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Tapping while responding to a nasty comment from the past

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Hi Everyone,

Here's an interesting idea from Roushan Martens from the UK. Readers might find it even more useful when combined with specific events.

Hugs, Gary


By Roushan Martens


I have been holding workshops for some time in using EFT to address weight issues. As part of the workshop, I ask participants to recall comments made to them about weight, and we then tap together as a group on the comments. So, for example, if someone has been told that they're 'fat and ugly', we would use the set-up statement:

Even though this person told me I'm fat and ugly... and then tap around the points, using 'fat and ugly' as the reminder phrase.

Something I added to this a while ago was to tap around the points (no set-up statement), whilst the person 'replies' to this comment. So, for example, as we all tap as a group, the person might say things like: How dare you say that! ... Who do you think you are? ... You're not so great looking yourself! and so on.

This has proven to be a very cathartic process for a lot of people, and really helps remove the intensity of their hurt at the comment.

In the last workshop I ran, one member of the group (I'll call her Janet) recalled a comment from her mother: 'You look like the back of a bus. Have a cake.' We all tapped as a group, using the comment as the reminder phrase, which took the intensity around this comment from a 10 on a scale of 0 to 10 to an 8 out of 10.

For the second round, I asked Janet what she might like to reply to this comment, but she couldn't come up with anything. So I asked the group if they might like to suggest something. The group struggled a bit too, so I made a couple of suggestions of my own, at each point checking them out with Janet, who nodded at each one:

That really hurt ... Why would you say that? ... That was mean.

And then the group began to offer their own suggestions: You're a bad mother ... Who do you think you are to say that to me ...Get lost!

And we all repeated each person's suggestion loudly, one for each tapping point, as we tapped. At the end of the round, I asked Janet where her intensity was, and she said that now it just 'felt ridiculous' - the intensity was gone. She said that it was really nice to have everyone giving these suggestions, as her mother was quite a scary person, and she couldn't imagine saying any of those things to her herself.

It was really quite moving, to see everyone supporting Janet through the group like this, and I intend to do the exercise this way again in future - I encourage anyone running groups (for anything) to give this a try!

Roushan Martens

 

 

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