- Articles & Ideas
- Being Specific
- Tapping on specific events without knowing what they are
- What to do when you can't find your own specific events or issues
- Two cases: (1) Being Specific and (2) Being General
- EFT for the Soul - global versus specific approaches
- How to collapse multiple SPECIFIC EVENTS in one Borrowing Benefits session
- EFT for a bashful bladder - a beautiful example of going for SPECIFIC EVENTS
- Ann Adams on BEING SPECIFIC
- Using NLP to Chunk Down for specifics in an EFT session
- The importance of being specific in the EFT Setup Phrase
- Find Early Specific Events
- How to apply EFT when there are no clear, specific memories to tap on
- Instruction
- Surrogate
- Surrogate tapping for terrorists
- Surrogate EFT Taken Another Step - Clearing Ancestral (Foundational) Issues
- Surrogate tapping and collarbone breathing
- Helping Helpers: Using Surrogate EFT for Emergencies
- Solid motivation to use Surrogate EFT
- Surrogate EFT for Chronic Pulmonary Obstruction Disorder
- Surrogate/distance tapping for Cassie the dog
- "Seeing" disrupted energy enhances mental (surrogate) tapping
- Successful surrogate tapping for schizophrenic son
- Surrogate EFT to help patients going through medical procedures
- Surrogate EFT arrests a grand mal seizure
- Beth's Stalker Problem Resolved with Surrogate EFT
- What to do in the hospital
- A surrogate EFT Teddy Bear became a special friend for a housebound woman
- Responses to questions on surrogate muscle testing
- Simple uses of Surrogate EFT during every day conversations
- Surrogate tapping stops serious nose bleed
- Surrogate EFT -- "The pain is leaving now through my fingertips."
- Surrogate EFT substantially aids incontinence, anger, dementia and hearing loss.
- Skeptic of surrogate EFT becomes a believer
- A followup after a surrogate session in Albuquerque--Betsy's impressive results
- A touching story: Easing Mary's death through surrogate EFT
- How to do Intentional (or Surrogate) EFT--a 4 Part Series
- Using surrogate EFT for easing a courtroom testimony
- After trying a different approach for Surrogate EFT, a crying baby quiets down
- Successful Surrogate EFT for Seizures
- Breathing problems, surrogate tapping, depression and Try it on Everything
- Surrogate tapping on an "Entity"
- Some thoughts about surrogate (remote) EFT
- Resolving a family fight with surrogate EFT
- Surrogate tapping on a sneezing attack, Successful use of EFT on a raspy throat AND arm wrestling success using only two fingers.
- Surrogate EFT relieves baby
- Techniques
- Turning the Movie Technique into a cartoon helps with Dysautonomia episode
- Discovering "core scenes"
- A short version of the Collar Bone Breathing Technique
- Stepping back from the movie in the EFT Movie Technique
- Doing the EFT Constricted Breathing Technique a few times a day increased Paul
- The "Let it be Easy" Technique
- EFT and the Double Bubble technique: Or how to successfully deal with chronic issues!
- Variations on EFT's Movie Technique
- Doing the EFT Movie Technique in slow motion -- getting to important and otherwise hidden aspects
- The Stepping into Neutral Technique
- Everyday EFT to Create a Fabulous Life--The Emotional Joy Technique
- The Argument Tapping Technique
- Gwyneth Moss's Imagineering Technique for Endometriosis
- The "Tap while you Gripe" Technique
- The EFT Imagineering Technique
- Refusal Tapping Technique
- The "Turbo-Tapping" Technique
- The Bundling Movie Technique for gently addressing long term abuse cases
- Behind the Scenes of the Movie Technique
- The Volcano Technique
- The Movie Technique for kinesthetic learners
- Living your Dreams with The Hero Technique
- For procrastination: The "Feel the Feeling" Technique
- Creative Uses of The EFT Movie Technique
- The benefits of describing EFT as a relaxation technique
- The Gratitude Diet - A Thanksgiving Technique
- Time and Reframing: An Easy Technique that Generates Fast Results
- General
- Testing our work and personal radiation
- Useful ways to expand the EFT Set-up Phrase
- Using "It's In Here" in the EFT Setup phrase
- Jarrod Bailey from Australia experiments with EFT Setup Phrases and explains his findings
- Touch And Breathe--TAB Paper
- Using the 9 Gamut Procedure when emotion gets "stuck in the right brain"
- Tapping on both sides of the body, on feel-good points only, then taking deep breaths after each point
- Injecting "want to" into the EFT Setup language
- EFT Imagineering cleared lungs and improved breathing
- Using the EFT setup statement as a a pledge
- Dr. Carol Look discusses the importance of testing in EFT
- The advantages of using the 9 Gamut Procedure
- EFT to clear chakras and increase vibration
- Testing your EFT work - The
- Adding muscle testing to EFT
- Effectively using "What if" in the EFT Setup Phrase
- A creative way to develop EFT Setup statements
- Gwyneth Moss on Reality Testing
- The Alternate Phrase Technique--tapping on both sides of a conflict.
- Ideas on Muscle Testing, EFT and Developing Intuition
- Why do we use negatives in the EFT setup statement?
- How do I choose the phrases to use while doing EFT?
- Soft language to ease The EFT Set-Up Phrases
- Ideas for enhancing the standard EFT Setup
- How Do You Know What To Say For an EFT Setup Phrase?
- A New Way to Use the
- A useful EFT phrase--"Reclaiming" all our possibilities
- Surrogate
- Self
- Self sabotage-healing the parts that don
- EFT gives relief to a self-cutter by first finding emotional causes
- Anja shares her self-healing process
- Getting the most out of self-help books with EFT
- Billy McCombie self applies EFT for an impressive list of benefits
- S-L-O-W EFT for self help on broad issues
- Give Yourself a Gift by Creating an EFT Journal
- Resolving childhood issues with EFT increases compassion for self
- Tapping for negative self-talk - "I am unable to step out of it"
- Paradoxes in validating one's Self
- When self acceptance becomes a problem...
- EFT for relief from feeling responsible for everyone else before taking care of self
- The role of self-punishment in Dis-ease
- Steve Wells series on EFT and Self-Acceptance--Part 1 of 4--(subsequent parts given below)
- EFT improves self esteem
- Rue Hass on "I deeply and completely accept myself"
- EFT As a Conversation With Yourself
- Self acceptance without judgment
- A Complex Case - Doubts and Self-empowerment - The Return of Hair and more
- Julie Howard uses EFT for being hard on herself
- Surrogate EFT for Yourself
- Self Image: An insightful look at the "Writings on our Walls"
- EFT for Self Confidence
- EFT for the lingering effects of a brain tumor from 12 years before
- Mary Hunt on Intuition: Getting yourself out of the way.
- Thoughts on Surrogate EFT and "getting yourself out of the way"
- Frances Songhurst finally gets a rapid result for herself
- Developing self compassion with persistent EFT
- The 3-2-1 process: untangling yourself from others
- Freeing our "Critical Mind" into Self Acceptance with EFT
- Using "I love THAT about myself" in the EFT process
- Tapping on one's self talk--a great idea for collapsing our "inner critic"
- EFT helps a man look people in the eye
- Karen's thoughts on self forgiveness
- Professional
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 6 of 7
- Tips for when clients have difficulty accessing their feelings
- EFT Speeds Rehabilitation and Physical Therapy: Irene Mitchell Update
- How To Tell In Advance Whether An EFT Practitioner Has Sufficient Skill in EFT
- How to use EFT when the client won't reveal the issue
- Dr. Pat Carrington's "EFT At Work In A Hospital" Series
- Client has Somatic Release that involved shaking in a seizure-like fashion
- How to Build Your EFT Practice by Leveraging Your Biggest Resource
- Physical therapy like it should be--dramatic improvements in a rehab center
- When clients get overwhelmed or frustrated with EFT
- When clients can
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 7 of 7
- The Emotional Scale in EFT Practice
- Hearing voices and multiple issues relieved: "One session of EFT does more for me than years of [conventional] therapy ever could."
- Is Your Chosen EFT Practitioner Really Helping You?
- Some thoughts about doing EFT with multilingual clients
- Curtis Steele, MD shares his thoughts and experiences using EFT in a psychiatric practice
- Good reasons for using an EFT Practitioner
- Ingrid Dinter's Box Technique for helping a client wind down when time is running out in a session
- EFT used to calm down a client during a severe seizure episode
- Working through the pain and fear in the midst of divorce
- EFT'er encourages clients to find their favorite EFT points
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola - Part 1 of 7
- EFT with a schizophrenic client
- A detailed EFT oriented session via email for a client with serious issues
- The Pros and Cons of EFT Telephone Therapy
- Did EFT help Gayla's client reduce the blockage in his arteries?
