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Here is an excellent article that many EFT Newbies will want to read. It was sent to me by Silvia Hartmann and first appeared as a question and answer session on a Yahoo Groups forum. As you will see, the article starts with an inquiry by "Julia X" who discusses her difficult emotional problems and her frustration of not getting results with EFT. This type of confusion can occur where people have minimal training in EFT and is easily remedied by studying our widely acclaimed EFT training videos. In addition, Silvia responds to Julia and gives her many common sense EFT approaches simply by drawing from Julia's own language in her initial inquiry. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR NEWCOMERS WHO ARE CONFUSED OVER WHICH STATEMENTS TO USE. It is not confusing at all once you get the sense of wording your phrases to aim at the problem. Silvia Hartmann provides us with some first class examples of this process.

By Silvia Hartmann

First, Julia's inquiry

Hello everyone here,

I have been having PA's [Panic Attacks] and chronic anxiety for almost ten years. I have given up work (college lecturer/counsellor) and pretty much don't go anywhere (I get very panicky when I go further than about 10 miles from home). I have read Nicola's excellent book, and I've tried EFT but I'm a bit confused about just what I'm tapping for. The problem is that I learned to 'control' my (classic) panic attacks quite early on, but my (very clever!) body found different ways to draw my attention to my 'burning house'. So instead of classic PA's, I will feel terribly sick, and or get problems with my eyesight, and or get jelly legs (so that I bump into things), and so many other things over the years that I just don't trust myself any more. My confidence is at zero. I just don't know what my body will come up with next.

My burning house is, I THINK, something to do with assertiveness, and also my relationship with my mother. My mother is ill at the moment, and in hospital 150 miles away, and I'm in agonies of guilt because I can't go and see her. I am truly at the end of my tether - I'm having psychotherapy, but of course it's by phone because I won't travel to where she practices. I can see no way out, and everyone here talks about how brilliant EFT is - and I just don't think I'm doing it right. I would be so grateful for any help. I truly am desperate. I have a superb husband, who is utterly supportive (and reckons it's all down to my relationship with my mum - he says she's controlling and unkind). Thank you for listening Julia x

Silvia Hartmann's response:

Julia, EFT is so marvelous because YOU get to CONTROL exactly what you're tapping on.

Make a list and just tap through it to start with, so you get to learn how it FEELS and just what kind of things work for you, what type of statements, and how you respond (it's like you're learning to become your own therapist and get to know yourself in the process).

From your mail, there are a heap of opening statements you can try out:

- I have had chronic anxiety for almost ten years and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

That would be a good start to any "let's listen to Julia and try and balance her energy system so she feels better" session to begin with.

- I don't go anywhere

- I'm a bit confused about just what I'm tapping for.

- Even though I tried to 'control' my (classic) panic attacks ...

- Evn though I will feel terribly sick, ....

- Even though I problems with my eyesight,

- Even though I get jelly legs ....

- Even though I bump into things ...

Confidence Set:

- Even though I just don't trust myself any more ...

- Even though my confidence is at zero.

- Even though I just don't know what my body will come up with next ...

- Even though I THINK my burning house is something to do with assertiveness ...

<As an aside, you marked out THINK in capitals in that sentence. I don't know what that means but as it's marked out, it means something IMPORTANT to YOU. So try a tap on:

- Even though I THINK, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

**** I'd make that one a priority if I were you.>

Next set:

Even though my mother is ill, I deeply ...

Even though I'm in agonies of guilt ....

Even though I am truly at the end of my tether ...

<WHAT tether? What is the tether tethering you to WHAT?>

Next set:

Even though I can see no way out, ...

Even though I just don't think I'm doing it right...

Even though I truly am desperate ...

Even though I have a superb husband ...

Even though my husband says my mother is controlling and unkind ...

As you can see, I just took your own words from your email, paragraph by paragraph, to highlight just HOW you create your own custom made opening statements with EFT from what YOU are thinking, feeling and saying.

It's one of the truly amazing things about EFT - you get to LISTEN TO YOUR SELF and HEAR YOUR SELF tell your self what's wrong, all the time, as you're telling it to others.

Print this out and tap all the statements over a period of time, as and when, as your very own "custom training for Julia in EFT".

Not to "cure" you of all your ills, but just to get to know how Julia and EFT get along, how it works, what it feels like.

It's an education in your own energy system, and how your thoughts, energy flow, emotions and symptoms hang together REALLY in truth and all reality.

This is the first step on a truly amazing journey, and one we have all taken, and one that was probably one of the greatest eye openers we've ever had.

And for all the others who are listening, try this method to find your own words to make your own opening statements.

Sit down and write an email, you don't need to post it, really let go and tell it as it is, what troubles you and what winds you up, and then go through it and extract the opening statements as though you were your own therapist, just like I have just done, write them out clearly, print them out and

... start tapping!

That's the way forward to a completely different future altogether, and should THAT idea cause some anxiety, well ...

"I have a future and I deeply and profoundly LOVE and ACCEPT myself!"

Take heart, have faith, start tapping!

Golden sunshine,

Silvia :-)

Silvia Hartmann

 

 

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