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Success via tapping on a two-sided conflict

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Hi Everyone,

Note how Nancy Southern helps her client to see the conflict between her husband and her art career. She says, "Upon looking at the rest of her life from this new perspective, a number of the smaller bothersome aspects suddenly made sense to her.  She realized she was switching back and forth between the two sides of her brain depending on whether she needed to be tending to her husband or household needs (which she also enjoys) or doing her art."

Hugs, Gary


By Nancy Southern, MSW, EFT-ADV

Dear Gary,

Recently, I was sharing EFT with an artist who felt there was a conflict between her husband's need for attention and the time she needs to focus on her artwork.  Her overall discomfort was about a 6-7 on the 0-10 scale.  It became evident fairly quickly, that to do one issue at a time was not working for her.  She simply couldn't stay focused through a sequence on only one part of what seemed to be a much bigger and more complicated problem.

I remembered reading an article on the EFT website by David Lake, about tapping on the KC point while talking about the problem in general, much like in traditional talk therapy.  I suggested we try that method and much to my surprise, and I think hers too, she noticed cognitive shifts on several interrelated aspects while she tapped and told me the whole story.

We then applied the Movie Technique, tested each of the variables in the scenario and her levels of intensity were all between 0-3.  We could then focus on the remaining elements separately and address these emotional charges.  She was now able to do that and got each one to 0.

Years ago I heard the premise that there are basically two learning styles: linear and global.  Linear learners like to take it one step at a time without needing to have the big picture in their focus.  Global learners prefer to see and understand the big picture and then they can focus on the steps for accomplishing the goal.  This information came to mind as I was working with this artist.

Even though she was describing herself as someone who is very organized and methodical (more linear), it dawned on me that she's actually more comfortable as a global thinker and learner.  The clue came to me as she described how she does her artwork.  She has a clear vision of what she wants to create (the final image) and then methodically and systematically does these beautiful and intricate (award winning) drawings.  Even if she makes changes along the way, the overall vision is what gives reference to what she's creating.

Upon looking at the rest of her life from this new perspective, a number of the smaller bothersome aspects suddenly made sense to her.  She realized she was switching back and forth between the two sides of her brain depending on whether she needed to be tending to her husband or household needs (which she also enjoys) or doing her art.  She had been finding it hard to switch from one to the other sometimes and taking it out on him which didn't feel good either.  After tapping through this aspect, she realized that she could now explain to him about needing a little time while she switched gears (or sides of her brain).

I delight in the flexible ways to use EFT and to integrate other information in the process. This experience helped me to understand why the "tapping while talking about the big picture" method worked better for her than starting with one aspect at a time. This was a wonderful A-ha for both of us! Thanks a "whole brain" lot!

Nancy Southern, MSW, EFT-ADV

 

 

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