- What stops clients from pursuing their dreams?
- Surrogate EFT used to calm down a bi-polar client
- Why see an EFT practitioner?
- Fitting EFT within the client's belief system
- Limiting beliefs may limit your EFT practice
- Making A Great Impression With Your New EFT Client
- What to do when your client is beset by an "evil monster"
- Using EFT to create positive self beliefs for a client who deems herself "not good enough"
- 4 Part Series on Helping Clients with their 0-10 Accuracy
- Psychosis: Hearing Voices--EFT achieves more in one session than 13 years of medications and traditional therapy.
- Karen Donaldson Highlights Some "Slimming Down" Successes With Her Clients -- Many Side Issues Explored
- Surrogate EFT brings calming effect to Schizophrenic client
- Yet another impressive use of Surrogate EFT--this time an audience sends the client out of the room and taps for her
- The Many Factors Affecting Client Motivation and Follow Through
- If the client starts shaking...
- If your client believes that the world is run by a red elephant....
- How do I use EFT for the client who has many, many, many severe issues?
- Listening to this client's words led to a surprising core issue
- Successful Surrogate EFT for a Cerebral Palsy client
- Profuse bleeding stops even though client was on Coumadin (blood thinner)
- Shaking Off Negative Client Energies Between Sessions
- Adding EFT to conventional talk therapy
- EFT aids an "energy sensitive" client
- Criminal defense attorney uses EFT to help innocent client during cross-examination
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 2 of 7
- EFT and Time Line Therapy helps 92 year old man live in the now
- When should you consult an EFT Practitioner?
- The Apex Effect -- client cannot even remember the details of her former problem
- Dr. Patricia Carrington's use of "Choices" in the EFT Setup Phrase
- Rebecca Marina's 10 steps to building a prosperous EFT practice
- When The Client Wishes To Maintain Privacy
- An answer as to why some clients do not tap even when they know EFT will help them?
- Two successes where the client surrogate taps for other people--everyone benefits
- Tips to consider when you have had "incomplete success" with an EFT client
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola Part 3
- Do you attract clients that want everything for free?
- Kinetic tremor disappears as Turkish MD addresses client's emotional issues
- 7 Step pre-tapping checklist for client work
- When the client won't speak about the issue
- Helping clients by using "Meta Programs"
- EFT Successfully Collapses Childhood Beliefs About Food -- Client Stops Overeating
- Enhancing the life of Burak -- a Down Syndrome client
- Using EFT for the client who feels bad about herself
- 8 tips for building your EFT practice with email newsletters
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 4 of 7
- EFT Clients!
- What Questions Should You Ask When Seeking An EFT Practitioner?
- Thoughts on following your EFT intuition with clients
- EFT from a CLIENT'S POINT OF VIEW
- Hair dresser helps client raise her arm - The salon clients cheered
- How to search for an EFT Practitioner
- The client who is "Never Good Enough" and The Brick Wall Technique
- Doing EFT for the client that is afraid to get started
- How this therapist uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and EFT together
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 5 of 7
- Improving results with dissociated clients
- Core Issues
- The "7 Whys" method for getting to core issues
- When "insignificant" childhood events are the real core issues
- Getting To Feelings And Core Issues By Imagining You Are Writing A Story - A Version Of The EFT Tell The Story Technique
- An Impressive Search For EFT Core Issues -- Asking The Right Questions
- A self questioning method for getting to your core issues
- An extraordinary account of tapping on a prenatal core issue -- or how to change a life in moments
- In Search Of An Elusive EFT Core Issue
- Finding An EFT Core Issue -- "But What Did He Give You?"
- Barbara shares an insightful way to find core issues
- An excellent question to help find core issues
- Finding and Dealing with Core Events
- Finding core issues when someone is emotionally flat lining
- The core issue behind Carl's inability to "perform"
- Collapsing the core issues of procrastination with EFT
- A classic case for finding a core issue
- Why Cathy didn't enjoy Christmas--an embarrassing core event
- Using Tail Enders to find core issues
- A clever method for finding core issues
- Obsession with having affairs ends after finding the core issue
- Two examples where core issues show up during an EFT session
- A Useful Way To Find Core Issues In The EFT Process
- Ilana Weiler uses the 7 Whys method for getting to core issues
- MD resolves arm weakness problem by relieving an emotional core issue
- A clever way to find core issues
- A surprising core issue behind business call reluctance
- Using the Palace of Possibilities to uncover core issues
- The "Audio Technique" for getting to core issues
- Blending Redecision Therapy with EFT--a creative way to uncover core issues
- Iris finds her own core issue
- Eliminating Hot Flashes With EFT Tapping -- Surprising Core Issues
- Tracing core issues back to the birth process
- Newcomers
- Easy and Effective EFT for Newcomers
- Newbie has great results with persistent hiccoughs!
- EFT Newcomer Helps Her Daughter Relieve Constipation
- Borrowing Benefits newcomer details impressive success
- How watching the EFT DVDs helped a nausea case
- Quality advice for EFT Newbies
- A newbie with 6 rounds of EFT eliminates her bladder infection pain
- EFT newbie successfully surrogates for her dying plant
- A newbie dropped pounds at a time she usually gained
- Two Newcomer EFT Tapping Successes: Fainting And Shyness
- Newbie quiets her daughter
- Relative Newbie's First Major Tapping Toe Stub - Foot Pain Issue
- Doing EFT for a newcomer without having to explain it
- Using EFT
- Using EFT for Poison Ivy
- Using EFT over the phone for on-the-spot issues
- Thoughts on using EFT for procrastination
- Using EFT for "Everything is my fault!"
- A guy thing: Tips on using EFT for male ED
- Using EFT for Tachycardia
- Using EFT for Chemotherapy symptoms
- An encouraging example of using EFT for Crohn's Disease
- Using EFT for an ailing pony
- Using EFT for wrinkles - An alternative to Botox?
- Using EFT to overcome the resistance to exercise
- Using EFT while you are in an argument
- Using EFT for Chronic Problems
- Heaviness in both legs disappears after using EFT on "These Growing Pains"
- Some thoughts on using EFT for personal peace
- Using EFT for the Holidays
- Using EFT from pre-birth to the present
- Using EFT to enhance persuasion skills
- Using EFT with our "internal parents"
- Using EFT for spiritual issues
- Using EFT to Create
- Success by using EFT while reading our Newsletter articles
- A subtle, yet powerful self-image benefit from using EFT
- Suggestions for using EFT with a Mother
- Using EFT for Alzheimer's disease
- Many benefits in 3 months using EFT's Personal Peace Procedure
- Using EFT for Muscular Dystrophy
- Some tips when using EFT by yourself
- Using EFT to bring up core memories
- Using EFT for Herpes
- Using EFT on Asperger
- How to Handle Self Sabotage by Using EFT
- Using EFT for Premature Ejaculation
- Using EFT with computers, web-cameras and microphones
- Using EFT to cut "energetic cords" of attachment to people
- Using EFT for Goal Setting
- Using EFT for motivation to exercise
- Using EFT to avoid tears while chopping onions
- Using EFT to reclaim our personal power
- Using EFT for inanimate objects may point to your own issues
- Using EFT to avert an amputation
- A method for using EFT regarding the "difficult people" in your life.
- Using EFT to relieve a cold sore (Herpes HSV-1)
- Using EFT to learn foreign language pronunciation
- Specific couple techniques using EFT
- Using EFT for Jet Lag--even with 4 time changes
- Using EFT to manifest your goal more easily
- Using EFT with a Skeptic
- Using EFT for racial prejudice
- Lifelong car sickness disappears--but only after using EFT on the real issue
- Using EFT to bring us back into balance during challenging situations
- Using EFT for a clogged ear
- Follow up on "Using EFT to avert an amputation"
- Using EFT for Trigeminal Neuralgia
- Using EFT for changing habits and more
- Using EFT in singing lessons
- Using EFT to Enhance Bedroom Romance
- Using EFT to find (and collapse) a limiting belief
- Using EFT for mother issues
- Using EFT for Plantar Fasciitis
- Using EFT with a Survivor of Domestic Violence
- Using EFT to better enjoy certain foods and expand sensory experience
- Using EFT for forgiveness
- Using EFT with A Course in Miracles teachings
- Using EFT to regain Laurence's sense of taste.
