time he was smiling, he looked at his mom's hand as if nothing were wrong; he hugged his mom cheerfully, and seemed perfectly content."

Hugs, Gary


By Victoria Deasy

I have been using EFT with myself, family and friends for about a year and a half and I learn so much from the newsletters. I am about to purchase the DVDs so that I can learn even more.

I know that Gary says to use it on everything and anything but I find myself not thinking of EFT at first, and then surprising myself by realizing that I CAN use it. But, I am getting better at this. I have had great results on myself (most notably the complete stopping of an IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) crisis; on my teenage son (to decrease angry outbursts); and on friends (for back pain and migraines).

But, the one I got the most satisfaction from happened recently with a student of mine. I teach deaf kids (one-on-one auditory therapy) and I often have students with additional disabilities. One of these students, I will call him "Billy" (age 10), is both deaf and autistic. He started off completely non-verbal and uncommunicative in any way, usually spending most of our lessons banging his head on the table or floor. In the ensuing years, he has made huge progress, now being very cooperative and speaking in word strings and sentences. He rarely exhibits behavioral problems anymore.

Well, one day, when he and his mom were early for a lesson and waiting for me, they were playing out front and Billy accidentally smashed his mom's hand between two heavy chairs. Mom screamed in pain and this disturbed Billy quite a bit. By the time I invited them into the lesson, mom was distressed, and Billy was almost inconsolable. Looking at the pain on his Mom's face did not help much and when we got her an ice pack for her hand, Billy got even worse.

We tried to assure him in language we knew he could understand that it was an accident and that mom was all right now. Billy kept saying "I'm sorry" and "I'm not a bully" (having learned about bullying in school recently), and he would constantly rub his eyes with the palms of his hands, trying desperately to keep from crying. I had not seen this child react to anything so hugely in a very long time.

I tried to distract him with toys from our lesson, but nothing worked. He just could not keep from perseverating on his mom's hand. It finally got to the point that I knew that doing the lesson would be futile. I was just about to call it quits, when I thought of EFT (duh!). I asked Billy's mom if I could try it (she already knew a bit because I had talked to her about it before). She agreed.

I started tapping my karate point, mom copied and lo and behold, this very distracted child, started copying his mom. I did a setup, speaking as if I were Billy:

Even though I am very upset about hurting my mom, I didn't mean to do it, it was only an accident, I am still a neat kid.

Then, I did a standard EFT round, tapping all the points, including the fingers, using reminder phrases like: I am really a kind and thoughtful boy, I would never hurt anyone on purpose, I am upset about all this, I can calm myself down, it is all over now and I can go on with other things, my mom is ok now, I am a good kid and my mom knows this and she loves me no matter what...

After the first round, he was a bit better, but it took two more rounds to get him completely calm. I couldn't ask him to rate his level of intensity because he would not have understood what that meant. But, by this time he was smiling, he looked at his mom's hand as if nothing were wrong; he hugged his mom cheerfully, and seemed perfectly content. We proceeded with his lesson, and he had one of the best, most productive lessons I think we have ever had! (With mom's permission, we are going to use EFT at each lesson to possibly help him to speak less mechanically and to learn with more ease).

I plan on finding ways to help other handicapped kids, not just on my caseload but many, many others. There are so many kids who have behavioral outbursts or anxiety issues and the schools tend to punish them, restrain them or put them in 'seclusion rooms.' These seclusion rooms have been in the news recently as being just disastrous and even dangerous for these kids. They are being shut down (thank goodness) but the school personnel have nothing to use instead. How wonderful it would be if we could give them the skills of EFT to help these kids! I am not quite sure how I am going to proceed with this mission, but I know that I will first need to study all the DVDs and get lots more practice.

I have other stories about my teenage son (adopted and coming to us with FASD (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) and resultant ADHD, CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder), various Learning Disabilities and much more. I have taught him to use EFT but he usually 'fights' me on this, so I surrogate tap for him with great results.

Thank you, Gary, for giving us this gift of EFT. And thank you to all who write your stories in the newsletter because they have taught and continue to teach so much.

Regards,

Victoria Deasy

Special Ed Teacher/Consultant/Advocate

 

 

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