- Big benefits from using EFT on an "irrelevant memory"
- Tips and strategies for using EFT with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)
- Using EFT to reduce our judgment of others
- Using EFT in the Emergency Room: Raging bladder infection subsides
- Q & A Series on using EFT
- Using EFT to start the day
- Passing a driving test using EFT - a case with many aspects
- Using EFT for your Biggest Problem
- Ideas for those using EFT to further their own personal development
- Using EFT on imaginary parts
- Classic case of using EFT for the child within
- Using EFT for Dreamwork
- Using EFT for Marathon Training and difficult things to do
- Using EFT when a specific word triggers you
- Using EFT to support the In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) process
- Using EFT for a stroke and other issues -- In praise of the 9-gamut procedure
- Using EFT to eliminate recurring dreams
- Using EFT for Self-Doubt
- Using EFT to say Good-Bye to a dying person
- Using EFT to release "the decision to be miserable"
- Using EFT for the Inner Child
- Using EFT with a dementia patient: A touching story
- Using EFT over the phone
- Using EFT for bothersome noises
- Using EFT to easily learn another language
- Benefits of using EFT in a cardiac group
- Tapping on TREEs -- a metaphor for using EFT
- Using EFT for the "Grey Life Syndrome"
- Using EFT to resolve issues in your dreams
- Using EFT with massage
- Using EFT within a unique form of meditation
- Using EFT to build emotional strength in overwhelming circumstances
- Using EFT for Menopause, Hot flashes and Chills
- Using EFT for Scleroderma
- Using EFT for preventing illness
- Using EFT for Self-Confidence in a specific area
- Using EFT for overcoming procrastination
- Personal Pleasure Procedure - Using EFT to improve your romantic life
- Using EFT for a double ankle sprain
- Using EFT for Abundance releases limiting beliefs
- Using EFT to rejuvenate a withered plant
- Using EFT for Procrastination
- Marielle discovers a lifetime core issue while using EFT for a bad cough
- Using EFT for the side effects of Medications
- Using EFT for feeling like a failure
- Using EFT for cerebral palsy
- Using EFT for emphysema
- Using EFT to increase blood platelet count--an article with far reaching implications
- Using EFT for old and frail people
- Easy stress reducer using EFT with statements like, "The world is conspiring in my favor"
- 11 year old girl finds lost cell phone using EFT
- Using EFT for our illiterate and semi-literate brothers and sisters
- Using EFT for struggling students with ADD
- Using EFT to Trade the Market
- A successful case of using EFT for candida yeast infections
- Persistence worked when using EFT at the first signs of a cold
- Using EFT to advance your business
- Using EFT for world crises
- Using EFT for clearing poltergeist energy
- After using EFT, Paul's 84 year old mum recovered very quickly from a surgical operation
- Using EFT for a choking emergency
- Using EFT to neutralize "family differences"
- Using EFT to release the pain of saying goodbye
- Using EFT for clearing clutter and organizing your life
- General
- Borrowing Benefits from Sacramento to the United Kingdom
- Quadriplegic feels "bubbles" during EFT session
- When you are in traffic and REALLY have to pee....
- Many benefits from watching our EFT-Beyond the Basics DVDs
- Technical evidence of the link between emotional causes and physical ailments
- Borrowing Benefits and an Acute Respiratory Disorder
- Attracting Abundance by Shifting Your Energy
- Finding the root of the problem
- Thoughts on dealing with corporations
- MD provides secretary with "The Incredible Shrinking Hemorrhoids"
- Lindsay Kenny answers Frequently Asked Questions about EFT
- About Voice Technology...
- EFT and sex
- A "Hard to Swallow" case
- Healing the "Missing Mother Syndrome" with EFT
- EFT with hypnosis provides long term benefits for abandonment issue
- Have you noticed the important feedback you get while doing EFT?
- Leslie Anne Lackman successfully uses humor and takes aim at neuropeptides
- TAPPING
- EFT for disliking someone shifts resentments to acceptance -- a major result
- Combining EFT with Dialoguing for impressive results
- Did Karen
- EFT for those who grind their teeth
- Healing the wounded Inner Child with EFT
- EFT after a horrible nightmare
- 25 Ways to be a Fantastic Therapist
- Knocking down the negative walls to let the garden grow - a tale of fertility
- Using movies to enhance and test our work.
- When Your Intensity Level Goes UP Instead Of Down With EFT
- Combining EFT with Timelines
- 10 minutes of EFT put 10 years of Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS) to rest
- EFT stops a blood blister from forming
- Taking the edge off intense emotions--Putting them in a box and tapping on them
- Tapping with good photos and bad photos
- Improving the ability to laugh with EFT
- A tapping song
- EFT on autopilot
- EFT resolves limiting childhood beliefs
- Medical transcriptionist says that in thousands of serious medical cases, she never saw a cure for anyone
- A short woman no longer feels intimidated around tall people after one EFT session
- Tapping along with a prayer
- Rapid Relief for Herpes
- Peak Performance Series
- A solid "Doing Business with EFT" idea from Rebecca Marina
- Emphatic EFT dramatically shifts many things--use this on stubborn issues
- EFT for eliminating barriers to our psychic abilities (and intuition)
- Using onomatopoeias with EFT
- Roxy gets multiple "Bedroom O's" with EFT
- EFT for severe cerebral palsy
- Rue Hass blends EFT with the wisdom of
- A woman with scoliosis finds balance with EFT - follow-up included
- EFT and Ho'oponopono
- Blood improves after a few minutes of EFT
- Thoughts on mental tapping and reframing
- Tapping back your sense of taste when you have a cold or flu
- Feeling and observing emotions
- EFT engages inner child to relieve indigestion (dyspepsia).
- Eric no longer hears voices
- EFT assists Polio patient
- EFT for eliminating hiccups changes a skeptic
- EFT eases nausea
- EFT is helpful when you are afraid to speak up in bed
- How racism can lead to health problems and what to do about it
- EFT helps a Premature Ejaculation (PE) problem
- Laura Orchard uses EFT during a dream
- Bedroom frustration resolved - including follow-ups
- Suzanne Lerner gives her thoughts on diagnosis
- Building confidence and releasing the inner critic
- Nothing in my traditional medical training in Anatomy, Physiology or Pathology even hinted at what I am now witnessing (with EFT) - Chuck Gebhardt, MD
- More successful cases from Dr. Eric Robins
- Can EFT tele-classes cause problems for some participants?
- EFT approaches for "Loose Ligaments" that can apply to countless other issues
- Asking good questions to elicit tappable issues
- EFT for elderly people who stuff their feelings
- Borrowing Benefits for a seemingly unrelated issue
- Questions on PR as well as possible dangers. (Other responses follow)
- Tuning in to the problem
- EFT in Daily Life
- Cold Calling: "I'm a second-class citizen, and I have to keep my mouth shut!"
- It is your response that counts.
- Improve your success rate by asking the right questions
- Interview with Gary regarding EFT and yeast problems
- I simply could not dance with Gary!!
- This is simply priceless to a mother of a 16 year old
- A Useful Method for "Private Tapping"
- Why do we sometimes avoid tapping?
- Resolving emotional causes for erectile dysfunction
- EFT substantially aids swallowing problem
- Methods for working with pain
- Can EFT be used to manifest what you want in your life?
- Inner Child Expert uses EFT for her own healing
- Symptoms quickly fade for a child with a Bi-Polar Diagnosis
- The "Gratitude for My Mistakes" method
- Professional writer uses EFT to overcome writer's block
- EFT helps a bullied woman stay at her job
- Talking to Christians About EFT
- Warming up to "cold calls" with EFT
- An interesting way to do EFT in a group
- EFT for discomfort with networking - an interesting solution
- The Value of Matching and Pacing Belief Systems in Group Training
- Do you have difficulty receiving positive feelings from others?
- A Conversation With Your Body
- EFT provides benefits using Future Tapping
- A New Moment in Science -- useful EFT article for distribution
- What the Bleep do We Know about EFT?
- Curse words aid the clearing of emotional issues
- The Human Brain and Law of Attraction: Optimizing Brain Function with EFT
- Try a motivational Power Hour to improve your business
- Let it be easy
- Banishing the Barriers to having a thriving EFT business
- How to handle emotions about the cheating spouse
- Cascade tapping
- EFT turned Masha into a runner - an interesting side effect
- 200 people watch as EFT improves Range of Motion for a Nurse's arm
- Blending NLP with EFT
- More thoughts about stopping colds with EFT
- Using
- An MD successfully uses EFT on a Hiatal Hernia and Candidiasis
- Technical article: Influencing peptides with EFT
- Can You Influence Another Person To Use EFT If They Are Reluctant To Do So?
- EFT for faulty beliefs
- EFT and Reframing using Counter-Examples
- What do you do for friends who incessantly bend your ear while venting their problems?
- EFT for people who go blank when asked to speak
- EFT for sciatica and a 6 year old wounded thumb
- EFT helps a young musician stop shaking
- Tapping with a poem as inspiration
- EFT helps a boy who has many health challenges
- Barb St. Dennis had severe Hepatitis C but now has completely normal blood tests
- Using a metaphor to handle stubborn emotional issues
- Treating negative beliefs with EFT
- Who do YOU think you are?
- An EFT method for installing new behaviors
- Two ways to use EFT for Restless Leg Syndrome
- Did EFT cure Lupus?
- Insights on Borrowing Benefits with EFT
- Hearing the energy shift while doing EFT
- A clever combination of tapping and visualization
- Introducing EFT to kids by way of their "magic fingers"
- EFT for Celiac disease -- no symptoms for 4 months and counting
- EFT and "being the bee"
- EFT helps a serious infection - the redness subsides before their eyes
- EFT for the mental game of poker
- Methods for getting to deep issues, even in a group setting
- Using silent tapping in cases where speaking out loud is too loony
- Taking "The Secret" for a walk with EFT
- Removing the blocks to your goals with EFT
- Manifesting the life of your dreams with EFT
- A Useful Series on Borrowiing Benefits
- EFT methods: Questions, One-Point-EFT and Mental EFT
- Tapping via typing--email sessions
- The Vibration of Abundance
- MD uses EFT for common colds and canker sores
- Rhythm, Pulse & Percussion In Tapping Treatments
- A clever "Chasing the Pain" case
- Acupuncturist gives his view of EFT and Classical Chinese Medical Aspects
- Thoughts on EFT and Intention
- EFT methods for "Smokers Lung" that apply to most chronic conditions
- Can EFT fix a computer?
- Feeling woosy from Alcohol
- Erica gets a complete overhaul through EFT
- A common sense procedure for getting EFT results
- Paralysis finally overcome after everything else failed
- An important case on aspects--Martin's learning challenge
- EFT relieves "incurable" Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS)
- How a physician uses EFT
- EFT for Boredom and Loneliness
- Low Libido is not always as simple as it appears
- Facial paralysis clears in one
- EFT for the complexities of a single, dating life
- Dawson Church successfully applies EFT for his episode of gout
- Persistent, quality EFT adds 5 inches to Gillian's bust line
- Taking EFT into the Corporate Market
- Did EFT keep Wayne from getting more grey hair?
- Expanding Your Comfort Zones: The key to your success
- Ten minutes of EFT restores healthy performance in the bedroom - eliminates the need for the little blue pill
- Resolving nightmares...and more
- Aiming EFT at the FUTURE
- A journey through an important piece of our "newthink."
- Addressing the "Why Bother?" syndrome
- Creating a happy future
- How to have a happy day
- An experiment on how EFT statements affect our bodies
- Three possible reframes for people struggling with sadness
- Did Erika
- Tap while listening to music that makes you cry
- EFT helps calm an autistic boy after he accidentally hurt his mother
- Untangling two events with EFT leads to business freedom
- Louise's skeptical dad warmed up to EFT
- Tapping for the United Nations
- EFT helps with repulsed feelings about unwanted advances
- Don
- 3 Items and some Holiday advice
- Phobia relief on TV in the UK
- EFT appears favorably in a German TV sitcom
- Gwyneth Moss discusses Support for Therapists
- Adding
- Collapsing a lifelong belief that her mother had tried to harm her in the womb
- How do you do EFT to fit a time slot?
- Clearing clutter for clarity and confidence
- "God Tapping"
- Loving your feminine body
- Having trouble "letting go" in the bedroom
- Getting EFT Blocks and Barriers out of the way - a list of questions
- EFT fixes car to pass inspection
- Ted Robinson's tips for doing Borrowing Benefits groups
- Visualizing and tapping on limiting beliefs
- Ann Adams on getting EFT accepted by Institutions
- Eliminating shingles pain in 1/2 hour
- Why People Sometimes Have Negative Feelings After Doing EFT
- Tapping while traveling can improve your mood
- EFT calms elderly woman
- For the skeptics--Is EFT a placebo?
- Marie's "molestation secret"
- Persistent EFT helps with unnecessary worry and a feeling of always being responsible -- many side issues collapse as well
- A very useful method for getting to important issues
- EFT for an aversion to stuff that disgusts you
- Karen helped her father recover the use of his fingers after a stroke
- EFT for feeling overly responsible
- Tell your friends, there is, at last, a cure for the common cold!
- Positively adjusting the perceptions of others with EFT
- A clever combo of EFT and Essences
- Tap and be rich
- EFT helps relieve blushing
- Quickie pain relief--A "one point wonder".
- Helping mother and her unborn baby with EFT
- Daily EFT creates calm under explosive family circumstances
- EFT assists conception
- Using Role Playing With EFT
- MD uses EFT for a demented woman
- Gayle Waxon learns to stop her own epileptic seizures with EFT
- Does language matter when doing EFT?
- Using the term "somehow..." within the EFT process
- Blending EFT with Homeopathy
- A quality look at "The Apex Effect"
- Psychiatrist relieves sexual exhibitionism with EFT--4 year follow-up
- EFT enhances many things
- EFT for bladder control when on the road
- Silent Night Sadness -- when certain music gives you the blues
- Mary Pellicer, MD, on Intuitive Diagnosis
- EFT provides instant relief for Poison Ivy itching
- Quieting down an elderly stroke victim in a nursing home
- Three Keys to EFT Mastery
- Painful mastitis clears after EFT
- How to get non-profit organizations to host EFT group meetings--and pay you as well
- A creative approach to psychological reversal
- EFT as a morning eye-opener
- EFT for night time trips to the bathroom--including follow-up
- Aparna
- EFT for resistance to doing EFT
- "I have to lie constantly to live my life as I know it"
- Further bridges to our history
- Stress and Me and EFT
- Gratitude and Coach Ben Hammerschmidt
- EFT and Nightmares
- A successful use of EFT for Hasimoto
- Five extreme behavior patterns related to organizing and how to address them with EFT
- Your Vibration Always Comes First
- EFT and future pacing
- EFT for people who are sensitive
- EFT for painful cramping
- WHO AM I NOW??? How Identity Issues Block Abundance
- Kelly Meisak uses a unique approach for her ADD prone brother
- This lady had not been out of her house for two years because she suffered from chronic burping
- Reiki Master uses EFT in the Republic of Mauritius
- Creating a remarkable bridge to our former history
- Here's a textbook EFT case for using persistence, reframes, chasing the pain, metaphors and creative language
- Carol Look Shows us How to Release Procrastination with EFT
- Helpful hints for the Holidays.
- EFT and visible changes in physical appearance
- EFT assists young boy in taking his Ringworm medicine
- EFT works for cellulitis on 3 separate occasions
- Connecting to our Birthright of Fertility
- How to tap into the
- Tapping for being "able, willing and worthy" may help boost EFT results
- Creating positive affirmations with EFT and your senses
- EFT for painful menopause symptoms
- An interesting EFT approach for getting beyond "glass ceilings"
- EFT using teddy bears
- Victoria's 10-day EFT blood pressure experiment results
- EFT and The Law of Attraction - A Perfect Match
- Tapping with tunes
- Do you have emotional difficulty with the standard EFT phrasing?
- Jewels in the junkyard--the prison population
- EFT improves a mentally disabled young man
- Can You Do EFT With Eyes Closed?
- Not finding the right words for EFT is a block that can be overcome
- High blood pressure recedes - and remains normal a week later
- Deborah Miller beautifully reframes an assault issue into a new personal identity
- The many benefits of EFT circles--and how to do them
- Why does tapping on the side of the hand work?
- EFT for a numb face and tongue - instant relief for a skeptic
- Suzanne Zacharia finds the root causes of Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS)
- EFT to help heal fruit trees - a major new business waiting to happen?
- Mental Dental EFT - for the dentist and the patient
- Sneaking Up On The Problem When You Do EFT
- Relief for Bashful Bladder
- When Positive is Negative - Accepting Your Light
- Tapping through a beginning seizure
- Teresa Knezek treats her own Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) -- including a 3 year followup
- Raising your metabolism with EFT
- When EFT gives only temporary results
- Katie's posture and her many emotional issues
- When conflicting beliefs keep us stuck
- Rehana Webster teaches the details behind a successful blushing case
- Resentment gets in the way of abundance
- Changing a man's life with EFT--including pain, emotions and bedroom romance
- EFT in the snow -- creating comfort in the cold
- Stopping the flu in its early stages
- "How do I get really good at EFT?"
- EFT for helping a mother bond with her child
- How EFT unclogged my toilet
- The Inner Committee
- Can we affect inanimate objects better with EFT? - Rebecca's engine light
- A humorous reply to an EFT skeptic
- EFT enhances math scores
- Praise for EFT from a Buddhist Monk
- EFT calms an autistic boy in school
- Cognitive Shifts (Belief Changes) That Work
- EFT: The Gift to Unwrap and Use before the Holidays!
- Another successful hiccoughs (hiccups) case
- Did EFT help relieve menopause symptoms?
- EFT for addressing what happened in your day -- use it daily for solid long term benefits
- EFT for economic stress -- using "I prefer peace"
- A Psychologist in India uses EFT for suicide intervention
- Demonstrating EFT to a mental health support team
- How to remember your dreams with EFT
- New Uses for EFT
- EFT helps alleviate several issues associated with infidelity
- Using Galvanic Skin Response to validate EFT
- NLP procedures enhance anyone's delivery of EFT
- "Helpless to get what I want" - Using intuition to get at important issues
- MD writes article on Emotions, Energy, and Healing
- Tapping on "what didn
- An aneurism left a man's hand shaking, unable to write for 12 years.
- How to use EFT with your dreams to collapse important emotional issues
- Resolving two bothersome tics with EFT
- Saying "goodbye" with the
- An at risk coronary patient has normal arteries and flawless angiogram after persistent EFT for two months
- Tapping while responding to a nasty comment from the past
- EFT for looking forward instead of backwards
- How Do You Know You Are Benefiting From EFT Much As You Can?
- EFT and the taming of the tongue
- Gwyneth Moss on The Importance of Rehearsal in an EFT session
- How do you feel ABOUT your body having pain?
- Was this a negative reaction to EFT?
- Many benefits from tapping on a prayer
- Future tapping to get what you want
- How to get EFT into Schools
- EFT collapses seasickness and Rosa becomes the life of the party
- What is your body trying to tell you?
- An extraordinary example of the real power of EFT's Borrowing Benefits procedure -- a bridge phobia disappears "behind the scenes"
- EFT for past life issues
- EFT for Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and a host of other issues
- Prenatal EFT improves hemoglobin count with before and after test
- Getting to the real reason behind Janet's "bedroom inhibitions"
- Tapping on gratitude for EFT
- After EFT, Kay
- A procedure for dealing with the resistance to heal
- To Lead or Not to Lead...
- Looking waaay in the past for the cause of a physical symptom
- Overcoming a lifelong fruit revulsion and some side benefits
- One person
- EFT is effective despite language barriers
- Shingle symptoms gone in just two EFT sessions
- Two examples where working on one issue provides relief for another
- Important EFT topic: Doing the best we can
- Useful thoughts on integrating EFT within the military
- Eckhart Tolle
- Daily uses of EFT with A Course in Miracles (ACIM)
- EFT's Borrowing Benefits collapses 36 issues in 2.5 hours
- Problems that are difficult to assess in the here and now. (Several responses follow)
- A tapping tip to lighten the load
- Borrowing Benefits gets impressive results on TV
- Re-evaluating the Apex problem
- Handling vertigo symptoms over the phone
- Food stuck in the throat goes down easily after EFT
- In Praise of Continual Tapping
- Scientific evolution of EFT from TFT
- Does EFT compete with God?
- How to Get Into Businesses and Organizations By Getting Welcomed Through the Back Door
- EFT on the move -- for busy people
- EFT for Speech Loss following a Stroke
- Discovering the cause of humming in the ears
- Surprising insights than can occur while tapping
- Healing families with EFT - a historical approach
- A physicist speaks
- Why couldn't Jason make a simple decision?
- A New Way to Express Gratitude with EFT
- Resolving many impediments to a satisfactory "bedroom experience"
- Sometimes slowing down EFT can provide quality benefits
- MD uses EFT to clear many issues in 15 minutes
- A simple way to handle Shingles -- no drugs involved
- EFT for severe MSG reaction
- Finding the real issues behind what appeared to be a "Bedroom Romance" problem
- Clever use of EFT clears issues for baby, mother and grandmother - follow-up included
- Did Mary
- Calming effects of EFT during an emergency on an airplane
- EFT brings benefits for leaky gut syndrome and ASD (a form of autism)
- EFT clears nausea - but not in the expected way
- Stronger orgasms with EFT
- Persistence and EFT homework help a woman embrace her femininity
- A quality use of our Borrowing Benefits DVDs
- Some thoughts on secondary gains - and what to do about them
- Including the word
- EFT improves hearing by 25%
- Successful EFT without knowing the details
- Psychiatrist gets to the real reason his patient couldn't say "NO"
- An EFT Meditation
- Critical Questioning While Doing EFT
- MD uses EFT to treat Sjogren
- Many successes doing
- Jo Huntsman takes EFT into her own hands and has success with Lupus like symptoms
- A metaphor for introducing EFT
- EFT in a plane for scary facial paralysis - a doctor on board said it was Bell
- EFT enhances the "Artist's Way" work
- Do we need to heal the past so that we can move into the future?
- Are you getting the most out of EFT?
- The benefits of tapping along with our DVDs--core memories uncovered
- Allowing EFT to come THROUGH you rather than BY you
- How to know when the healing is done
- Clearing past issues from the walls of our mind
- The ABC approach to EFT
- Ideas for winding up EFT sessions
- Metaphors, Humour and EFT
- Use EFT when you are afraid to speak up
- Success via tapping on a two-sided conflict
- Validating EFT with Neurofeedback
- Did EFT clear a 90% blocked artery?
- After 9 years suffering with polycystic ovary syndrome, Jenn finds relief with EFT
- EFT for forgetting lines in a school play
- EFT for calming while being strapped down on a hospital gurney
- Acupuncturist uses EFT and eliminates her own shingles in three days
- For those who have difficulty telling left from right
- Marketing EFT as a business--Cultivating important Centers of Influence (COI)
- Learning, intelligence and "emotional static"
- Psychiatric Nurse gives pointers for dealing with severe emotional disorders
- Thoughts on an emergency tapping point
- The value of taking dead aim at the negatives
- Circumcision at the root of writer's block
- The Salesman who didn't want to cold call
- Try EFT on everything--even an oncoming fainting spell
- EFT helps an 8 year old with a concussion
- Am I a failure at EFT if there is no miracle?
- Borrowing Benefits in the Criminal Justice System
- The "proper words" to use for the EFT Set-up Statement
- Borrowing Benefits hastens the healing of mystery thumb sores
- Breaking habits
- Relaxing a dying man
- We are babes crawling on the floor of the Universe
- Susan de Tarr eliminates her 54 year old motion sickness in 10 minutes
- How to convince an entire audience about EFT
- Psychiatrist relieves sexual exhibitionism with EFT--4 year follow-up
- Emotion and Perception: EFT makes it a two way street
- EFT on an inanimate object: The car that wouldn't start
- Combining EFT with Humor
- EFT helps remove "stuck ring"
- Key Concepts in Mastering EFT
- Continuous tapping resolves an intense abreaction
- Did 20 minutes of EFT straighten bones that had knitted improperly 50 years before?
- EFT and the right to be happy
- EFT for feeling unqualified to be successful
- EFT relieves a case of the Hiccups
- EFT for facing those who caused you pain
- Did EFT bring this man out of a coma?
- "It was impossible for the testicle to descend on its own."
- The Merits of Daily Tapping
- Is it safe to change?
- Processing your life's key words with EFT
- Brain dumping with EFT to get started on global issues
- EFT helps salesman double his sales
- An EFT Procrastination case
- From a 38 B to a 38 D/DD while losing 20 pounds
- Thoughts on Psychological Reversal from Rue Hass -- with an ADD example
- Gratitude tapping
- EFT in Kenya
- Are you suppressing your EFT talents?
- EFT as a cure for boredom
- Improving intimate moments with EFT
- Dispersing 50 years worth of suppressed emotion
- A brief heat exhaustion case
- Messages from an oven
- How Dawn Norton used EFT to collapse her own "horror" issue
- Five-for-one benefits from an introductory EFT group
- Making EFT a routine
- Using "Inner Dialogues" with EFT
- EFT relieves an unusual
- How I grew my bustline with EFT
- An 8 year old boy with very strange eating habits finds a new menu with EFT
- Jeff Lipnick uses EFT to keep from blacking out
- EFT, ED and related bedroom issues
- Daily tapping lowers blood sugar
- Borrowing Benefits while watching The EFT Course
- Who do YOU think you are?
- Headache relief over the phone
- Claude improves his fishing
- Using humor with EFT
- How to handle a "vague feeling" with EFT
- Eight Easy Ways to Remember to Do EFT
- Tapping to improve your intuition
- The acute sinusitis case that wouldn't budge until....
- It's never too late to clear useless childhood beliefs
- EFT for the emotional aspects of a Cesarean Section
- Ten steps to changing your limiting responses to a falling economy
- EFT for stammering
- Dr. Barr used EFT after cutting off the tip of his thumb
- Judi thinks that doing EFT for others helped her - winning in Las Vegas
- Borrowing Benefits with EFT improves communication at a committee meeting
- Thoughts about inheriting illness from our ancestors
- Twelve years of facial numbness eliminated with 2 rounds of EFT
- A Lesson in EFT Intuition--Letting it flow through you
- EFT brings relief for ALS
- How to tell others about EFT
- Some thoughts on when to use "I choose" vs. "I prefer"
- EFT for changing entrenched habits
- Experts point to dramatic changes in brain waves as a result of EFT
- John
- Borrowing Benefits: My Jury has returned with a verdict
- How to Identify and Correct Psychological Reversals
- Dr. Carol Look's Top 10 Tapping Tips
- How do I introduce EFT to skeptics? (Building Bridges to Believability)
- Why do people resist EFT?
- What would happen if this problem wasn't there any more?
- Wisdom from Mair Llewellyn regarding the "Writing on our Walls"
- Incorporating EFT into Corporate Programs
- EFT -- a quality aid for Shingles
- Strong correlation found between EFT and Dr. Emoto's work with water
- EFT and The Power of Reframing
- EFT and insights (cognitive change)
- Giving more meaning to the 0-10 intensity rating
- MD Applies EFT to Successfully Relieve Urethral Pain
- EFT for the Sensitive Person -- Awakening the Wild Pony Within
- EFT helps release nervousness before an important meeting
- Impressive results with autism
- Releasing chaotic behavior through EFT
- EFT hat dance
- Deserving to live -- an intense memory resolved
- EFT helps with hair loss, facial blemishes, hay fever, smoking and PMS
- Expert gives us an inside look at Group EFT
- Baerbel Borrows Benefits in her own EFT group and dissolves her creative blocks
- When EFT Doesn't Seem to Work
- Motion sickness averted through "Chasing the Pain."
- More on EFT and Reframing by Tania Prince
- Consistent and Impressive results from EFT group work
- Gordon was in a psychiatric hospital for two years and was released two weeks after one EFT session
- How feelings in the body are related to emotional clearing
- EFT for the Inner Child
- EFT for food poisoning
- Two cases of doing EFT in public without looking silly
- Improving romantic openness and enjoyment with EFT
- EFT for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) - "You can't make me!"
- EFT brings beauty to a hospice setting
- EFT collapses competing thoughts and thus aids The Law of Attraction
- How to transform disappointment into gratitude
- EFT Question Tapping
- Helping a 97 year old man to die peacefully
- Successful EFT phone work makes major shifts for overwhelmed mother
- Thoughts on resolving difficult physical problems
- A unique way to expand EFT
- EFT removes a pesky "phantom itch"
- Tips for conducting intensive EFT sessions -- a several day case regarding Bulimia
- Create acceptance of your life with EFT
- Clearing a food aversion in 5 minutes
- What would appear to be the main issue may not be so
- How long should the flu last?
- EFT for making your voice stronger
- A new kind of mosquito relief?
- Try fork bending with EFT
- A clever approach to finding core memories
- An adventure within the Palace of Possibilities
- Injured toe gains relief using two important EFT concepts
- Sarah Jordan makes progress after realizing a childhood need
- Aiming EFT at our Future
- What to do when the "Bedroom Spark" goes out
- Tap on experiences that are stuck in parts of your body
- The young woman who kept quitting her jobs
- How to create empowering reframes (seeing things differently) with EFT
- Praise for tapping along with the EFT DVDs
- EFT for a spider (and mosquito) bite
- EFT helps Elaine learn the clarinet at 50
- Two stories to create a bridge between your audience and EFT
- Two cases: Putting on needed pounds with EFT & Holding water for an ultrasound
- Mom doing EFT for autistic son yields enormous changes in one month
- A touching story about Michael, his ailing aunt and EFT
- Letting intuition flow with EFT
- A lesson in "letting go"
- Can we learn to be grateful no matter what?
- Improve your EFT sessions by waking up your senses
- Severe lung congestion clears with persistent daily EFT
- Was prostate cancer really the cause of Sam's Low Libido?
- Being Specific
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Teresa Knezek treats her own Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) -- including a 3 year followup
Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™. Best wishes, Gary
This superb article by Teresa Knezek should be diligently studied by mental health professionals as well as those dealing personally with BPD. Teresa discovered her own BPD and chose to use EFT to reduce its symptoms. She gives us a fascinating inside look at what it is like living inside the skin of a BPD and discusses her major progress using EFT. While she still has more work to do, the progress she has made in 1 month's time is well beyond the expectations of conventional therapy. She says of her very first try with EFT,
"So my skeptical self gave it [EFT] a try later that very night. The most I was hoping for was something that could make the abject misery I was feeling fade for more than a few hours at a time. My life has changed completely since that night. After just two rounds of the Basic Recipe, I felt calm and even a little happy, for the first time since the breakup [with my boyfriend]."
Please note that professionals should normally be consulted with an issue as serious as BPD. In Teresa's case, however, her input from professional sources about the problem was that it was incurable. So, she chose to proceed on her own.
Teresa's 3 year follow-up at the end of this article provides still more insights.
A few months ago, I found out I had Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I was reading a friend's online journal, and she'd reprinted an excerpt from the book "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me," wherein the author describes his "SET communication" system for communicating with Borderline Personalities. (This book, I learned later, appears prominently on every 'recommended reading' list about BPD.) At first, I read it with a shock of happy recognition... it was obvious that this book held the key to my relationship problems. So I started doing some research about BPD, to see what else I could learn.
What I learned was not as encouraging as finding a "magic bullet" book to fix everything. Everywhere I looked, I either read that BPD was considered incurable, or that it could only sometimes be 'cured' after years of intensive therapy. Borderlines were abusive. Borderlines ruined people's lives. Borderlines were the stuff movies were written about (think "Fatal Attraction")...
...and I learned the more I read about it, the more the shoe fit. I read excerpts from a book written by a recovered Borderline woman, who could have been writing about the arguments I had in my relationships. She could have been recording my hysterical phone calls to my boyfriend, when he didn't arrive to meet me exactly on time. I found another website with an annotated version of the DSM IV diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder, and realized it fit me to a "T". (Since then, I have discussed the matter with a few therapists, and after hearing my story, they've all verified that if my account of my history and behavior is accurate, the diagnosis would be appropriate.)
There are nine criteria for diagnosing Borderline Personality Disorder. A patient needs to exhibit five out of the nine for an "official" diagnosis. As outlined below, I exceeded the standard (No point doing things halfway, right?).
1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. [Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5] - During arguments I have done all of the following (most of them more than once): follow my partner from room to room, hysterically insisting he doesn't walk away from me, and if he has the nerve to close a door between us, I would either force the door open in order to follow him, or eventually end up in a heap on the floor, pounding on the door until my hands were bruised begging him to let me in (I did the same thing when my last boyfriend would lock himself in his car to get away from me). I've threatened to throw people out of the house, whether or not they had a place to go. I've called a man on his cell phone more than 50 times in one night, leaving over a dozen messages on his voicemail, thinking maybe he'd answer the phone the next time I called... maybe he just didn't hear it ring last time... maybe he'd woken up since last time... (The incessant phone calls thing got so bad that my last boyfriend took to turning his cell phone off after the first time I called, if I seemed the least bit upset.)
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation. - This behavior is known as "splitting." Borderlines do it to both themselves and those around them. When my last boyfriend and I met, I was convinced we were "made for each other," and that he was absolutely perfect for me. My ex-husband before him was "destiny." Later, when we argued, he would become various unprintable things, along with stupid, worthless, and more unprintable things. Or when he criticized me, I became the unprintably worthless one, and he'd have to put up with yet another round of, "If I'm so &^%$* horrible, why don't you leave? You'd have to be *&^$%*&^n crazy to stay with someone as &^%$*^% as me... what's wrong with you?!" Then a few days later, he was Prince Charming again. Outside the home, any employer who fired a friend of mine was obviously an ^&*%$&^%, and my dollars would never darken their establishment again. Anyone who laughed at me or gossiped about me was a ^%$%*^& as well, and no longer my friend. All or nothing.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self - This is one I'm not 100% sure of... I suppose I might just not want to admit this about myself? Or maybe this issue isn't extreme enough for me to recognize it as a problem?
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). [Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5] - I have done or still do everything but binge eating on that list of examples. (Although I stopped the risky sex in my mid twenties before anything really bad happened.) Currently, the main issues are drinking (which I'm getting under much better control with the help of EFT), and spending habits (which have resulted in me filing for bankruptcy with over $40,000 in credit card debt).
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior - I'm also unsure about this one. I haven't been *really* suicidal since I was in high school. But I do often *think* about suicide when I've had an argument with someone... it almost seems like a comforting behavior: If it gets any worse, I always have the option.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) - Extreme moodiness. I'll get irritated because there's nothing good on the radio on the drive home. I get home, my boyfriend asks if I'm in a bad mood. I'm offended by this and I snap at him. We bicker. I glower for the next hour or so, until I get distracted by something. Five minutes later I'm in a perfectly good mood, and I can't understand why he's so grouchy. We have a big fight, I'm in a horrible mood the next morning. I go to work without even saying 'good morning' or 'good bye' and when I get home that evening, I'm fine. I can't understand why he's holding a grudge for so long. Doesn't he know the argument's over? I will get frustrated to the point of tears when something goes wrong with my computer, but as soon as I've figured out how to fix it, I'm as happy as can be.
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness - The very first phrase I used when I tried EFT for the first time was "Even though I have this incredible empty feeling," while I concentrated on the familiar, awful feeling in the pit of my stomach. It's difficult to describe, for someone who hasn't felt it... but it would become an absolutely overwhelming, paralyzing feeling sometimes. Particularly when a relationship wasn't going well.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights) - "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" was written about a Borderline, I'm sure. The famous Borderline rage is what eventually destroyed my last long term relationship. Behaviorally, it often ties in with #1 and #2... if my fears of abandonment couldn't be placated, which is usually the case, or a partner did something to trigger a "split" into the unprintable zone, rage was almost always soon to follow. Arguments would reach a certain point, and something would 'snap' inside me. One minute, I was using some reasonably logical argument, and the next minute I was screaming any hurtful thing I could think of. Something triggered some kind of emotional hurt or fear inside me, and all I could think to do was throw out anything I could that might make my 'enemy' feel as hurt and small as I did. While the real over-the-top rages and hysteria are something only my close loved ones were "privileged" enough to experience. But even day-to-day, if you overhear me in traffic, or see how quickly I start to lose it when my computer acts up, or hear my running commentary while handling customer emails...
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms - When my husband and I split up, and I was suddenly living alone for the first time in five years, I began hearing voices in other rooms of the house. When my most recent boyfriend broke up with me, if he was talking on the phone, or talking to a friend in another room, I KNEW he was talking about me. If someone is late to meet me they've been in a car accident, or if it's a male partner, he's with someone else. When money is tight, I KNOW my boss is about to fire me for some imagined mistake. And so on.
So there you go. That's the story of the last 15+ years of my life. For all the misery Borderlines can cause the people around them, rest assured their own lives are equally miserable, if not more so. It's an exhausting way to live. So even though researching it didn't give me a lot of uplifting, soothing "it's not so bad, you'll get better" reassurance, I was still relieved to find that there was a name for my problems, and some understanding of how to work with it. A few days later, I presented my boyfriend with some printouts from especially informative websites I'd found, and talked to him about it a bit. He said it gave him hope that I was willing to look at my behavior and take responsibility for it and admit it was a problem. We talked about the fact that it wouldn't be a quick or easy thing to fix, and it would mean a lot to me if he would help me deal with my behavior patterns differently, and I bought a bunch of books on the subject, and resolved to "get better" one way or another.
A few months later, he broke up with me for the third time in as many years. Sure, I was doing better, he agreed. But not enough better. After living with me for seven years, he was really at the end of his rope. Even though I was doing better, I was still threatening to leave during every bad argument. I would still get hysterical during arguments, and start screaming even though his children were in the house trying to sleep. Yes, I was doing better. But not enough better and not quickly enough. I was devastated. I was hysterical for the better part of a week. I can't think of words to describe how utterly worthlessly hopelessly why-can't-I-just-die-and-make-it-go-away miserable I felt. And I was SO DAMN TIRED of feeling that way. After all our arguments. After three breakups. I couldn't go on. But I had no idea what to do.
Discovering EFT
I found out about EFT about a month ago, a couple weeks after the breakup. I read an article about it on Dr. Mercola's natural health website. I was intrigued to read about a self-help technique that apparently worked so well, and I was willing to try almost anything I could afford. When I found that I could download an instruction manual from Gary's site for free, I signed up and printed it out immediately. I figured I wasn't losing anything by giving it a try.
Of course, I didn't expect much. Even the most optimistic literature I'd read about BPD said I could expect years of intensive therapy and counseling before I could even hope to consider myself recovered. And the testimonials on Gary's site set off my "too good to be true" warning flags. But Gary himself said you didn't need to believe in EFT for it to work. So my skeptical self gave it a try later that very night. The most I was hoping for was something that could make the abject misery I was feeling fade for more than a few hours at a time.
My life has changed completely since that night. After just two rounds of the Basic Recipe, I felt calm and even a little happy, for the first time since the breakup. I was able to go out to the living room, and sit and just hang out with J without feeling miserable and needing to leave the room to cry every ten minutes. I was actually able to enjoy his company without feeling the compulsion to beg him to take me back.
After a couple weeks of using EFT whenever I found a "trigger" issue upsetting me, I felt like a whole new person.
There were a few incidents from our first break up two years ago that would still bring me to hysteria if I thought about them for too long. As soon as I'd start thinking, my mind was caught in an obsessive cycle... I couldn't stop thinking about it and making myself miserable! I would literally be reduced to uncontrollable sobbing, all by myself. These memories don't upset me anymore. I can sit and TRY to upset myself (and I have!), but it doesn't work. If I think about them at all, the thoughts come and go like anything else. They've lost their emotional power over me.
As I worked on the "obvious" issues I already knew about, I discovered other fears and trigger issues that had been buried until then. I discovered connections between childhood events and my destructive drinking habits, as well as the extreme possessiveness I felt about people close to me. Although those issues aren't completely resolved, they're fading noticeably the more I use EFT. I liken the whole experience to peeling away the layers of an onion... as I resolved the obvious issue, I'd discover there were others underneath it.
My EFT Techniques
The first time I used EFT, I did a round of the Basic Recipe on two different phrases. Although the manual said to be specific, when I sat down to try it, I couldn't think of where to start. I was depressed and felt completely, miserably empty inside, so I used the set-up phrase "Even though I have this incredible empty feeling, I deeply and completely accept myself," and as I went through the Basic Recipe, I concentrated on the gnawing feeling in the pit of my stomach. By the end of the second series of tapping points, I was feeling a lot calmer and more focused.
I spontaneously thought of an argument J and I had earlier that week, and the moment when he was walking out the door and I started sobbing and begging him not to leave. So my second Basic Recipe was for the phrase, "Even though I have this fear of abandonment..." While I tapped, I concentrated on the feeling of utter panic and desperation I felt during that last argument. I felt like I would die if he actually got in his car and drove away. By the time I was done with the second round of tapping points, I felt like a band had been cut away from my chest. I could breathe. I felt calm. I felt more calm than I had since J broke up with me.
I was completely amazed, but still expecting "the other shoe to drop." This feeling of calm couldn't possibly last. Later that night, when I went to bed, I did one more round of the Basic Recipe for the phrase "Even though J broke up with me..." And I slept better than night than I had in weeks. And as the week went on, that amazing feeling of calm DID last! My feeling of utter devastation never returned to the way it felt before EFT.
Since then, I've developed my own informal routine for dealing with really "big deal" issues.
When I feel like I'm dealing with something that goes deeper than one 'onion layer', I start out with the Basic Recipe. I try different set-up phrases while rubbing the 'sore spot' until I hit on one that either makes me start crying, or gives me a tingling feeling in my arms and legs. Consistently, when I find a set-up phrase that really gets to the heart of an issue, one of those two things will happen. After I find the right set-up phrase, I go through one round of the Basic Recipe, repeating my whole set up phrase at each tapping point, and by the end I've almost always stopped crying and/or started sighing deeply at each tapping point. When that happens, I know it's working.
Then I move on to a slightly modified round of the "choices" method described in other articles on Gary's site. I do the first round of tapping points, allowing myself to say a different but related "problem" phrase at each point. I'll start with the first half of my set-up phrase, and go from there. For instance, when dealing with my guilt about the breakup, I used the following phrases: "Even though I feel guilty about hurting J" (my set-up phrase), "Although the breakup was all my fault," "Even though I deserve this pain," etc. All different, but all different aspects of my feelings about the main issue.
Then, for the second round of tapping points, I use the second half of the set-up phrase at each point, re-phrased as a choice. For the guilt example it was, "I choose to completely forgive and accept myself."
For the third round, I use the alternating "problem" phrases from the first round with the "choice" phrase from the second round, saying a different two-part phrase at each point: "Although I feel guilty about hurting J, I choose to completely forgive and accept myself." "Even though I deserve this pain, I choose to completely..." and so on.
I usually do this at night, while I'm laying in bed. This used to be the time I'd spend tossing and turning and wondering why I wasn't asleep yet. Now, when I'm done with my EFT, I usually roll over and fall asleep within minutes. And I sleep better than I have in years.
Conclusion
When I was speaking ot Gary on the phone about my EFT experiences, he asked me to rate my progress, assuming that my previous Borderline behavior was a ten. I hesitantly gave myself a five, and he later asked how I knew it wasn't a two or a zero. Although I've given the matter more thought since then, I'm still really not certain. Doing without the guidance of a professional therapist, I've realized that I really don't know exactly what level of emotional response is considered "normal," so it's hard to say.
I do know I still have a very short temper. I still get way too frustrated way too quickly. Although I haven't had any major rages since I started EFT, I still go over the edge with hysteria occasionally. EFT has helped tremendously in curbing my tendency to drink too much, but it's not completely gone. I haven't used it to address my spending habits, but I have tackled a couple of childhood issues that definitely helped reduce the spending and drinking issues, as well as creating further relief from the abandonment/possessiveness issue.
Now I can stop myself during an argument before I lose control, which is an entirely new experience for me. And if I do get really upset about something, instead of being completely consumed by out of control feelings, part of me is standing back looking for the 'real' reason it's happening, so I can use EFT about it later (I've so far been relatively unsuccessful at using EFT to calm myself down during an overwhelming emotion). As things come up in my day-to-day life, I look for ways to deal with them with EFT, and I can feel the difference it makes every time.
And I'm not the only one who'd noticed changes. J says I'm doing better than I ever have since he met me more than seven year ago, and if anyone is in a position to gauge my behavioral changes, it's him. Personally, I know that I feel more in control, more calm and much, much happier than I have for as long as I can remember. Do I feel the way a "normal" person does? I don't know. But I do know that the changes I've made in only a month's time, with the help of EFT, feel nothing less than miraculous. I'm looking forward to finding a house for myself and moving out of the house we've shared for the last 5 years. I'm looking forward to seeing what life has to offer, instead of desperately looking for a relationship to validate myself.
For the first time, I really feel I'm making consistent, significant progress at dealing with my problems, instead of two steps forward, one step back, fighting every step of the way. I can't thank Gary enough for making this information available to everyone, and I only hope my story can help someone else struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder, or anyone with out of control behavioral problems.
Teresa Knezek
Followup
Gary-
I still sometimes get emails regarding the first article I wrote about using EFT on my apparent Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms, so I wanted to write a follow-up article answering a lot of the questions I've gotten.
Hope you can use it for the newsletter and website!
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It's hard to believe it's been almost exactly three years since I wrote my EFT article on Borderline Personality Disorder ... when I spoke to Gary on the phone in July 2005, and he asked me to rate my progress on a scale of 1 to 10 (using my "old" behavior as a 10), I said 5. I wasn't really sure, but I knew I wasn't all better yet.
Now I know I should have said something closer to 7 or 8, because as amazingly as I had improved in only a month of using EFT, I truly feel my Borderline tendencies are at a zero today. Re-reading my original article today, it feels like I'm reading about a different person. Although I do remember the behaviors I wrote about then, there is no emotional connection for me when I read them ... I honestly cannot feel even a shadow of the emotional hell I used to live through constantly.
Now that I revisit that article, I realize I wrote it so early in my EFT experience that I hadn't yet used the technique that brought me to an apparently full recovery today. I often thought about doing a follow-up, but I was always a little afraid I'd relapse, and my advice would just give people false hope.
I haven't experienced a "Borderline rage," or felt the indescribable panic and despair I used to feel on a regular basis, in well over a year and a half, despite a number of emotionally trying experiences in the meantime: an accidental pregnancy, abortion, arguments with my current partner, having my emotionally troubled younger sister move in with me, even being rejected by a man I'd been infatuated with for years - after I finally worked up the nerve to 'make a move' (other BPD sufferers will understand why I was so proud of myself for not completely losing it after that!). These are all things that would have reduced me to an hysterical wreck three years ago.
So, now that I'm really confident I have honestly and permanently dealt with my BPD issues, I'd like to share exactly what EFT routine seemed to help me in the most long-term and meaningful way.
Back in 2005, I'd read the emofree.com series on the Personal Peace Procedure. On some level, I knew that would be a huge help to me, but it seemed like I was always in the middle of such a huge emotional crisis I just couldn't face the idea of dealing with things on such a far-reaching level. The very idea of writing down *every* "bothersome specific event" I could remember was way too much to think about, so for a number of months I just worked on using EFT to control my violent temper and hysterical mood swings (1).
Then one night, when I was in a fairly calm mood, I decided to start dealing with my hurtful childhood memories without the specific rules given for the Personal Peace Procedure. I started tapping on the early memories that still had the emotional power to enrage me or make me cry. Starting with the one that bothered me the most, I tapped on them one at a time, and they started to disappear.
Some incidents (even among the most painful memories) only took a couple of rounds of tapping to lose their power over me. I could deal with more than one in a single bedtime session on a good day. Some took 20 minutes or more of tapping (using the modified "Choices Method" I talked about in my first article). Some stubborn ones took a few 10 to 20 minute sessions over the course of a few days, but I didn't move on to a new memory until the last one was gone. And in an amazingly short time (considering many of these memories had been hurting me for over 20 years), all of these old emotional injuries started to disappear.
As the biggest, most painful ones were dealt with, other secondary memories started to come to the forefront. Just like the Personal Peace Procedure describes, after you take down the biggest "redwoods" in your emotional forest, you can start dealing with the smaller trees ... and in many cases, I found the bigger issues "knocked down" a lot of smaller ones at the same time, without having to tap on each memory individually.
I think the key factor for me was this: With the level of emotional fragility that comes with BPD, or similar problems, sitting down and writing out a comprehensive inventory of painful memories is far too frightening a task to even attempt. You'd be overwhelmed with feelings you couldn't begin to deal with. Instead, I just let my memories guide me (one of the only times going along with my feelings was a *good* thing back then), dealing with only one at a time, as they pushed themselves to the front of my attention.
I regret now that I didn't keep a detailed weekly journal of all of my EFT work, but the improvements with each session were definite and significant enough to keep me optimistic and determined. Within a year, I found myself able to deal with situations that used to unavoidably send me over the edge. And, as I mentioned at the beginning of this article, I haven't felt anything even close to that old rage - terror - desperation feeling I used to get (multiple times a week during my worst years).
I can't thank Gary enough for bringing this self-therapy technique to the public, and making the basic instructions available to anyone who needs it, without charge. Thanks to EFT, and only a year of personal persistence (which is nothing, compared to the decades of misery I'd lived with before that), my friends today tell me I'm one of the happiest, easiest to get along with people they know. For anyone who's lived with Borderline Personality Disorder, or cared about someone who suffered from it, you'll understand all too well how truly miraculous that really is.
I am not exaggerating at all to say that EFT has completely changed my life, and helped me become the person I always really wished I was.
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(1) For people just starting out using EFT with BPD issues, here's what worked best for me when I tried calming a rage after it had already started: I let the other person leave the room (If you can do that, you're halfway there! ), and then I started the basic tapping routine while I told myself all the things I was thinking in the moment. Even if I knew they were irrational, or felt stupid or mean saying them out loud. I remember one fight with J: After he left I started tapping on a list of phrases like,
Even though he doesn't understand me…
Even though he doesn't care about me at all…
Even though he hates me…(maybe with some swear words thrown in ;-) and so on.
It didn't matter what was going through my head, or whether made any sense at all ... tapping on exactly what I was thinking and feeling *at that moment* was the only thing that could help. I didn't end up happy and serene afterward, but I did calm down enough to walk into the house and not jump back into the argument, which was a HUGE accomplishment.
Teresa
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